Secondly, when it comes to your personality, there are innate and family factors, but the study the day after tomorrow, especially when you say that you are an elite school with a good education, I don't know if you only learned culture but didn't learn to be a man and didn't exercise your perseverance.
Moreover, your own career and future are made by yourself. You are complaining that you are not a rich second generation or an official. Why not try to create your own future with your own wisdom and ability?
Fourth, the parents' family cannot be changed, and we can't choose it ourselves, but we can change it. When communicating with your family, you can try to talk about some topics that your parents are familiar with, like and good at, and the warmth of home will be there. This study, work, worry, entanglement, remember that you have grown up, learn to face it, and strive to change yourself, not only to create your own future, but also to change your family.
That's all for now. I wish you happiness.