Taboo words: "If you do that, you will be beaten", "I was already at this age …" and "If you don't listen, you have to listen".

Key analysis: If parents are always "cocky", the child's psychological state will be unbalanced when accepting it modestly, so even if you properly accuse him of being 100%, the child will be "convinced" and eventually get twice the result with half the effort.

Step 2 be cold

Taboo words: "What do you think you can do", "You are the wizard of our family" and so on.

Key analysis: authoritative experts in child psychotherapy emphasize that children, especially children, are most afraid of their parents' indifference. It is hard for them to understand how they and their closest parents can say such a "pun" which is ostensibly praise but in essence destruction, even if you say it with a little humor.

3. Affirmative denial

Taboo: "You haven't had a good meal" and "You have been lying".

Critical analysis: it is right to blame children, but if we say "absolutely", it is very likely to cause children's weariness of learning and eventually lead to rejection of critical education.

4, fishing for fame and profit

Taboo: "This is the funniest toy I have ever seen" and "You are the most beautiful beauty in the world".

Key analysis: As children grow older, they will gradually realize that your words are watery, so when they grow up, they will be skeptical about other people's comments or praises. In addition, children who are used to listening to their parents' exaggerated praise usually only listen to good words after entering the society, so their life path is easy to be frustrated.

5. Malicious slander

Taboo: "You are as fat as a camera pig" and "You are as stupid as a donkey".

Critical analysis: children with relatively stupid IQ will be greatly hurt if they can understand the "intention" contained in such words. In addition, young children are likely to believe it, indulge themselves and eventually lack self-esteem and self-confidence.

6. Coercive

Taboo words: "If you don't do your homework, I will shut you up", "If you don't behave well, you will feed the wolf" and so on.

Key analysis: this kind of posturing scare, like praise for fame and fame, will make children lose their parents' slapping and trust.

7. freezing cold

Taboo: "Can't you see I'm busy?" And "later".

Key analysis: the implication that children hear from this kind of words is that adults are not interested in me, and they don't regard me as their little dream.

Second, the psychological forbidden zone 1, excessive praise or blame

Moderate praise is conducive to children's self-confidence, but some parents have been praising their children too much, but the conclusion is not worth the candle. Such children usually lack self-identity. They expect to be praised for doing a little thing, otherwise they won't do it. Excessive criticism can also hurt children's self-esteem. Parents can help them learn from their mistakes just by emphasizing where they are wrong.

2. Excessive democratization

Children are inexperienced and have poor judgment, so they need specific guidance from their parents. If they are too democratic, they will be spoiled and become increasingly unruly. Naturally, when a child grows up, he can convince others by reasoning and give him many choices.

Step 3 be angry with the child

Parents who are angry with their children can shock their children, but their prestige and authority are reduced; Parents should be less angry in front of their children. If you can't control it, you can calm down first, and then go home and seriously emphasize their inaccuracies to your children, which is more effective.

4. Always educate children in the same way.

It is impossible to always let children be punished at the foot of the wall. If children make mistakes, they can limit some theme activities according to their age and preferences, such as watching TV dramas, playing video games or participating in outdoor theme activities. Sometimes he will give up automatically as long as he ignores his personal behavior.

5. Never punish children.

If a child has no memory of mistakes, it is not easy for him to remember and correct them. The child did make a mistake, and punishment is indispensable. There are many ways to punish him, such as letting him do housework and cleaning. The punishment here does not mean hitting children. Children who are often beaten get fear, not do it themselves.

6. Speak too softly to the children who have made mistakes.

Sometimes, parents should take compulsory measures to make their children understand that naughty behavior should be moderate, and there should be no excessive personal behavior in any case. At the beginning, they should discourage him from all kinds of bad behaviors and then explain the reasons.

7. Abuse of rewards

If you stop sprinkling water on the ground, I'll give you ice cream after dinner. This way can only be allowed to happen next time. The wrong way to discourage children by rewarding them is actually bribery. Remember, you can't abuse this reward.

8. Arguing in front of children

Parents declare disputes because of inconsistent family education methods, which will make children feel unsafe and at a loss, because children often imitate their parents. Therefore, in front of children, parents had better be consistent. If you have different suggestions, you should bypass the child's discussion so that he doesn't have to feel that only one person can decide, in case one party is not present and the other party fails.

9. I always feel that this child is not correct.

If you always think the child is wrong, it will make him feel weak and incompetent. Even if he is wrong, you can remind him that you firmly believe that he has the ability to work. You can't scold him with things like "You always do that and never do it well".

10, don't forget to apologize to the child.

Finally, this is very important. When educating children, don't forget to say "I'm really sorry" if parents are wrong. Children and parents should respect each other, and parents can also teach their children how to apologize.