Parents essentially stimulate their children's selfishness through fear and lack of money and wealth. When I was young, especially children who grew up in the countryside, were they more willing to work all their lives than their friends in the city? Understand the internet trend, realize the dream income of starting a business, break through 6 figures, 17, 2-3, stop production, 6-2 weeks, and start making money immediately. The child has suffered a lot and is now a parent. I hope that I can often bring some changes to my children through my own efforts. So the way to treat children is to meet all their needs as much as possible. I gave everything to let my children enjoy the best life, but after several years, I found that my children did not develop as expected. We can see many retired old people. I scrimped all my life and overdrawn my pension in my later years. On the one hand, in order to let his son raise grandchildren, he is returning unprincipled. Maybe it's to go to the best kindergarten and middle school in the area, or you can get a loan. No matter how expensive things children like, they have to buy them.

A friend took his child on an exclusive trip. When he checked out, his friend put all the free things in the room in his bag, and the child said angrily to him. "Behavior like you is really speechless, and my classmates find that I can't lift my head. Why do you want to take these hotel things? " Friends don't understand that what the hotel provides for free is for us. Why does taking it away make children unhappy and uncomfortable? Is it wrong for children to "take advantage" like this? Another friend has similar confusion. Every time he eats, he has the habit of packing leftovers. Whenever there are children, embarrassing things always happen. Kids always say that. "Why packaging, shame, so many people look at it without shame!" "On one occasion, the father bent down and told the child that he must form a good habit of saving. We paid for all the food we ordered. Shall we pack, son? We should not be extravagant. In addition, you should not care too much about other people's comments.

I think these two friends are using actions to educate their children to save money. But why are some children's education ineffective? This may be related to children's lack of family education in other aspects and the adjutant and identity view in current society. Many of our families don't let their children do housework now, but only let them study. Learning is everything in children's world. In this kind of family education, it is difficult for children to feel the hardship of life and make money. In addition, they lack a sense of responsibility for their families and spend money lavishly. Therefore, when parents "save" like that, they will not be shocked, but will feel untrustworthy. We all know an old saying: "It is better to teach people to fish than to teach them to fish." It wouldn't be difficult to understand its meaning. Then why not give the child a try? It is better to teach people how to impart knowledge.

Parents should give their children real growth. When children encounter difficulties, parents do not solve them immediately, but educate their children how to solve them in their own way, teach them to cherish gifts and wealth, and guide them to rely on diligence and hard work. This is the best gift for children. Have these parents experienced similar things in their lives? How to treat children who are difficult to get along with, and how difficult it is to see and understand how difficult it is for parents to come over as adults? How to know the taste of hard work? Currently experiencing the phenomenon of "rich second generation". "No matter how poor you are, you can't educate the poor, and no matter how bitter you are, you can't bully your children." Many parents make every effort to give their children everything to enjoy the best living conditions. In a good school, children can't compare with personal experience. Feeling the hardships of adults and life, parents nowadays always think about the best conditions.

What is given to children may hurt them to some extent. Children should feel the growth in childhood, and don't be disturbed too much by external things. Childhood should not be material charging, nor should it be the number of interest classes. But this is the joy of children. Real growth experiences let children know that life is not easy, cherish hard-won wealth, and know everything they can get through hard work and hard work. It is unfair for parents not to arrange for their children, but it is also unfair for children to fully experience and make their own choices, so that children feel inferior and depressed, and pay more attention to class reports. Every child is a unique monologue of many children's hearts. You can't cry in front of children every day, you can't buy things, or you cry too many people's complaints. This will definitely instill inferiority or a desire for money in children's psychology. Will not waver in the later life.

Respect between people is mutual. Respect other people's children, he (she) must get more than him (her). Once I went to the mall, a mother yelled at her child and said that her mother couldn't feed and clothe you, which made me so disappointed. I understood the implication that the child's study was not approved by his mother. Obedient child, what guarantee do we make? Our words must be correct. But rebellious children will still act in their own way and will not make any changes. Because of this, I feel that my mother is incompetent and looks down on my mother, and the parent-child relationship will become embarrassing. The image of the mother in the child's mind will be greatly reduced. Educational failure usually begins with the decline or challenge of mother's authority. The most important thing in family education is to advocate children's experiences, change their ideas, cultivate a sound personality, and let children know from an early age that they should pay first and choose to give up first.