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From the opening of the second child to the present, the second child mother has experienced a lot of struggle and pressure, as well as a lot of happiness and comfort.
When others advise their mothers to have children, they usually say, "You have to raise one child and two children." . It seems very meaningful to think about this sentence, but I didn't know the difference until I experienced it!
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Raising two children is really tiring. Besides being tired, I am still very tired. I haven't slept for three years. The two babies are too young to balance their time. The body is very tired and the heart is more tired. I am sorry for my second child.
@ Hi, Guo Shuai.
Tired is really tired, and happiness is really happy? Whenever I see two children playing, the happiness in my heart is unbelievable!
Am I the person you admire most?
Both children are breast-fed, a year and a half apart. All breast-fed. Now the child is one and a half years old and just weaned.
Two days ago, two children had a fever together. I keep my temperature, take medicine and go to the emergency room at night. I feel like I'm about to collapse.
Some mothers are very happy to have two children, while others feel exhausted to the point of collapse. Let's talk specifically about the difference between raising one child and raising two children:
1. Ma Bao's experience is different.
Ma Bao was nervous and cautious when raising her first child. She was very cautious all her life because she was worried that there would be something wrong with her child. The baby blushed while sleeping. He had to stay nervous for a long time and had several answers in his mind.
When raising a second baby, you will feel experienced and blush, but the quilt is thick and tight, which can only make the baby breathe.
In this way, due to Ma Bao's careful feeding, the first child will become more delicate, while the second child will be easy to "stock" because of experience.
2. Mabao has different energies.
When raising the first child, Bao's mother and even the whole family focused on this child. Although Ma Bao works hard, she can still take care of it.
Raising a second child is different. To raise a second child, we should not only take care of the second baby, but also take care of the older baby. Bauer cried to coax Bauer. Dabao also cried, so he had to take care of it.
In short, I have obviously turned around, but I still can't take care of it. If this situation lasts a long time, it will really collapse.
Therefore, when raising my first child, I have enough energy to take care of this child. As for the second child, it's really hard to take care of. Let Bao Dabao participate in raising Dabao, or let Dabao have inner feelings.
3. Different financial situations
I have seen the answer to the following question: "Can I have another child?" Many of them said that if they had enough money, they would need a second child. If it is not enough, you'd better wait.
Apart from the lack of energy and help, the most worrying thing is the lack of funds.
Raising a baby means that the child is a shredder, and raising two babies means two shredders. They are still working together!
Buying children's products in small quantities will cost a lot of money. Besides, there are two babies. While Bauer spends on milk powder, diapers and medical expenses, Dabao spends on cram schools and interest classes.
The increased cost is really not small.
If a family's money is really tight, then a family with two children is prone to conflicts.
After the arrival of Erbao, Bao's mother is the person who can understand this difference best. Pain, pain, happiness, and happy emotions are all on children. They are always associated with two children, and mothers are very hard.
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