My mother often gives me advice backstage: write more parenting articles.

In fact, my initial orientation was mainly to write articles on parenting. But now there are fewer and fewer articles about parenting. It's not that I'm lazy, it's that children nowadays really save trouble. I don't need to worry too much, and there are not many topics to write about.

There used to be a saying that you only need to bring your child to the age of seven, and then you don't have to worry about him going bad.

This statement may be absolute, but before the age of seven, it is indeed the best time for children to develop various habits. During this period, parents need to pay a lot of energy and patience.

Some people often lament how other people's children are so easy to coax. Is it really natural for parents to bring their own learning attributes without paying too much attention?

When we study physics, there is a "law of conservation of energy". I have always believed that if people want something and want to achieve something, there is also a "law of conservation of effort". No matter what you do, no matter how smart you are, you always have to make enough efforts.

But just like the famous "10,000-hour law", you will succeed if you pay 10,000 hours? Not necessarily. Success may take ten thousand hours to accumulate, but it doesn't take ten thousand hours to succeed.

Many times, doing the right thing at the right time will often get twice the result with half the effort.

It is much easier for children to form some good habits when they are young than to correct them when they grow up.

Let's talk about the development of children's reading habits today.

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Song, a teacher in Taiwan Province Province, wrote a book entitled "Children who love reading won't go bad", saying: "What education can't do, give it to reading".

I have always believed in the magic of reading, and I also think that reading is a very enjoyable thing.

However, children may not see it this way, because for them, the pleasure brought by reading is not intuitive enough, far less exciting than cartoons and mobile games.

So many parents have a headache and their children don't like reading.

But isn't a newborn child just a blank sheet of paper? What color you wear, he is a picture.

Since Xiaoming was a few months old, I have been reading books with my parents every night before going to bed, and I have never stopped.

Now, he has formed the habit of reading books every day, and it will be uncomfortable if he doesn't read books for a day. Every night, when I talk about burning lips and tongue, he still can't get enough. After turning off the lights, he continued to listen on his mobile phone for half an hour.

In addition to patiently reading to him and telling stories, the reading atmosphere at home will also affect children's reading habits.

If parents are around the mahjong table every day, don't expect children to calm down and study hard.

I didn't buy a TV when my home was decorated last year. I made a big bookcase in the TV wall of the living room. The ground floor is full of children's books.

Although I am very stingy, I am never soft in buying books for my children.

Astronomy, geography, ancient and modern, Chinese and foreign, safety, financial management, human body and health ... are all included. He may not understand some things now, and he may not be interested. The main reason is that he can read whenever he wants.

Perhaps in the boring gap, he can open a book at will and feel a pleasant reading experience.

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A writing friend collected a topic last week: What will it be like to stick to one thing for three years?

I thought about it and left a message saying: For more than five years, I insisted on reading and telling stories to my children every night, and I gained a knowledgeable child.

Yes, I didn't think reading brought him any benefits a few years ago, but after more than five years, the benefits of reading gradually emerged. Now he has a rich knowledge, a large vocabulary and very accurate words:

"Mom, if the brakes don't work, are we just resigned?"

"We met XX in the street that day."

"It's just a piece of cake."

"(When playing chess) I set a tight encirclement, and my opponent's corner will be named white."

......

There are many idioms that he can't fully understand, but he can blurt them out in the right place and rarely make mistakes. I think this is also due to the text sensitivity brought by reading.

"If you read a book a hundred times, you will understand its meaning." If you listen more, you can integrate the meaning before and after, and naturally you can use it flexibly.

Now, he has read more and more books and started to read some long serials. Short stories can't satisfy him.

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Besides rich literary vocabulary and a lot of popular science knowledge, Xiaoming now knows more than I do, thanks to "100,000 Why" he listened to on his mobile phone.

Chatting at ordinary times, he always tells me:

What are the characteristics of various dinosaurs?

What is an oar;

How the clouds in the sky are formed;

Why zebras grow stripes;

The impact of asteroids on the earth may lead to the extinction of mankind;

The earth is round, but people will not fall down when they turn down, because the earth is attractive.

......

When he is talking about this, even if I know something, I will pretend to be novel, encourage him to go on and satisfy his desire to express.

What surprises me most is that I don't know whether it is strong learning ability or sensitivity to knowledge points. He can also learn something when watching cartoons.

I don't know many idioms and have little knowledge. I didn't know he had learned until I asked him.

In fact, like other children, he likes watching cartoons, but he doesn't rely on or indulge. He always sets a time for him, 20 minutes or half an hour, an episode or two, and then turns off his phone after watching it.

I think he is willing to turn off the TV voluntarily, largely because his pleasure experience is not so simple. Besides watching TV, he also likes reading and listening to books.

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As Xiaoming knows more and more words, parent-child reading may not last long, but the reading time before going to bed every night in recent years will be the best memory of our life.

Reading is a lifelong practice. Through reading, children can introspect, cultivate clear logical thinking ability, make his heart peaceful, make him understand and broaden his horizons. It is a kind of cultivation of comprehensive ability.

Xiao Ming is still young, I dare not say that reading will have any influence on his future grades, but at least this good habit will enable him to get along with himself peacefully in the face of loneliness in his future life.

As well as the dead ends and shortcomings in our institutional education, I believe that reading will infiltrate like a quiet thing, making his personality more sound and his life more fulfilling.

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