It is often said that neighbors spend flowers and plants, which is the most typical brand image of "brilliant housewives" in the cultural and educational circles. Daughter Qian Qian's living conditions are almost as safe as artists' agency. Under such a comprehensive and all-round arrangement, it can be said that children have a greater sense of dependence from body and mind. Therefore, when her daughter invites Qian Qian to learn to ride a bicycle together, Huahua, the mother, can say the word "fear" first, but is this just to master the child? No, no, the real mastery is to know how children feel and listen attentively with their eyes.
When my daughter was riding a bike, I could clearly see what Qian Qian saw at that time as "I feel riding". If Huahua pays special attention, she may feel her loneliness, which shows that "fear" does not mean "I don't want to". Sometimes, the more "scared" she is, the more she thinks. Because "I think", she has expectations and worries. If parents don't know their children very well and have been manipulating them from the perspective of expectations, they must gradually "decentralize" their parents' expectations. When children are afraid, we should encourage them to "do what they want, and dad (mom) will always be the strongest backing"!
2. Children's plans should "attach importance" to parents' "decentralization", and then children's plans will continue to emerge. At this time, can parents really ignore it? Don't! Although children are the protagonists in cultural education, the appearance of parents is as indispensable as a compass. When the child is disappointed and confused, he will get the commission immediately, in order to let the child take fewer detours and give him the backbone of progress.
The key to "attaching importance" to the correctness of children's plans is not to support children unconditionally, but to attach great importance to their plans and growth stages. For example, if a child wants to learn cycling, but is particularly afraid of falling, it is not necessary to attach great importance to the whole process of the child's plan and the unsuccessful psychological state, give the child enough opportunities for practice and exploration, extract courage from facts and improve work experience.
If the child wants to learn to ride a bike but dares not start, or dares not try after encountering difficulties. At this time, you don't have to say much. If conditions permit, take your child to run several marathons. Probably many parents think that learning to ride a bike has something to do with running a marathon. Although the direct connection is not great, marathon is a combination of courage, physical strength and persistence. Uneven along the way, including intoxicating beauty, gave children full feelings and opportunities for practice. In this practical activity, it not only tempered the children's boldness of vision, physical strength and tenacity, but also told them that no achievement is once and for all, and no glory is within reach!