Before introducing the content, let's divide it into three paragraphs to explain.
1, the confusion of love and being loved
2. Confusion between passion and love
3. Confusion between sex and love
Many times, we love for love's sake. That is to be loved.
Parents' love is mostly loved, so many times we forget to return it. So in the education from small to large, we will be taught that parents' love is selfless and parents are great. There are also many songs praising parents. Multiple versions of father and mother. However, these are limited to family relationships. In this world, apart from affection, there are friendship and love, but the latter two are not selfless and need to pay for each other. This is the emotional intelligence mentioned.
Perhaps it is to cater to the public's taste, or more practically, what Professor Chen Guo mentioned is mainly love. When a girl likes a boy and they have already started dating, there will be some problems in her heart. She summed it up in class as follows:
When Professor Chen Guo answered these three questions in a low voice, the audience burst into laughter. Professor Chen Guo paused and saw that everyone straightened up and went on teaching.
She said, actually, what time is it? Make yourself sexier, more beautiful, more beautiful. Buy cosmetics, go to the gym, learn to dance, learn to sing to attract the opposite sex, study other people's dress styles, and so on. This coincidence is the author's opinion. But to see these external things, I think it is more practical to watch Korean dramas.
Then, more importantly, enrich your spiritual world. Cultivate the spirit of how to make your speech elegant, helpful, modest, confident and optimistic. This requires everyone to spend time reading some books on self-cultivation. Professional books are reference books, and emotional intelligence books are necessary reading materials for you to speak.
Speaking of which, some people appeared in my mind. I'm Art Candidates, and there are many people studying acting in my school, so I thought of these people. They are beautifully dressed and exquisitely made up, which is really enviable. As for reading, I don't know. In short, they have read enough scripts.
In this way, I almost missed Professor Chen Guo's witty turn.
Then, ask the students:
Are you confident when you need others' approval?
In the professor's opinion, this kind of performance is not confident enough, but at the same time it is a respect for others. Therefore, this is still a part that everyone needs to consider. However, philosophically speaking, you want love because of love. In other words, if you know how to give, you will get something. As mentioned before, any love is not unrequited love except affection. It is because you have learned to give that you have the ability to love.
Of course, in addition, you should learn to share happiness. When you learn to give, you will have happiness. If you share this happiness, you will be happier. This is the power of love.
However, it does not rule out that the Chinese education of the one-child family and China family has caused the incompetence of children. Only take, not know how to give. This kind of "incompetent person" has an empty inner world, and they often can't bear loneliness. Many handsome guys change girlfriends in college, one after another. Many people may be envious, but this is not normal. It is precisely because their inner world is empty that they need to find playmates and companionship, and they can't stand loneliness.
From this perspective, the spiritual aspects such as speech and manners mentioned by Professor Chen Guo are more important. From now on, if you want to be loved, try to be a "woman with a fragrant soul"!
Professor Chen Guo gave an example of the Olympic torch relay.
Of course, this example is really inappropriate, as Professor Chen Guo himself said.
Passion is visible, but after burning, it will soon go out. Love is not. Love is a gradual feeling. Maybe many people like to try the feeling of "love at first sight", but does this feeling exist? This encounter exists, but it doesn't exist if it doesn't meet.
Love is more often a process from quantitative change to qualitative change, and love from external to internal is a gradual process. If it is pure passion, it is more likely to be a one-night stand. Love is a kind of "I don't know what it is, but it is deep." Nature is a continuous state, not a temporary feeling.
Nowadays, network culture is full of everyone's life and influenced by material culture. The yearning for material things and the criteria for choosing a spouse have also changed.
But love can make people enjoy love after great pressure.
Perhaps, because of this, we can find our hobbies, do what we like, devote ourselves to what we like and shift the focus of life, which is a way to relieve the pressure of life besides love.
If you don't have love now, you might as well do what you like. If you have someone you like, you can also do something you like with someone you like.
However, love is good and bad.
Good love can make people positive, full of confidence in life and form an optimistic and cheerful personality. It will also make you more sympathetic to the weak.
Bad love may sometimes bring disaster to the country and people, and sometimes make people lose their morale and feel depressed. Arouse your inner narrowness and make you a frog in the well, with only one sky in your eyes. In this case, you'd better find someone to talk to, ease your emotions and let yourself recover as soon as possible.
The above is the general content of the lecture. Encouraging each other is not entirely the content of the lecture, which increases personal understanding. If it is different from the video, you can leave a message to contact the author.