First of all, Confucius was too harsh on Kong Li's education. This story will be mentioned here. To put it simply, Kong Li walked slowly through the courtyard in front of his father according to etiquette, but was stopped by Confucius and asked whether to learn etiquette or poetry. When Kong Li answered "Not yet", Confucius criticized his son. It can be seen from this story that Confucius was very strict with his son. Even after Kong Li learned about "Li" and "Chong Chao", he still didn't praise him, but put forward higher requirements. In modern pedagogy, there is a very important method called "appreciation education". Parents must always show their recognition for their children and let them gain motivation. But the hole does the opposite. Under his harsh education, even if Kong Li has any good signs, it will be suppressed. No wonder there will be no achievements in the future.

In the modern educational concept, there is a very important concept "neighbor's children". Parents always show envy for other people's children intentionally or unintentionally, and compare their children's shortcomings with others' advantages. The consequence of this is that children's rebellious mentality is getting stronger and stronger, and even they lose interest in learning. Let's look at Old Master Q Q, who appreciates Yan Hui very much, so he is always "virtuous". I wonder if he thought about his son's feelings when he said this sentence.

Third, Confucius is selfless.

Confucius is a selfless man. He treats people objectively. Kong Li really lacked talents, and Confucius couldn't promote him out of selfishness. In the whole Analects of Confucius, Kong Li appears less frequently. In the relevant literature, there is almost no praise from Confucius for his son's studies. On the contrary, he often recommended his excellent disciples to the monarch. This unselfishness of Confucius also objectively deprived Kong Li of the opportunity to get ahead.

It can be seen from Confucius' life that he was very frustrated politically and failed to realize his ambition. Besides, he doesn't have much economic base. Although tuition is charged, the real money is also sponsored by Zigong. His real resources are connections and popularity. As a son, Kong Li had to hide in the dark most of the time because of the etiquette when his father was alive, and his exposure was insufficient, which also caused his small reputation.

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Fifth, Kong Li died young.

Kong Li died at the age of 50. For a learned family, the age of 50 should be the time for knowledge to mature and bear fruit, but Kong Li died, losing both the opportunity to show his academic achievements and the opportunity to maintain his reputation. Naturally, his sense of existence in history is very low.