First of all, set an example:
Example is an important way to influence and educate children with other people's good thoughts and behaviors. For example, classmates, neighbors, teachers, heroes and model figures, positive figures in literary and artistic works, and excellent qualities of revolutionary leaders are all objects for children to learn and imitate. No matter what parents say or do is right or wrong, it has a profound influence on children. Therefore, parents should always show themselves everywhere in their daily lives.
Second, the environment edification:
Parents should consciously create a good living environment for their children to be infected and edified. Family is the main place where children live. Parents should organize their own lives, handle the relationship between members, adhere to the correct moral behavior as the criterion, form a United and harmonious family atmosphere, establish an orderly life order, and cultivate children's beautiful sentiments.
Third, criticism and punishment:
Criticism and punishment are the negation of children's bad thoughts and behaviors, but the latter is an educational means for serious bad thoughts and behaviors. When criticizing and punishing, we should first fully understand the situation, grasp the specific situation and severity of bad thoughts and behaviors, and proceed from the wrong reality. Criticism means pointing out the harm and ideological roots, denying their thoughts and behaviors, making them feel ashamed and miserable, and then generating the motivation to correct their mistakes. When criticizing, don't be sarcastic, sarcastic or abusive. Punishment is mainly deprivation of certain rights, not corporal punishment, not insulting personality and destroying body and mind.
Fourth, guide the arrangement of life order:
A good life order is an effective way to cultivate children's good habits. Guide children to arrange their daily lives, arrange their living environment, and teach them to study and use their time in an orderly way. Let the children make their own arrangements, and parents can give directions.
V persuasion education:
The specific methods of persuasion education: First, talk. Parents should put facts and reason according to their children's thoughts, so that children can understand certain truth. Speak with pertinence and flexibility, and have a pleasant attitude. Don't be condescending and cynical. The second is discussion, where parents and children discuss together. When discussing, we should respect children, listen to their opinions patiently, have incorrect opinions, reason patiently, and let children distinguish right from wrong. Parents should have the courage to admit that their views are incorrect.
Sixth, the actual exercise:
The content of practical exercise is quite extensive, such as adapting to the surrounding environment, exercising, taking care of yourself, housework, working independently, being polite, socializing and so on. To carry out actual exercise, we should first let the children know the purpose (why), put forward specific requirements (how to do it), and encourage them to overcome difficulties and stick to it. The content of exercises should be suitable for children's age characteristics and personality characteristics, and the tasks and requirements given should be based on children's actual ability and appropriate. Children should be allowed to make mistakes in practice and not be too demanding. Parents can't stop exercising because they are afraid of their children suffering.
Seven, praise and reward:
Praise and reward is to affirm and praise children's thoughts and behaviors. Through affirmation and praise, strengthen children's enterprising spirit and sense of honor, and strive for greater progress. Praise and reward should be realistic, timely and explain the reasons, and should be based on spiritual rewards, supplemented by material rewards.
Eight, guide extracurricular reading:
Guide children to read books, newspapers and magazines, and learn useful spiritual nutrition from them. Parents should master the content of children's reading, discuss with children, and guide children to increase their knowledge, broaden their horizons and get spiritual cultivation through reading.
Nine, the use of home TV:
When TV enters the family, children can gain a lot of knowledge from watching TV, increase their knowledge and make full use of it. But be careful: you can't have no choice and don't spend too long. After watching TV, you'd better talk to your children and discuss the TV content.
Ten, lead the children to go out and contact the society:
Take children to parks, scenic spots, shops, factories, and rural areas, or visit classmates, relatives, and friends for social interaction, so that they can broaden their horizons, get in touch with society, and get to know society.
The greatest educational principle in the world is Godson wisdom handed down for thousands of years, which is a lifelong educational bible.
1, fish tank rule
The tropical goldfish in the fish tank is three inches long, and no matter how long it is kept, it won't grow up. However, if you put this goldfish in the pool, the original three-inch goldfish can grow to a foot in two months.
The same goes for children's education. Children need free space to grow up. Parental protection is like a fish tank. Children will never grow into big fish in their parents' fish tanks. If children want to grow up healthily and vigorously, they must be given free space to move around, instead of sticking to the "fish tank" provided by a small parent. With the progress of society and the growth of knowledge, parents should restrain their thoughts and impulses and give their children room to grow freely.
2, the law of wolf nature
Wolves are the most curious animals in the world. They don't take anything for granted, but tend to learn and experience by themselves. The mystery and novelty of nature always amazes wolves. Wolves are always interested in the surrounding environment, so they can constantly look for food in the environment and understand the dangers, so as to survive effectively.
Therefore, to cultivate children's super learning ability, we must cultivate children's curiosity about the world, let him observe life carefully and use interest as his learning teacher. Such a child will be a bright star in his future life, constantly having new ideas and new inspirations for his work.
3. South wind effect
The north wind and the south wind bet on who is better, and they decide who can take off the coat of pedestrians. No matter how fierce the north wind is, pedestrians just wrap their clothes tighter and tighter; The south wind blows only gently, so people open their coats.
The south wind effect tells people that tolerance is a more powerful force than punishment. The same is true of educating children. Criticizing the parents of children blindly will eventually find that children are increasingly not listening to themselves. Every child can make mistakes. Parents should tolerate their children's shortcomings, deal with various problems in daily life objectively, rationally and scientifically, and at the same time do their own training work from their own perspective, so as to better educate their children.
4. Rosenthal effect
In Greek mythology, King Pygmalion of Cyprus was a highly skilled sculptor. One day, he finished a statue of a girl, which was so perfect that the king himself fell in love with it. The king's love moved Aphrodite, the goddess of love, who injected life into the statue.
Pygmalion's fantasy came true, and there were Cypriots from then on.
Rosenthal is an American psychologist. 1966 He did an experiment about students' expectation of grades. After a class exam, he handed over a list of "the most promising people" to the headmaster. The headmaster gave the list to the head teacher of this class. Eight months later, when Rosenthal and his assistant came to this class again, the scores of the students on the list were greatly improved.
The secret of improving students' grades is simple, because teachers pay more attention to it.
Every child can become an extraordinary genius, but the realization of this possibility depends on whether parents and teachers can love, expect and cherish these children like geniuses. The direction of children's growth depends on the expectations of parents and teachers. Simply put, what kind of person you expect your child to be, what kind of person your child may become.