How to educate girls is the right way. The development of a good child is inseparable from the efforts of the family, but at the same time, don't put too much pressure on the baby. Here I share how to educate girls is the right way, hoping to help everyone.
How to educate girls is the right way. 1 First of all, respect children.
Respecting children means respecting children's thoughts and personality. A child is also a member of the family, and parents should treat her equally. We can't think that everything is decided by our parents for her. I think the children's affairs should be decided by the children themselves, and let her think for herself. Parents' opinions are for her reference only, and some children's ideas and decisions are immature. At this time, parents can't force her thoughts and behaviors, but should analyze problems for her, guide her and cultivate her independent personality charm.
Cultivation of broadening horizons
There is a saying, how big your mind is, how big your vision is. Parents can use holidays to take their children around and broaden their horizons. Don't stay at home and educate her. It is best to talk on paper and let children feel the nature and human geography by themselves. Broad-minded is an idea. In addition, letting children participate in various activities and meet all kinds of people will make them see more and naturally broaden their horizons. I won't haggle over every ounce in life, and I won't be tempted by a little thing.
Give material necessary satisfaction.
Material satisfaction for children is not what parents think children want. I think if the family has the ability, the daughter's reasonable demands can be met. Because if her daughter can't get reasonable material satisfaction from childhood, she is worried that her concept will change when she grows up, so she thinks about how to get it. However, if the daughter is blindly envious of others, envious of people's comparison with those unnecessary things, parents should rationally and emotionally analyze the actual situation of the family with their daughters, and also analyze what requirements the children have for her.
Give some pocket money appropriately
I think it is necessary to give my daughter some pocket money, but it doesn't need much pocket money, and parents shouldn't give it to her directly every month like salary. For her, hard work may be more precious than giving it to her directly. For example, reward her by studying, working at home and doing good deeds. Parents should make their own decisions and spend the money freely. Don't ask her where the money is every time. She will be satisfied, independent and confident, and will make reasonable arrangements for her money.
Give your daughter some privacy.
Poor Cheng Feng, especially her parents, is particularly worried about her daughter. They always want to know all her activities outside, who she is in contact with, and worry about this and that, and have 10 thousand kinds of worries about her daughter. Some parents are so anxious to know this that they even peek at their daughter's diary or follow her. In fact, it is irrational for parents to do so, and it will also hurt their daughter, and she will be farther and farther away from you. If you don't want to say anything to your parents, your personality will become introverted and withdrawn. What would you think if your parents could put themselves in others' shoes? So give your daughter some privacy and she will become confident and sunny. Parents can often communicate with their daughters, and children are willing to tell you their thoughts and behaviors. In a relaxed and warm atmosphere, you can understand your daughter's current situation and give practical guidance.
Cultivate the quality of self-respect and self-love and strengthen personal cultivation.
I think that only by letting my daughter love and respect herself first can she get the love and respect of others. From body and appearance to behavior and mind, we must maintain our dignity as a human being and have the dignity as a girl. Parents can tell their children some examples and tell them that people should respect themselves first and then others, and that people should love themselves first and then others. Read more books to learn knowledge, strengthen personal cultivation and quality, and cultivate noble and dignified temperament.
How to educate girls is the right way. 2 1. Cultivate daughter's elegant temperament.
The beauty of appearance will dissipate with the passage of time, but the elegant temperament will accumulate with time, so that girls can still shine even if they live to be women and "old ladies".
Temperament is more vital than appearance and needs to be cultivated. Families raising their daughters had better take their daughters to some dance classes, concerts, reading parties, etc. So as to cultivate her daughter into an elegant person.
A polite and well-dressed girl will not only make people feel comfortable, but also make people like to get along with her, which will make it easier for children to develop in the future.
2. A spiritually rich daughter
"Boys should be poor and girls should be rich" is right, but it can't be done completely. For families raising daughters, the spiritual world of raising daughters should be more spiritual.
Raising a daughter spiritually means spending time with her to study, study and feel the beauty of art. Travel together, see different scenery, taste different foods and meet different friends.
All these will broaden her daughter's horizons and exercise her independent judgment.
3. The father is with his daughter.
In China families, the absence of the role of father is a common problem, and many fathers cannot accompany their children.
A father is very important to his daughter's growth. Some people say that "the appearance of a father is the appearance of his future husband", although some are absolute, it does make sense. If the father can't accompany his daughter well, then when the girl grows up, she will often form a wrong view of mate selection because of the lack of father's love, and she will easily fall in love with a mature man much older than herself and be deceived by love rat.
4. Encourage your daughter to accept the challenge.
The traditional image of girls is quiet, gentle and delicate, but this does not mean that girls do not need to be independent, strong and brave.
In fact, the courage to face challenges is not only a quality that men should have, but also a necessary quality for all those who are eager to succeed.
Families that adopt daughters should not do everything just because their children are women, but should exercise girls' courage and encourage them to try new things and do what they can.
5. Pay attention to the girl's delicate mind
"A woman's heart, a needle in the sea", the little girl is also a woman, and she has a daughter at home, so we must pay more attention to the child's delicate mind.
Girls are introverted, sometimes inexplicably depressed, but they are unwilling to talk to their parents actively, which requires parents to be patient, sensitive and take the initiative to guide their children to communicate.
When a daughter tries to speak her mind, whether it is funny or absurd, parents should restrain themselves, stand in the position of her daughter, seriously think and answer, share her growing troubles, make suggestions and solve problems for her.
How to educate girls is the right way. 1. Men and women are different, and their academic qualifications are also different.
In fact, our society is transmitting some information all the time, and there are some stereotypes about each gender. They always think that girls should be like this and boys should be like that. The same is true for most parents when educating their children.
In their view, girls must be smart, and think that a good relationship is better than some grades. Girls get more comfort and are seldom encouraged to take risks and explore. If a child fails to meet these expectations, he will be labeled as "not a girl at all", and these children will be called "strong woman", "man woman" and "bitch" when they grow up.
The stereotype of boys is that boys must have competition, courage and achievement. Boys have always been encouraged to explore and take risks, but they are also afraid of being sad, which is rarely ignored at this time. When boys have some emotions, they are usually said by others: "I like a girl." When these boys and girls play together, they will be called "sissy".
Although we now know how to educate children according to their gender, this kind of education is not correct. We should give girls more courage and care for children and boys, otherwise girls will look weak and boys will look lonely.
This shows that girls should be educated in the right way, so the following four ways of educating girls are not desirable.
Second, there are four ways to educate girls that are not desirable.
1. Teach her to be polite and taciturn.
I think family members think that girls should be polite and modest to anyone, so parents will teach their children to be friendly in various ways, avoid all conflicts, let their children not disturb others, and let them know how to be content with the status quo, thinking that this is a girl who knows how to please others.
Moreover, many parents also think that girls should be taciturn, and talking too much will definitely cause resentment from others. But in fact, such children are afraid to speak in class and discuss at work, but they will be regarded as disrespecting others' performance.
2. Only let her play with girls.
Some parents think that girls should play with girls.
However, there was once a report about the investigation of girls' schools, and the final result showed that the students who graduated from girls' schools not only did not make any achievements, but seemed somewhat rigid in character.
Therefore, girls should not only be allowed to play with girls, but also be encouraged to establish friendship with boys.
My father does all the manual work.
Although it will be easier for men to do some manual work, parents should not educate their children like this. It is not that manual labor should be done by men, but girls should be regarded as the role of taking care of them forever.
Therefore, when there is physical labor at home, my mother should try to help my father do something, so as to play a real educational role.
Let them have a princess dream.
Many parents think that their children should be a little princess, so their children have been immersed in their princess dreams and are very confused about real life, so they are waiting for their Prince Charming every day.
Such a child is worthless. They think they should live by men.
The wrong ways and stereotypes of raising girls by society and parents do great harm to children. Therefore, it is necessary to correct children's wrong education and train girls to be truly independent and brave in facing difficulties.