1. Children are an extremely important audience for parents. Just like speaking and performing on the stage, if you want to convince/move the other party, you have to take into account their experience, consider their needs and say what you want in their own way.
You can't completely control your child's actions, but you can control your own reactions. Honest parents can never completely control their children's behavior. But we can control some of our reactions. When it's useless for me to yell at the children, you can put aside your thinking for a while and change to a new way of communication.
It is unrealistic to make a hullabaloo about and cry. I believe many parents will have this experience, and shouting can't really solve the difficulties. When parents are shouting, it is difficult for children to hear clearly what their parents are saying, but they may just write down some key words that parents often say: Hurry up, be late, and do your homework quickly ... Even our own shouting occasionally makes children worry about uselessness.
Generally speaking, it is not a child's problem, nor is it a parent's problem. Sometimes it's not a child's problem that children are not sensible, but a parent's problem. When parents can release their emotions to their children due to various problems such as overwork, contradiction with their families, and heavy pressure in daily life, the release of parents' bad emotions is the first trigger point, which opens all wars in the family.