Kimberly Brain, a child educator, once said: "Children are willful and angry because their physical and emotional development exceeds their communication skills."

In fact, there is no right or wrong emotion itself, but the wrong way of parents is the problem. For example, fighting violence with violence, preaching blindly and rushing to stop it ... These practices are not only useless, but even counterproductive.

As adults, we should learn to translate children's "language" and see the emotions and needs behind children's behavior. Only in this way can children get out of the emotional quagmire.

Parents should quickly learn these three "emotional management" skills.

1, accept children's emotions and let them fully experience them.

When a child has emotions, parents should empathize, listen and accept the child's emotions, so that the child feels that you are accepted and willing to understand his feelings.

Similarly, children's emotions do not mean agreeing with their behavior, let alone letting children use emotions as a tool for acquisition.

At the same time, let children understand that any emotion is ok, but the way to express emotions should follow three noes: don't hurt yourself, don't hurt others, and don't destroy the environment.

2. Assist the child to express his emotions and clarify the reasons, and see his needs and motives clearly.

Parents should be like an emotional mirror, reflect their children's true feelings with words and help them perceive and recognize their emotions.

For example, "It must be sad to see you crying so sad?" What's it like to see a child?

Did something happen today? "(find the reason)

Only by finding the real source of emotional response and understanding the psychological needs of children can we solve the fundamental problem.

3. Guide children to adjust their cognition and think about solutions.

When the child is relaxed, guide him to adjust his cognition, look at the things that bother him from another angle, and give support and feedback.

For example, "the toy was accidentally broken by a classmate, and you feel very angry." But you can't restore toys to their original state by hitting people. Let's think about it and see if there is a better way, shall we? '

When children learn to look at problems dialectically, they will not be easily defeated when they encounter difficulties and setbacks in the future.