Parents are always very cautious about their children's lying behavior. Children's growth determines their future. Children's personality development has a lot to do with their parents. Education is a long process. After reading the child's lying behavior correctly, learn to enlighten the little angel at home!
Correctly treat children's lying behavior 1 Children's first "lying" is mostly unconscious, and children of different ages lie for different reasons.
1. In most cases, children lie to escape punishment.
For example, poor test scores, mischief and trouble, and fear of parents' punishment. Once this situation is discovered, it is necessary to clarify the stakes and resolutely stop it. Once the goal is achieved, bad behavior may be strengthened.
Some children are imitating adults.
Children sometimes see their parents, adults around them, or lying on TV. They couldn't restrain their curiosity and followed suit. So parents must be cautious in front of their children.
3, or children just want to succeed.
Some children are imaginative, and when describing things, they often mix their imaginary scenes with characters to make them vivid and show off themselves. At this point, while correcting, we must affirm their ability and not stop it rudely, so as not to hurt the child's self-esteem.
Some of them are expressing confrontation.
Other children lie because their parents interfere too much. For example, when doing homework, children are told to drink water for a while and eat snacks for a while. The child was impatient and casually said "not thirsty, not hungry" as a sign of confrontation. In this case, it is necessary to start with improving the parent-child relationship, neither too much love nor too much connivance.
Of course, there are some children who want to realize their wishes. ...
Parents can do this:
Parents should patiently inspire their children to admit their mistakes after finding out the reasons for their lies, rather than simply reprimanding and scolding them. We should respect children's privacy, make friends with children, and create more communication opportunities so that children will not use "lies" to protect themselves.
1, listen more and communicate with your children.
When children lie in anticipation of negative consequences, parents should understand their children's needs and make more practical rules. If a child can do it and is willing to do it, he naturally doesn't have to lie. In addition, some children will lie to attract their parents' attention because they have little contact with their parents. In other words, parents should strengthen communication and interaction with their children on weekdays, learn more about their children's thoughts, and let their children feel the care and attention of their parents.
2. Help children distinguish between reality and imagination.
Not all children intentionally lie, especially young, imaginative and creative children are more likely to lie imaginatively. Parents should pay attention to telling their children what is happening in their daily lives and what they imagine, so that children can gradually distinguish between reality and imagination.
3. Don't "label" your child at will.
Children's lies are often not intended to hurt others on purpose. Parents should not easily equate their children's lying behavior with their children's quality. They should not characterize their children just because of a lie, and label them as "little liars", "liar experts" and "braggadocio". This will not only help children get rid of the problem of lying, but also strengthen their lying behavior, which may prompt them to lie harder in the future.
Parents should set a good example for their children.
Parents should set a good example in daily life while asking their children to be honest. Don't inadvertently make promises that you can't make in front of your children, or deceive people. Pay attention to honesty and trustworthiness in daily life and work. Commitments to children or others should be earnestly fulfilled, mistakes should be admitted in time and corrected seriously, so that children can learn good behavior from them.
Parents should treat their children with normality.
Parents should not blindly compare their children with other people's children and set too high demands on their children, which will not only lead to children lying, but also make them lose confidence. Parents should teach according to their children's actual situation, interests and characteristics. Parents should be happy and proud of their children as long as they can make progress every day and give full play to their advantages and specialties.
6, the correct use of disciplinary measures.
Let children realize that lies will always be seen through and that lying will only be punished more severely. Honesty is a virtue and a noble quality, and honesty will also reduce the punishment for negligence.
7. Pay attention to the child's first lie.
When a child tells a lie for the first time, parents should take it as a major event and never take it lightly. You know, if there is a first time, there will be a second time and a third time. Generally, children will feel uneasy when they lie for the first time, and even if they get away with it, they will be very worried. However, if this first lie is not corrected in time, the child can taste the sweetness brought by lying and he will have the desire to try lying again. Children will think that their parents are "gullible" and "gullible", and their courage will grow, and more and more lies will be told, more and more like them, and eventually they will lie.
Correctly treat children's lying behavior II. Children's lying refers to the behavior of children deliberately telling the truth without factual basis. Lying behavior is one of the most important manifestations of children's problem behavior. Therefore, we should give positive education and appropriate guidance.
1, create a good environment
Children come from different families and are influenced by different environments. Teachers should provide a good environment for children and try to let them know that lying is wrong. For example, through the story of "wolf coming", let children know the harm of lying and realize the dissatisfaction of people around them, so that children can have negative emotions about lying. You can also present a lying child image to your child through situational performances, discuss its performance and harm with your child, and let your child realize that such a child is unwelcome. More importantly, we must create a popular image of children for young children, enhance their desire to learn from examples, and thus reduce lying behavior.
2. Give an example.
Teachers are authoritative in children's minds, and their words and deeds may leave a deep impression on children and have a far-reaching impact. Sometimes, in order to make children quiet in activities, teachers will play tricks on children. Therefore, if teachers don't keep their promises, children will distrust teachers and lie. So teachers should pay attention to their words and deeds. For children who lie, we should set an example or teach them the correct methods directly.
3. Allow children to protect themselves.
Defense is a right. Sometimes, once the child is found to have done something wrong, we will indiscriminately reprimand him and not allow him to explain. This will not only convince children, but also cultivate a kind of resistance, laying a bad root for lying and shirking responsibility. Therefore, teachers must allow children to defend themselves, find out the reasons, let him know what the correct method is, and never force children with their own subjective standards.
4. Pay attention to family ties
Parents are the first teachers of the children. Family education has a subtle influence on children. Therefore, parents should be honest, don't tell lies, always communicate with kindergarten teachers, closely cooperate with teachers, and carry out coordinated education for children. If you don't communicate with each other and do something that offsets each other, it will not only get twice the result with half the effort, but also seriously affect the healthy growth of children.
In short, we should pay special attention to the performance of children who lie. If it is a "lie" to show their intellectual and talent development level and their sense of accomplishment, teachers should cherish, encourage and correctly guide them, and at the same time avoid letting them ignore reality and fall into illusory imagination for a long time; If it is a lie, teachers should intervene and correct it in time, master certain methods and strategies, and eradicate the soil where lies occur.