Children's spiritual shadow under the education of sticks
In these cases, parents really hate their teeth, and a beating is inevitable. Parents will feel distressed when they see their children's wronged eyes, but they won't remember for long if they don't hit their children. Parents are even more helpless whether to hit their children or not.
Today, we will talk about what children will think when they are beaten. It may not be easy for parents to know this.
1, self-blaming child
Self-blaming child
As the ancients said, to err is human. What's more, children, who are playful and rebellious at one time, cannot satisfy their parents. Children are too young to distinguish right from wrong. They made mistakes without knowing the result, which caused their parents to beat them up. Children may be confused. What did they do wrong? Why did mom hit me? Does mom not love me when she hits me? Will they not want me because I am not good? All kinds of heartfelt questions will make children blame themselves and worry about being left out by their parents.
How much anxiety will parents bring to their children when they are angry and impulsive. Therefore, when a child makes a mistake, it may be more effective than simply beating and cursing to patiently explain the reasons for the mistake and let the child fundamentally understand what is right and wrong.
2. Children who hold grudges
A child with a grudge
Children who are in a rebellious period are more likely to bear grudges when they are beaten. They hate their parents for starting work without saying a word, and even if they are wronged again, they will shrink back because of a beating. The grievances and unwillingness in your heart have been suppressed by sticks, and all you can get is your resentment and hatred in the rebellious period. It is useless for parents to make up for their children after being beaten. A beating will break up the intimate relationship established before, and children will forget the efforts of adults. Their minds are full of pictures of themselves being beaten, and they will be more opposed to their parents in the future.
Parents should find out their children's temper, especially in the rebellious period. Children at this stage are sensitive and not suitable for excessive behavior. They make mistakes. It is better to find a way to solve them according to their personality than to beat them simply and rudely. Parents should communicate with their children and listen to their voices. They should not be parents who are violent but not disciplined.
3. Timid children
A timid child
Some children are born timid, and such children are even less suitable for beating and cursing. Parents' abuse will scare children and make them tremble and fear. They will be afraid to get along with you in the future and subconsciously protect themselves with a sense of rejection.
Therefore, just hitting children can't solve practical problems, but it will make children have all kinds of psychological conflicts and fears. How to teach and guide children to truly distinguish right from wrong is worthy of parents' consideration and change. Parents should fully consider from their own point of view and children's point of view, and be a gentle parent who is good at talking but not good at hands.
Our purpose is only to correct children's mistakes and shortcomings and urge them to become better. Since the ultimate goal is the same, why do we have to hit people? Parents will also be worried about changing the means of education, and their children will not have fear and resistance to you. More patience and love to educate our favorite children.