I'm glad to answer your question. To educate children, I think it is necessary to speak some truth properly. The key is to look at the way and timing of reasoning.
Be reasonable, but moderate.
Many times, we can ask the child what will happen if he does something wrong, and push forward from the direction of the result, telling him that not doing so may lead to bad results. Be reasonable to children;
Respect children's nature, understand and encourage more.
Everyone has their own different views on things. You can try to let the children do it themselves first. If you do something wrong, as long as it's not something that hurts others or violates the law and discipline, we can reason with our children and make them empathetic. If others do this, it will bring you trouble. what do you think?
It is important for parents to set an example.
When we ask our children not to watch mobile phones for too long, we can tell them that mom and dad have important work to deal with when using mobile phones, instead of playing games and watching movies. Don't always reason with children, because the mobile phone is not good. If he needs to play it, he can play it at the appointed time. As parents, we should let our children have rules and abide by them, respect their personal needs, and set a good example. Children are parents' mirrors. I hope my answer can help you!
I'm glad to answer this question. I hope my answer will give you some help. We are both parents and have children of our own. In the process of interacting with children, we will all encounter the same problem. Children will encounter mistakes of one kind or another in life. How should our parents treat their mistakes? Be reasonable or angry? Adults should be rational when they encounter problems. Parents reason with their children and actively guide them to develop in a good way. Let children think about problems from multiple angles, analyze problems, and truly realize their own shortcomings.
When a child makes a mistake, he should reason with the child to correct the mistake, but there are many opportunities to reason with the child in life except when the child makes a mistake. For example, in an ambiguous relationship with other children and parents, parents can take this as an example, let the children comment on each other's children's practices, and then let the children talk about how to deal with this situation themselves. If we can look at the problem objectively, the evaluation will be relatively fair. At this time, children can also feel the respect of their parents. Parents take the opportunity to reason with their children, and children will accept it more easily.
When parents reason with their children, the most important thing is to let them accept their own views, rather than getting tired of their parents' preaching. I believe that reasoning with children will get twice the result with half the effort.
I think it makes sense to see the daily life of my relatives and friends with their children. Children will listen more or less, and they will say something, such as not wasting water. Children over three years old also know to turn down the water when washing their hands, which is due to the usual teaching of adults.
Therefore, I think adults should properly tell their children some truth. Over time, children may understand something. Just as we learn more Chinese characters and know the meaning of words, we can read articles slowly and even start writing compositions.
Reasoning is a must! This is true for anyone and everything!
For children, especially young children, sometimes it is meaningless. You have to make rules for him! Playing by the rules is easier than preaching!
It is very important for his future growth to cultivate a sense of rules!
If we can get rid of the paternalistic education model, it may be better to educate our children. First, parents should set an example of positive energy in their children's minds. If they can communicate with their friends, gain their trust and self-confidence, and give full play to the advantages of coordination and interaction with the help and support of schools and society, they can get an opportunity between home and school, the cooperation of all parties and the integration of families, and they can achieve results at home and abroad. Children's growth is inseparable from their parents' words and deeds.
Reasoning with children, putting facts and reasoning with others.
Of course, don't think that children don't know anything. In fact, children know everything. We adults often unconsciously impose our consciousness on our children, help them decide something arbitrarily, or simply think that children don't know anything and simply "talk" and ignore their thoughts.
In fact, this is all wrong ideas! Children, no matter how young, are reasonable. We should respect their consciousness, reason with them patiently and cultivate their independent personality.
Parents are the children's first teachers, which are very important to the development of children's life. The correct method of educating children is the key. Many parents complain that the teachers at school are becoming more and more indifferent. Parents send their children to school in the hope that they can study hard, not only to learn rich knowledge, but also to learn how to be an excellent person. But have parents ever thought about it? Nowadays, children are the pride in their hearts. How dare the school teacher manage? So first of all, parents should set an example, and your own children should be educated first.
Parents should set an example and set an example in their children's education. Many parents also know that their children's education can not be separated from their parents, so they accompany their children when they study, and there is such a scene: children are writing homework at their desks and parents are playing mobile phones. The child looked around and said that he wanted to watch TV, and the parents in turn criticized the child for not being serious. Let's put ourselves in others' shoes. If you are studying and others are playing with your mobile phone, how will you feel? What's more, an adult should have better self-control than a child. Since it is companionship, it should be efficient. When children study, parents should also take out a book to read, so that students know that I am studying as a parent. Why don't you work hard?
You can reason with your child, just pay attention to the method of reasoning.
1. Empathy opens a window of communication.
It is natural for children to reason with them, which may not be in line with the truth of us adults. Don't criticize right and wrong, you need to use empathy to understand why children do this. Only through empathy can children feel that you undersTAnd the meaning of TA, and ta will open the window of communication.
For example, the weather is hot and the baby cries. Mother knew that the baby was crying just now because it was very hot, so it was very uncomfortable. Mom feels the same way. She was sweaty, sticky and as hot as a stove.
2. Reasoning in children's language.
In the same way, there are 10 thousand kinds of sayings. It can be said that it is very philosophical, literary, funny and emotional. But for children, it is most important to speak in line with their language, and to describe the truth with things that TA can understand.
For example, does the baby remember that there was a lot of noise every day when the room next door was being renovated? Is the baby unhappy to hear the sound? Yes, mom is not happy when she hears the sound. Now the baby wants to. If the baby cries loudly, will people around him be unhappy to hear it?
3. Give the next step.
This is also very important. There is only one truth, so we must put it into action. Otherwise, children will do the same thing again without knowing the specific application.
For example, if the baby is hot and doesn't need to cry, you can tell mom first, and we'll find a way together, okay? Mom found a fan, and now I'll give you a fan. Is it better? In the future, the baby will tell his mother first what he feels like crying, and try to solve it with his mother, right? It's no use crying.
Therefore, reasoning with children must be patient and step by step. Without any step, this truth will not succeed.
Of course, children will not accept it after listening to it once. Generally speaking, the same truth should be told 3-4 times, and it will gradually have an effect.