1, know yourself correctly
As the saying goes, "gold is not enough, and no one is perfect." Everyone has his own weaknesses and strengths. We should praise children's advantages and accept their shortcomings frankly, so that children can correctly compare with others in the future and see their own advantages or disadvantages while seeing their own shortcomings. In view of children's shortcomings, we can make positive compensation in the following two ways: First, we can make up for them through diligence. If their potential is not brought into full play, they should make greater efforts to overcome their shortcomings with tenacious perseverance and determination; The second is to foster strengths and avoid weaknesses. Give up those aspects that make you feel inferior, but it is still difficult to make great progress through your own efforts, and make up for them through other achievements. For example, children with low self-esteem can tell their children that their temperament is both internal and external by improving their inner beauty; Children with poor family conditions can be compensated through family warmth and harmony.
2. Positive suggestion method
Inferiority itself is a negative suggestion. Learning to give positive psychological hints can help children face life more optimistically and make themselves more confident.
(1) language hint. Language suggestion refers to the process that the implied person stimulates himself by relying on his own thoughts and language, thus affecting his cognition, emotion, will or behavior. Parents can turn negative hints into positive ones, such as "don't be nervous" for "calm, calm and relax", "go all out, you will do well" for not wanting to win or lose, and the result for "do your best" and so on.
② Motion suggestion. Those who are hit and rejected are dragging their feet and have no self-confidence. Another kind of person shows extraordinary self-confidence, walks faster than the average person and likes running. Their pace tells the world: "I want to go to an important place and do very important things." More importantly, I will succeed in 15 minutes. So please try to use this "fast walking skill" and walk faster with your head held high, and you will feel your self-confidence growing.
③ Environmental suggestion. Most people who occupy the back seat hope that they will not be "too conspicuous", and the reason for being afraid of being noticed is lack of self-confidence. So try to change the location of the classroom and sit as far away as possible. Sitting in the front will be more conspicuous, thus building self-confidence, because everything successful is conspicuous.
3. Accumulate successful experience
Inferiority is often caused by setbacks in the process of expressing oneself and doubts about one's ability. If the child has no ability, don't force him to do it at once, but first look for the child's bright spot, start from the place where the child is good at, do something within his power, first seize the bigger things, satisfy and guide the child's desire to express, and pay attention to the child's successful experience every time. The more successful experiences, the stronger the child's self-confidence. After you have mastered simple things, you can do more complicated things to achieve your goal step by step. Parents should give timely encouragement to their children's little progress and gradually build their self-confidence.
4. Overcome the fear of failure
Many children with low self-esteem are afraid of failure and a series of bad results brought by failure. Parents can encourage their children to evaluate their fears. In order to concentrate on positive thinking and overcome their fears, you must first understand it. What's the worst that can happen? Write down what it means if you fail, and watching your child's answer will make things more specific. "What's the point if the end of the world comes?" "Will my home be ruined?" "Will I lose my reputation?" "Will failure make all these negative things happen one by one?" "Will I be worthless if I fail?" Wait a minute. Then replace the negative thoughts brought by fear with positive thoughts. For example: "I may fail, but through repeated failures, you are getting closer and closer to success" and so on.
5. Participate in activities.
Encourage children to participate in various practical activities. In the process of participating in activities, it is difficult to close yourself up. When encountering difficulties and setbacks, distract attention through activities, so that psychological pressure will be gradually reduced, and negative emotions will not gradually accumulate, leading to psychological collapse. Therefore, parents can encourage students to actively participate in group activities, expand the scope of activities, get rid of the current situation of self-isolation, improve bad emotions, form a cheerful and optimistic personality, improve their adaptability and interpersonal skills, and enhance their self-confidence.