1. Tell the children clearly in their minds why their family has become a single parent? As long as the child can understand, tell him the reason: divorce or death? What is the reason? At present, this situation is mostly, especially to let children know that divorce is an adult's choice, a personality difference or no longer in love. Two people living together must have feelings, and they have initially entered the correct concept of marriage and values, but it has nothing to do with children. Mom and dad love you very much. You are no different from other children, except that mom and dad can't live together. Let children not feel inferior and other negative emotions because of single parents.
2. Establish a positive image of the father. No matter who the father is, it is necessary for us to keep a tall and positive image of our father in front of our children. At this point, ann dunham, his mother, is incomparable. Under normal circumstances, I am afraid that those hateful gnashing words add up. However, her greatness lies in pointing at the photo of Obama Sr. when the child babbles. Very vivid, together with his grandparents, repeatedly said that when he was a teenager, his father came to see him from Africa, which was harmonious as a whole and occasionally a little unhappy. Ann dunham said to his son, "Your father loves you very much. You shouldn't be angry with him." Later, everyone saw that Obama became the only black president in American history.
If you really can't do this, at least don't reject it, keep in touch and help encourage children to establish normal and loving relationships with each other and their families. Everyone has his own iron triangle in life. If there is not enough connection between love and affection, it is too easy to go wrong. I believe there is a consensus. Children are basically the same as other children as long as they feel each other's love in life.
3, treat with a normal heart, do not spoil, do not compensate, not heavy. He is no different from other children and doesn't spoil them. Many single mothers feel guilty and want to give their children better and more obvious compensation. These are pits and educational taboos.
4. Many children from two-parent families raised problem children, which seems to be a complete family, but this is only superficial maintenance, but it is actually harmful to the children. There are many orphans at present. What they lack is education and love, and it is even harder to be excellent in the future.
In history, single mothers have trained many excellent sons, such as Confucius, Mencius and Yue Fei.
To sum up, single-mother families can also cultivate excellent sons, depending on how to cultivate them. Family education is very important.