? Yesterday, I read an article written by Sister Shu Ya. She quoted some words from teacher Zhang Lijun's article. Teacher Zhang divides children into several categories, and the last category is faded children. Teacher Zhang wrote, in my opinion, a depressed child is more terrible than a naughty child! The wilting child is passive and depressed, and nothing can interest him. Blood boiling, longing, peak experience, these words are not for him. He hardly gets excited or cheers. Such a child lacks vitality and passion, and the door to his "high life" is still locked. Of course, we can't say that such children are due to the lack of family education, but some of their performances are indeed caused by family factors.
? This year, the new class of sixth-grade children I took is the class with the worst learning attitude since I taught. The main reason is that these children are not motivated, have no sense of competition, and think they are learning well. As children in the sixth grade, I don't think they have understood the purpose of coming to school. Never study actively. If the teacher doesn't come into the classroom until the bell rings for some reason. What you see is by no means that children pick up textbooks and start learning independently, but that the desks are clean, the classroom is noisy like a frying pan, and some students are running around in the classroom. When you really find the most naughty one to criticize and educate them, you can take a good look at their expressions and look indifferent. I even turned my back and grinned at my classmates again. They don't think it is a shameful thing to criticize the teacher. Look at them and think about what we did wrong at school, even if the teacher said a few words gently, we would be ashamed. If parents know, they will also face a severe criticism from their parents. And what about parents now? More than once, teachers criticized children and parents went to school to make trouble. You haven't finished your children's homework, and you still stay in the classroom with them after school. Some parents will make irresponsible remarks and say, "What should I do if I don't let my children go home for dinner at noon?" Even said a few ugly words. Once the school held an activity and left a class of students at school to rehearse, which was delayed for a few minutes. In fact, they are still senior children. Some parents who came to pick up the children stood by and finally ended up in a hurry and let the children go home. After that, no matter what kind of activities the school organizes, it will not delay the children from school for one minute. In the past, if children participated in school activities, parents would strongly support them. Sometimes they need to come to school for rehearsal on Sunday, and their parents will personally send them to school and accompany them at school. Nowadays, education is really different.
? For example, a considerable number of rural children now go to cities to attend middle schools after graduating from primary school. This is a trend that none of us can stop. Therefore, as teachers, we often tell our children that the schools in the city admit our rural children because of your achievements. Without grades, it is difficult to get into the middle schools in the market. No matter how we guide our children at school, we must work hard to get into a better middle school. What we know is that parents are also actively leading their children to register in schools in the city, but they should do it through their own efforts instead of educating them. Some parents tell their children in advance that they can't pass the exam and ask people to find a relationship. Or let the children know about it early by asking someone to find a relationship. What this behavior instills in children is that it doesn't matter whether I do well in the exam. Anyway, my parents know someone. As long as they spend money, I can go to school. So, as far as I know, our class reported the children in the city middle school. No matter how you tell them the importance of learning and the importance of grades in class, don't let parents ask others for these things, or even spend money. As long as we get good grades, we can save the money. Middle school teachers will also attach great importance to our children who are officially admitted. But you said that your children are still going their own way, even worse than last semester's learning attitude.
? As a parent, I feel very sad to see their performance like this. What I reflect on from them is the education of children. What is the purpose of raising children? We in China pay attention to raising children for old age. If children don't have the ability to survive, they can't make life happy through their own efforts. Where did he get the energy and ability to feed us who are already old? Today's children, because of our spoil, don't know how to be grateful, can't see our hard work, and can't see our efforts. How can a child who is ungrateful and irresponsible take care of you?
? Educating children is really a science, but now it is not only the responsibility of the school, but also the responsibility of the family. The quality of family education directly determines the future of children. When I am with my colleagues, I always discuss a problem, that is, "it is difficult to have a son in a cold door." For those of us who are educated in rural areas, we feel the deepest. What permeates the education of rural parents to their children is the theory of learning uselessness. Because they are still working for others after being admitted to the university, some people even say that some college students earn less money than uneducated people. At the parent-teacher meeting, I told parents more than once not to instill such thoughts in their children. It is true that I am still working after graduating from college, but I am also working, but the nature is really different. Don't always say whose children didn't graduate from middle school, so how much money did they make as bosses? These are special cases. Can our children really grow up like him? The answer is no, when we don't know exactly where children have special abilities, learning is the best way out for children. But every parent-teacher meeting feels like a failure. After half an hour or even 20 minutes, some parents began to get impatient. As soon as the parent-teacher conference was over, it was really a hubbub. None of the parents stayed to talk to the teacher and learn about their children's performance at school. Some parents have been teaching their children for two years, but I have never met him. As a teacher, I am most frustrated and feel that I am the most failed at this time. From the performance of parents, it is not difficult to see why children are listless in class and why they have no intention to study. Children are like a blank sheet of paper, which needs to be smeared by their parents' first teacher. What to put on depends on how high the parents' consciousness is. The child is what you describe. So sometimes don't complain why your children have such shortcomings, such shortcomings. We should look at ourselves, what kind of guidance we have given our children and what kind of example we have set for him.
? As a parent, I know that I have many shortcomings in guiding my children, such as being unable to persevere, disorganized, unreasonable in planning and impatient ... but I will try my best to guide my children to the right path.
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