It is very important to receive scientific sex education. When children consult their parents on these issues, parents often try to avoid this question, making it even more impossible for children to know this information. The result is to arouse children's curiosity and let them learn about sex in their own way, such as watching pornographic videos, surfing pornographic websites and stealing forbidden fruits.
Some teenagers have received the wrong education that "sexual contact is obscenity" since childhood, which hinders their psychological development and the healthy development of their personality. This situation is not conducive to the healthy growth of teenagers.
Teenagers need to know the correct sexual knowledge and the sexual concept advocated by mainstream culture, so as to guide their behavior and real life, so as to make their body, mind and personality develop soundly and lay a good foundation for the harmonious life of husband and wife and family happiness in adulthood.
What is sex?
Russell said: "All ignorance is regrettable, but ignorance of sex is a serious danger." So, what is sex? Sex refers to the gender difference between people, that is, there are men and women. From the moment the baby is born, parents will determine whether the baby is male or female according to the baby's external genitalia, and then cultivate the child's gender role.
When a child is eleven or twelve years old, due to the role of sex hormones in the body, the external shape of the child has undergone tremendous changes, showing significant differences in secondary sexual characteristics between men and women, and the personality differences between men and women are also more significant. Because of the germination of sexual psychology, the curiosity between sex will become stronger with age. Then, with the continuous growth and improvement of foster age and psychology, marriage and family will also become something we must consider.
In terms of personality, sexual physiology, sexual psychology and sexual morality are very different, but they have something in common, namely three characteristics:
Naturally.
This is the most basic feature of sex, and it is also the biological and physiological level of sex. Physiologically speaking, sex is one of the most basic biological characteristics of human beings. Humans need sex just as humans need to breathe and eat. In ancient China, there was a saying of "eat drink man woman", which meant that appetite and sexual desire were basic human desires. This natural instinct needs to occupy an important position in human social life. Sex can not only make human beings reproduce, but also bring people pleasure, joy and longing, making human life rich and colorful.
Sociality.
It is the concept of sex, gender socialization, gender communication, gender role, gender rights, obligations and gender equality, as well as the moral boundaries and legal norms of sex, and so on. In the evolution of K period, human society gradually established a set of laws and moral norms, which brought the primitive impulse of human beings into social constraints, made it a social phenomenon, and branded it with the imprint of culture. This is social progress. Judging from the current laws and customs in our country, monogamy is protected by law, and you can get married only when you reach the legal age.
Reason.
This is one of the essential differences between humans and animals. Animals are irrational, and promiscuity and promiscuity are completely blind behaviors. And human sexual behavior is controlled by reason. When the emotional flood surges, the rational embankment will regulate its normal operation. This reason is based on the maturity of sexual psychology and rooted in the rational power of social moral norms. Rationality is the embodiment of life awakening, which can make emotions get rid of naivety and mature; Get rid of indulgence and move towards self-discipline. When there is a conflict between emotion and rationality, whether we can manage our emotions with social moral standards and social responsibility is an important criterion to measure the maturity of rationality.