Children should study hard in their studies, but some students play around and muddle along. Parents are eager to reason with their children, but their behavior is another matter. They want to take coercive measures, but they are afraid it will backfire. What should I do if I have such a "not in a hurry" child at home?

First, parents need to spend some time every day to calm down, communicate with their children calmly, and guide them to express all their feelings and thoughts. Then we are more of a clever incentive for children.

Second: Parents are advised not to talk about studying hard all the time. As a mother, we should pay special attention to how hard we work for our children. We must create a harmonious atmosphere in the family and let the children solve or eliminate all the pressure in the family.

Third, we should always encourage and appreciate children in the family and try our best to find their tiny progress. As long as they have a little effort and progress, they should be encouraged and rewarded in time, thus giving them confidence and motivation to change.

Fourth, it is suggested that children make a study plan suitable for their own characteristics and study according to their own characteristics and actual situation. Don't care what books others are reading, what questions they are doing, what they have learned, where their grades are tested, and so on. Keep yourself, grasp yourself, and follow your goals.

Fifth, don't ask too much of your child's study or review. Too much supervision actually increases children's psychological burden, and at the same time increases children's anxiety and irritability. When children talk about difficulties or pressures in their hearts, they should listen more and talk less. This is an emotional catharsis and a trust in parents.

Sixth, at an appropriate time, tell my son more about how he faced the setbacks and hardships in life and how he overcame and surpassed them. Because my son is still young, he has little experience of trauma and frustration, or even has not experienced it. At this time, his parents are his mirrors and role models. Talking to him more about this will definitely have a positive impact on him.

Seventh, if your child is venting his emotions in a negative way, relieving stress and escaping from the source of tension, such as playing mobile phone before going to bed, he is probably trying to hide the psychological pressure of wanting to learn well, especially trying to get a high score. Parents are advised to communicate with their children like friends, and at the same time spend more time with their children to relieve boredom and carry out some relaxing family activities to relieve his psychological pressure and let him go into battle lightly.