First, interest is the best means.
If parents want their children to learn well, they should guide them to be interested in learning. If they are interested, they will have the desire to learn new knowledge, which is the basis of educating children. Interest is not innate, but depends on cultivation. How should parents cultivate their children's interest?
First, parents should appreciate their children. Appreciate and encourage children when they have just made some achievements, and let them feel that adults will be very happy to do so.
Second, parents should look at their children's growth objectively. Admit differences and allow failure. Because every child's talents, interests and hobbies are different from others. The vivid example of raising children in Isabella Chow sets an example for family education. It is not terrible that children are disabled, but that parents give up. Smart parents will always foster strengths and avoid weaknesses and do what they like. The goal set for children will make them reach out and jump to pick fruits, making them feel that learning is a happy thing. This not only mobilizes children's learning enthusiasm, but also cultivates children's interest in learning. Remember, don't rush for success. The experiment of starved barracuda tells us that if we lose the courage and confidence to fight again, we will not only lose the chance of success, but also lose all vitality. Once children lose interest in learning, they will feel disgusted with learning and think that they are the worst, and learning will become a painful thing. Therefore, they will lose confidence in learning and the learning effect is not good.
Third, parents should not take book knowledge and test scores as the only criteria for their children's study. Score is indeed a standard to measure children's learning, but it does not represent everything, nor is it absolutely fair, and sometimes it is even biased. Edison is the greatest inventor in human history, and when he was in primary school, he always came last in the exam and was forced to drop out of school and go home. His mother knew his son's character well, and she didn't force him to go to school, so she provoked the burden of "tutoring". Mother told him history and literature in a relaxed and happy atmosphere, and discussed physics and chemistry with him. Edison gradually became interested in reading and research. In order to facilitate children's "research", mother opened up a small world in her own cellar, allowing Edison to do experiments while studying. It is because of the support and encouragement of his parents that he embarked on the road of invention and became the world-famous "king of invention". Therefore, interest is the driving force for children to explore new things, and it is also the power to promote them to learn new knowledge and engage in activities.
In short, educating children is a gradual process. You can't rush for success, you should take your time. Carry out the principle of "low starting point, small steps, more activities and quick feedback", so that children can feel the joy of success and make a small pile into a virtuous circle. When children encounter difficulties in learning, parents should lend a helping hand to help them find the key to learning smoothly and let them feel a sense of accomplishment in overcoming difficulties. The more successful, the stronger the interest; The stronger the interest, the more successful it is, and the spiral rises, and the children are making progress every day.
Second, habit is the key to success.
Habit is a special tendency to perform certain actions automatically under certain circumstances. Good habits play a decisive role in a person's growth and even his life's happiness. Once people form a habit, they will unconsciously run on this track. French scholar Bacon once said: "Habit is the master of life, and people should strive to pursue good habits." This sentence is no exaggeration. Good habits benefit children for life, while bad habits unconsciously harm children for life. Tolstoy, a literary master, began to keep a diary at the age of six or seven, and wrote down interesting things every day. When he was 9 years old, he wrote a special book, Grandpa's Story, which was full of grandpa's extraordinary experiences and interesting stories during the war. He also likes to collect aphorisms and aphorisms that inspire him. He recited a whole book. Later, collecting aphorisms became his living habit, and gradually developed into a company with books every day and concentrated on reading a large number of literary masterpieces. Finally, he started his own creation, and his rich and profound accumulation made his literary works spread all over the world, shocking and touching generation after generation. Expert research shows that 3- 12 years old is the key period for children to form good behavior. All children with good and stable academic performance are trained to form good study habits from an early age; Children with bad grades often lack good study habits. If children want to learn to learn, they must seize this critical period. How should parents cultivate their children's good study habits?
First, reading habits. Suhomlinski, an educator in the former Soviet Union, said: "The way to make children smarter is not to increase homework, but to read and then read." The more books children read, the wider their knowledge, the clearer their thinking and the more active their wisdom, and the easier it is to learn new knowledge. Therefore, parents should prepare more extracurricular books for their children, such as literature, fairy tales and popular science, as long as the children are interested. Don't always buy children compositions that they don't want to read according to their own wishes. With books, parents should first help their children make a study plan and have a fixed reading time every day. In the long run, children will go to school automatically at that time; Secondly, parents ask their children to briefly retell the article to avoid children taking a cursory look; Parents should prepare a notebook for their children and cooperate with the teacher to let them take notes. After reading an article, let them extract some good words and sentences to enrich their vocabulary and form a good habit of not reading.
Second, review the habit of previewing. Through review, children can consolidate what they have learned, deepen their understanding, and achieve "reviewing the old and learning the new". Through review, knowledge can be systematized, and the knowledge learned successively can be connected in series to form a knowledge system. When guiding children to preview, let them circle the knowledge they don't know and the words they don't know in order to understand the new knowledge they will learn tomorrow.
Third, the habit of finishing homework independently on time. When children first enter school, their self-control is very poor, and they have not yet developed the habit of finishing their homework independently on time. They always play while doing their homework. This requires parents to give supervision and guidance. Let the children know that they can't play until they finish their homework, and stick to it. No matter what reasons and excuses the child puts forward, the homework of the day must be completed on the same day, and it is never allowed to be put off until the next day. Every time you finish your homework, you should get into the habit of checking it from beginning to end to see if there are any omissions and mistakes. If there is, it is necessary to fill the vacancy in time and correct it in time. You should also set a set of "wrong questions" for your children, so that they can copy down the wrong questions in each homework, find out the reasons for the mistakes and write the correct answers, which will help them understand and correct the mistakes.
Fourth, the habit of thinking and being curious. Children love to ask "why?" This is a good thing, indicating that children are active in thinking and use their brains. Parents should pay attention to children's questions, try to observe the world with children's eyes, marvel with children, ask questions, discuss, encourage and actively help children answer. If parents are perfunctory, or busy with their own affairs and ignore their children's curiosity, children will gradually stop asking questions. Children's observation ability and thinking ability are strangled in your hands. Of course, some questions may be strange and parents can't answer them. It doesn't matter. It can be solved by looking for information, visiting and investigating, and telling children the process and method of solving, so that children can know that problems that cannot be solved can be solved in many ways. Every parent should encourage their children to ask more questions. Children's wisdom can be said to be accumulated in various problems, just like why the pot lid jumps. Why do apples fall to the ground when they are ripe?
Of course, there are many good habits to cultivate children, such as: the habit of listening attentively; The habit of cherishing school supplies; The habit of independent thinking; Parents should pay attention to the cultivation of habits such as consulting information.
In short, learning knowledge and skills or reading books is a very happy thing. Parents use confirmation, encouragement, praise and other means to consolidate the child's original benign behavior, and then repeatedly let the child find a sense of accomplishment in this behavior. When children feel that learning equals happiness, encourage them to make it a habit. When learning becomes a habit, then children will have no problem in learning. Because everyone is willing to do happy things. Only by making children feel that learning is a very happy thing can they be inspired to learn and consciously develop good study habits.
Third, parents are the best teachers.
In family life, with children, parents are the children's first teachers and the most important source of educational influence during their growth. Parents' education is sometimes intentional and sometimes unintentional, but parents' emotions, attitudes, words and deeds provide vivid examples for children. If parents are a mirror of children, then children are the shadow of parents. The beautiful image of parents, like a drop of spring rain, a drop of water, moistens children's hearts; And parents' filthy words and deeds will invade children's souls like poison. Therefore, parents should pay attention to their words and deeds all the time, everywhere and everything when managing their children's learning. How do parents pay attention to their self-cultivation? I think we should do the following:
First, keep your word. The ancients said: "Words must be done, and actions must be fruitful." It is to ask parents to match their words with their deeds and not to trick their children. Some parents make promises casually in order to let their children study hard, but the goal has been achieved and has not been fulfilled. After a long time, children will no longer believe what their parents say, and they will learn to deceive others like their parents. Ceng Zi's story of killing pigs is to tell parents to keep their word to their children.
Second, set an example of learning. Family education has a lifelong influence on children. No matter where it develops and what level it develops, it is directly related to family education. /kloc-George Gelbe, an English poet in the 7th century, said that "one father is better than a hundred teachers" and emphasized the influence of parents on education. Parents' strong thirst for knowledge, studious spirit, good style of respecting knowledge and advocating truth are sunshine and dew for children and a beacon of their intellectual life. Parents should buy some newspapers, magazines, books and other stationery in a planned way, study with their children, and carry out colorful cultural and sports activities to promote their learning, which not only enriches their knowledge, but also cultivates their sentiment and creativity.
Parents love learning and know art, and the home is full of reading atmosphere. Children are eager to learn and progress. Parents study not only for a better job, but also to give their children an example of "endless learning".
Third, create a good living environment. First of all, we should create a harmonious democratic atmosphere. Family members should care about each other, be considerate and respect each other, and have a positive and optimistic attitude towards life. Secondly, carry out a variety of family activities. After children finish their homework, they can talk to their children about an article, or compete with them to see who reads well and who speaks more idioms. You can also take your children out for an outing or a trip during the winter and summer vacation or during the May Day and November holidays, so that they can blend in with nature and appreciate the grandeur of the Great Wall, the vastness of the grassland, the grandeur of the Yellow River and the beauty of the south of the Yangtze River, thus broadening their horizons, cultivating their sentiments and stimulating their interest in life.
Fourth, participate in school activities. Most schools have set up "Parents' Open Day" activities, the purpose of which is to let parents walk into the school and get close to their children. Take a look at how the school is managed and how the teachers teach it; Look at the real performance of your children in classroom learning and recess activities, and improve the consciousness and direction of educating children. Because the school is, after all, a specialized institution for formal education of students, with professional educators. They have educated hundreds of children and accumulated rich educational experience, and are often superior to their parents in educational theory. And our parents can only support one child in their lifetime, so their horizons are inevitably narrow and their evaluation of children is often biased. Therefore, parents should actively cooperate with the school, take the initiative to visit teachers at school, take the initiative to ask teachers for advice, learn from teachers with an open mind, and master scientific parenting methods. At the same time, we should do everything possible to stimulate children's love, respect and attachment to teachers, because children can only trust teachers if they kiss them.
In short, there are rules in teaching, but there are no fixed rules in teaching; Learn well, but learn badly. Only by establishing advanced educational concepts, using their brains diligently and mastering scientific and correct management methods can parents help their children find out the most suitable learning methods, thus effectively guiding their children's learning. At the same time, family education should pay attention to art: "creativity, diversity and flexibility;" Rich and diverse, according to local conditions; Full of fun, natural harmony; Full of emotion, extraordinary; Full of wit and improvisation. "Parents should adopt flexible methods when guiding their children to learn. Strategies suitable for children can start from all directions. On the one hand, they can also implement several strategies at the same time. As long as it is beneficial to children's study, you might as well give it a try. As long as we work hard, there will be gains.