Family education is a supplement to school education.

Childhood is family education.

A little older is to cultivate the habit of education.

The bigger one is interest cultivation education.

A little bigger is health education.

The bigger one is moral education.

The biggest thing is self-improvement and self-reliance education.

Family is the first classroom for children to receive education, and it is also the earliest place to receive education. A few decades ago, a foreign education expert said: children who lack family education and children who don't go to school for education can't accomplish extremely detailed and complicated educational tasks. This fully shows the importance of family education in children's growth.

Parents are the first teachers of the children. Every move, word and deed of parents will directly affect the growth of children, and even affect their life. With a good family environment, children will feel happy and secure, and will be more confident, educated and mature than their peers.

Personally, the core of family education is that parents should set an example, set a good image and example for their children, create a warm and happy environment, let children feel their parents' love for their children, and let them grow up healthily and happily.

Since ancient times, our ancestors have attached great importance to family education, and the future and fate of each family, the rise and fall of honor and disgrace, depends entirely on family education. The ancients said that "building the country and governing the country should be taught first" and that the only way to solve all complicated problems in the world is teaching, and this teaching refers to family education. In the past, every family had its own ancestral tradition, which was passed down from generation to generation in the genealogy, or passed down by word of mouth, and there was no record, such as Yan's family instructions, Zhu Zi's family instructions and disciples' family rules, which were passed down from generation to generation.

However, modernity has been lost, and parents themselves have not received a good family education. So although they have children, they don't know how to educate them correctly, so that they are rebellious and difficult to discipline. When I grow up, I also have disadvantages as an adult, but not many people really have both ability and political integrity. In this way, education is often criticized. In fact, the first thing to reflect on is family education.

In the past, every family had its own family tradition, with innocence, loyalty and benevolence as the core, which was not superfluous. In these four simple aspects, the composition of family style can also be used as the core of today's family education for reference.

First, family rules are everyone's code of conduct. Disciples Rules is a collection of ancient and modern achievements, and it is really excellent in self-cultivation and self-cultivation. However, modern people think they are smart and don't need the wisdom of their ancestors to teach them. However, it is not in line with human nature and natural laws to educate children with those modern fast-food utilitarian methods, which stifle their nature. As a result, parents were troubled and children were involved. Of course, many children have recited Disciples Rules, but few of them are effective. Because most children are forced to recite, few parents set an example in their daily behavior. Reciting is useless, and it is difficult to form a code of conduct without knowing its meaning.

Second, the family way is that a family should have morality. To put it bluntly, the whole family accumulates virtue and does good deeds. "We must avoid all evils and pursue all good deeds." Parents should do their best to guide their children to do more good deeds, from caring for flowers and plants to helping the elderly and caring for the young, and cultivate their correct moral concepts. Children will have good moral quality when they grow up, and then they will understand that "there is no way to be lucky, it is called by people themselves;" The report of good and evil is like a shadow. In this way, when children grow up, they won't have the troubles of "unclear and impenetrable things", and there will be no confusion and confusion in adolescence.

Third, family studies can't be very advanced now, but we must create a good learning atmosphere for our children. Children should not be allowed to read and study, and parents should eat, drink and play mahjong. Instead, we should accompany our children, read some books by ourselves, and set an example for their lifelong learning. Such an atmosphere is not only conducive to children's learning, but also can cultivate their good habit of lifelong learning.

Fourth, family business, everyone's career is different, but the foundation is the same, that is, family business should be based on family rules, family rules and family studies. Nowadays, most family businesses make money quickly and explode quickly, and few people think about what to do after making money. Therefore, with the new word "rich second generation", there are different opinions. In fact, the thicker the family business, the more attention should be paid to the cultivation of their own virtues and the virtues of their descendants, so that the family and family business can last forever.

The above four points are the main core of family education and should be useful to everyone and small families.

A scholar remembers the opening of Disciples' Rules: "Be filial the first time, and believe the second time. Love others, but love others. I have spare capacity to study literature. " Our ancestors used thousands of years of wisdom to tell us that family education should focus on "educating people", and some scholars believe that to do this work well, we must lay a good foundation from the following five aspects:

0 1 cultivate a sound personality

Learn to love and be loved.

Accept setbacks calmly.

The reason why children's ability to resist setbacks is emphasized is that compared with the past, most of today's children live in an era when material and caring are likely to be surplus. In the future, it may not be IQ, but adversity quotient, that is, the ability of children to withstand setbacks, blows and various pressures.

Therefore, at an early age in the family, we should pay attention to guiding children to correctly view the success or failure of gains and losses, accept unexpected results frankly, and have the confidence and courage to start over.

04 master communication methods

Because people's social attributes are difficult to peel off, communication between people is particularly important. Even between parents and children, communication should be based on a relatively fair platform. Educating children to communicate with others in a friendly, equal and effective way, so that children can basically master the skills of communicating with others will benefit children for life in the future social life.

Form good habits

In the family, paying attention to the cultivation of children's good habits can be said to be a wise move with minimum investment and maximum return. Because the habit of cleaning, reading, self-discipline and caring that children are easy to develop when they are young can often accompany their children for life. The most labor-saving and effective way to cultivate children's good habits is for parents to take the lead in demonstrating. Therefore, what kind of habits do you want to cultivate children, you must do it first.

To sum up, some scholars believe that the core of family education is to cultivate the next generation of people with sound mind, good habits, friendliness, beautiful mind and positive optimism. Do you agree?

What is real family education? How can we do a good job in family education?

This problem should be the most difficult problem for every family in the whole society. Why do you say that? Because the whole transition from ignorance to gradually forming independent thinking requires a good and warm family environment to create a healthy, happy and restrained normal life for children. At the same time, it takes time and patience for parents to correctly guide their children into thinking in the form of ta meaning. You also need to control the constant changes in your child's daily growth and development and guide them according to time. If it is not properly guided, it will be a pity for the child's life. Therefore, family education is the most difficult task to solve. This is not an alarmist.

Correct family education is the seed of school cultivation, the cornerstone of society and the pillar of the country. Parents of your children, don't neglect their education and patience. There is only one chance, so don't miss the golden time of educating children.

However, many parents leave their children to work in other places for the needs of life, and the children can only be taken care of by the older generation. However, the education of the older generation for their children has not adapted to the needs of today's social development. The quality and system of education and teaching have been influenced imperceptibly, and the standardization of the education system has gradually taken off with the high technology of the new era, even in line with the world. It is conceivable that the important problem of family education is the individual family problem that appears in the society at present. There are also single-parent families and reorganized families, all facing the challenge of children's family education!

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Education comes from three forces: family, school and society. Of course, the role and influence of family education is the greatest among the three, and it is irreplaceable for the other two. So, what is the core of family education? What aspects should family education start from to be a good family education? In my opinion, two words can sum up the key of family education.

These two words are educating people and teaching by example.

Let's talk about the first point: training people. I think this is the core content of family education.

Three generations of gentlemen. This popular old saying reveals the core of education. Educating children, the first thing is to be a man, and knowledge and skills can only be ranked second.

Being a man, this sentence sounds simple, but its connotation is extremely rich. A person's behavior reflects his inner cultivation and ideological level. A person with no connotation, no cultivation and low ideological level will never become a real talent.

University, a classic of China culture, talks about how to educate people and how to be a man. In the words of the ancients, self-cultivation is the foundation of everything. What is self-cultivation? It means constantly improving one's moral cultivation and ideological level, and making oneself a noble and elegant person.

Our current education pays more attention to knowledge and skills than to the cultivation of moral thoughts, so various problems have arisen. This can't be said to be an omission in family education.

Let's talk about the second point first: examples. This is the best method of family education.

Example is more important than language. Children are a mirror of parents. Children look like what their parents look like. Parents must have some problems, shortcomings and even small moves with their children. This is the great role of example.

Many parents have high standards and strict requirements for their children, but they have no requirements and constraints on themselves. Such parents' education for their children is scolding and teaching, and even beating and cursing. In fact, the more this happens, the more rebellious the child will be.

Fish begins to stink at the head, parents should not only make demands on their children, but also improve themselves. What kind of people do they want their children to be? They should be that kind of people first. Nothing is more important than parents' words and deeds to their children's education. The best family education is that parents themselves become excellent people.

The mothers of the famous ancient Meng Mu and Yue Fei were strict with themselves and their children. They ask children to do what they want to do first, and children are the pillars of the country. They are also honored as "virtuous mothers".

Want to give children a good family education, not just talk about it. You must take concrete actions to influence your children with your words and deeds.

The core of family education is to educate children to learn to be human.

Let children learn to be human and learn to learn. These two "learning societies" are indispensable and are the two wings of life. Because no matter what you study, being a man is always the foundation of your life. If a person can't even do this, how can this capitalized "person" hold water? Even if you study hard and learn a lot of knowledge and skills, how can you stand on the society in the future if you don't even know the minimum truth of being a man?

The reason why learning to be a man is put in the first place is because learning to be a man is more important than learning to study for the growth and development of children.

For example, a clever child has mastered the knowledge of locks and learned the skills of repairing locks, so that he can repair any broken locks, open any locks that can't be opened, and win the first prize in the unlocking competition. His performance has proved that he has learned something in lock knowledge, lock repair and unlocking skills. If children develop in a good direction, they will have a bright future, but if they develop in a bad direction, they will eventually go astray, degenerate into criminals who pick locks and steal other people's money, and be put in prison. What ruined his bright future? He didn't learn to be a man.

At present, many families in our country have value deviation in their educational view. Many parents think that children's study is the first priority, and it is the most important thing for their children to enter the university in the future. Therefore, as long as children study hard, they will listen to their children, treat them as "little emperors", give them whatever they want, and forget how to educate them to be human. As a result, in our society, there are more wayward children, more self-centered children, more selfish children and more irresponsible children.

So, how should parents teach their children to be human? Family is children's first school, and parents are children's earliest teachers. The best and most effective way for parents to educate their children is to match words with deeds, set an example, show them and accompany them to grow up. We often say that teaching by example is more important than teaching by words, depending on the future quality of children and the quality of parents; Parents can't accompany their children all their lives, so they must cultivate their social consciousness and independent consciousness from an early age. These words are the truth of teaching children to be human.

1. Equality and respect

Equal communication and discussion between parents and children is not only a manifestation of mutual care, but also helps children build confidence, distinguish right from wrong, and enrich their imagination and creativity. Respect is also mutual. Only when parents respect their children's views and ideas can children respect and accept their parents' views.

Step 2 encourage and praise

According to reinforcement theory, when the result of a behavior is that reinforcement is beneficial to an individual, this behavior will be repeated in the future; When it is unfavorable, this behavior will weaken or disappear. Generally speaking, positive reinforcement (praise language, satisfied expression, friendly smile, prizes, etc.). ) It is beneficial for children to actively accept and internalize their parents' demands; Negative reinforcement (indifference, indifference, sharp criticism, disappointed expression, sneer, ridicule, etc. ) make children nervous and produce psychological stress (anxiety, irritability, anxiety, depression, and even aggressive behavior). Parents can actively strengthen their children's every good behavior, which can trigger their children to study actively and get more rewards and praise.

3. Tolerance and understanding

Tolerance and understanding are always the guarantee of the family. Every parent should learn to understand, appreciate and support their children with broad mind and profound understanding, which can stimulate their enthusiasm for knowledge more than scolding. Touching children with understanding and turning punishment into tolerance can better make children reflect and feel, understand their parents' pains and cultivate their filial piety and kindness.

4. Honesty and trust

For parents, tell their children the real situation and thoughts frankly and be responsible for their children; At the same time, parents should encourage their children to tell their parents the real situation and ideas, and believe that they will be responsible for it. This is trust. Parents are the seeds of honesty education. Integrity must be implemented in all aspects of life and set an example for children to learn.

China's parents should learn more from this French father and leave less money and more wisdom to their children.

Wen/the grace of the gods

20 13 Spring Festival Evening, Degang Guo and Yu Qian's cross talk "Black Sheep" brought joy to many people. Everyone knows that there is a black sheep in it, but there really is a black sheep in China's modern history, and his black sheep story is the first in history.

This man's name is Sheng. You may be confused by this name. Don't worry, don't be afraid after hearing his background. His father was Sheng Xuanhuai, the richest man in the late Qing Dynasty, and his father-in-law was Sun Baodi, the prime minister of the Republic of China. Even his name was given by Empress Dowager Cixi.

When he was young, Sheng was a handsome man. He studied at University of London and Columbia University. Maybe it was corrupted by capitalism. After returning home, Sheng kicked the whip all the way and embarked on the road of bereavement. He bought his first Mercedes-Benz car in Shanghai, married his fifth concubine and raised 75 horses. Before he died, Sheng Xuanhuai saved millions of taels of silver in the bank, enough for his descendants to eat for more than ten lifetimes. However, Sheng Xuanhuai still didn't expect that the speed of his son's downfall far exceeded the speed of bank interest. He is a heavy smoker and likes gambling. He can lose the assets of an entire commercial street in one night (it is said that it can be converted into RMB10 billion). Even if Shengjia has Jinshan, it can't stand such a defeat. As a result, before the victory of the Anti-Japanese War, Sheng almost lost all his possessions. In his later years, Sheng was so poor that he didn't even have the money to buy tickets for the park. Finally, he died tragically in the concierge of Suzhou Liuyuan.

There is an old saying: "If the son doesn't teach, the father makes a mistake". With the aura of "famous politician", "famous philanthropist" and "father of China industry", Sheng Xuanhuai failed to educate his son well, which made people cry. In Sheng Xuanhuai, there is a typical Chinese paternalistic style-only leave money for children, regardless of their physical needs. Stupid parents regard their children as personal belongings and only care about leaving their children land, houses and deposits; Smart parents regard their children as good friends and know how to train them into wise people. No matter how much money you have, you will eventually run out. Your wisdom is infinite and will make your life more exciting. When all the grandparents in the community are jealous of "other people's children", let's talk about "other people's fathers".

His father Dominique Gianico is a famous French philosopher who specializes in Heidegger's philosophy and has published Heidegger in France, On Man's Situation and other works.

Gianico has been a little annoyed recently. His daughter Sophie, a sophomore, has no interest in philosophy. As a philosopher, Gianico knew the importance of philosophy to one's ideological growth, so he tried his best to stimulate his daughter's interest in learning, but the effect was not satisfactory. Later, Gianico made a serious reflection. He thinks that his daughter is not interested in philosophy because all the philosophy books in the French market are too professional and abstruse for adults to understand, let alone a high school student. In order to make her daughter interested in philosophy, Janike wrote a book by herself-Sophie's Philosophy Lesson: 30 Enlightenment Lessons from the Philosopher's Father to her daughter.

Sophie's philosophy class, just listening to the name is a very enlightening book. Giannico wrote 30 lessons, each lesson 15 minutes. These courses are rich in content, interlocking, ancient and modern, lively and interesting. Gianniko popularized philosophical knowledge to his daughter in plain language, covering topics such as Greek philosophy, art and religion, happiness, desire and subconscious. This book is only 70,000 words, but it covers the essence of western philosophy, including gossip anecdotes of philosophers of past dynasties and deep speculation of Giannico himself. The whole book is full of fun of thinking. When you open this book, every word seems to have a spark of wisdom. This book has been selling well in France for 12 years and is a household name.

Now, let's listen to Giannico's view on philosophy.

First, dare to question authority and beware of being brainwashed.

At that time, Sophie was in adolescence, which was the most rebellious time. In this book, Gianico is very persuasive, encouraging young people to think more and question more, not to be afraid of authority, and to be a "life mentor against fire and theft!" Giannico believes that if there is doubt, there must be criticism, but criticism is not a spit or a curse. The true critical spirit is based on education and training. Most people are exhausted for their livelihood, and they have no time and energy to think deeply, so it is difficult to produce critical spirit. Without critical spirit, we can't understand the core of western civilization.

There are many jokes about obeying authority without thinking. Tell me about the one you saw recently. In India, there was an enlightened yogi who claimed to be able to cure all diseases, and some people were indeed cured by his hands. His fame is getting bigger and bigger, and some rich people in Europe and America go to India for consultation and treatment at all costs. Later, the "imperial doctor" really couldn't hold on and took the initiative to surrender. It turns out that he is not an Indian, but an American. He stayed in India for several years and knew some superficial methods of practice. Seeing that the "imperial doctor" has a high status and quick money, he pretends to be a "imperial doctor" to cheat. The so-called patients who were cured by him were not serious illnesses, but were all caused by psychological effects. When he was fooled, he actually wanted to forget it. When the mind is balanced, the disease will naturally recover. Philosophy is disenchanted. After studying philosophy, I still listen to the wind and rain. That's not a question of philosophy, it's a question of your IQ.

Second, the beauty of art lies in making people look at themselves.

Thomas mann once said: "Art should give life spiritual vitality and inspiration, not show life the cold devil's fist of nihilism." One day, Giannico and his friends visited Andy Howard's art exhibition. Andy Howard is a famous artist in the 20th century, and one of the founders of pop art, Giannico didn't bring Sophie. He knew Sophie definitely didn't like this kind of art and would feel ugly. In the book, Gianico points out the meaning behind pop art: Andy Howard wants to let the public know that true beauty can never be imitated by his own poor reproduction. In other words, there is no uniform standard for beauty.

At this point, Janike also took out a wonderful dialogue between Socrates and Hippias to prove his point of view. Once, Socrates and Hippocrates were discussing what is "beauty". Hippias said a lot, but none of them got to the point. Socrates pretended to be ignorant, and with excellent eloquence, he cornered Hippias. Finally, Hippias had to define beauty: beauty is pleasing to the eye. As long as it conforms to this law, everything is beautiful. Socrates was deeply impressed by this. Art can cultivate people's sentiments and stimulate people's fantasies. Gianniko wants to tell Sophie through this story: everything contains philosophy, and art is just another embodiment of philosophy.

Third, why do you say that philosophy is "useless"

Someone asked, "Can philosophy answer all the questions?" This is really a good question.

The ultimate goal of philosophy is to solve the problem of human soul, and philosophy has different functions for different people. Philosophy is a bridge. Some people reached the realm of enlightenment through the bridge, and some people fell off the bridge and died. Therefore, how much role philosophy can play lies not in philosophy itself, but in people. What is a "person"? Giannico believes that language is the essential difference between human beings and other animals, and language improves the quality of communication between people. Philosophy is the essence of human thought, which can help us reflect on life and let us find the freedom of the soul. The freedom of the soul is to be able to look at everything. Nietzsche, for example, was a truly free soul, and his thoughts inspired countless people.

The ultimate goal of philosophy is to make people wise. There is a saying in Zhuangzi: "All useful people have their uses, while useless people have endless uses, so they can be used greatly." . Janico's view coincides with Zhuangzi's. This is also the best interpretation of the philosophy of "uselessness".

Hesse said in Knorpp: "A father can pass on his eyes, nose and even personality to his children, but he can't pass on his soul to his children." Ji Bolun wrote at the beginning of On Children: "Your children are not your children, but their' life' is the children of their desires." In the final analysis, everyone is an independent individual, and everyone has his own life. You can show a person the way, but you can't walk instead of him. You have to go by yourself.

In 2002, 65-year-old Gianico died suddenly, leaving the world with this little book of philosophy. It subverts our previous impression of philosophy-philosophy is not blindly abstruse and obscure, it can also be explained in simple terms; Philosophy is not only a good medicine that goes straight to people's hearts, but also a refreshing afternoon tea. Whether you are a philosopher who has never even heard of Socrates or a senior philosophy fan who is used to eating too many books, you can enjoy this sour and sweet afternoon tea with Sophie.

The ultimate goal of philosophy is to seek truth. To explore the truth, we must be curious about the world, which is also the secret that people can be young forever. Gianico tells people with actions that the money left by parents to their children is not as good as wisdom. Seeing this, parents in China who only concentrate on helping their children save tickets should look up at the blue sky and white clouds and seriously reflect.

PS: praise the cover design of this book. The pink girl department fits the title perfectly.