Just finished the exam, my son came last. How to improve your grades by beating children?

In the process of educating children, hitting children is simple and rude, but it may not necessarily improve their grades.

If spanking children is really effective, then parents will spank their children more often every day, and they will be better than those who spank their children, so there is no need to worry about how their children study.

Sometimes children are naughty and don't study hard for a while, which leads to a decline in their grades. Beating children and teaching them a good lesson may have a certain effect on improving their grades, but beating children is not the fundamental educational method.

Beating children is easy to lead them astray.

The test results are not high, parents beat their children, don't go to bed on time, don't get up on time, and parents still beat their children.

Children will subconsciously think that if there are problems that can't be solved, then hitting people is a good solution, and children will learn like this. So children will apply this method to all aspects of life. Then children are more likely to become problem children.

Children don't study well, so we should find the real reason to deal with it.

Find out the reasons why children don't study well, think carefully, and then respond positively.

The child is his own. Without educating them well, we can't put all the blame on the teachers. As parents, we should actively participate in the process of educating our children.

When I saw this question, my first feeling was: Are parents really straightforward? Or ignorance?

If you can consider using a taxi to educate your child, the child is definitely not in adolescence, but in primary school.

There are two ways to guide children to do something:

The first is to induce him to be a little interested in this matter and taste the "sweetness" step by step. This sweetness is recognition, appreciation and encouragement, thus building his self-confidence and interest and stimulating his inner initiative. Then he will definitely do things well, and naturally he will get very good grades, that is, good grades in his studies.

This is the best and most effective method.

The second way is: force, want the result, and the result is likely to be counterproductive.

He didn't know how to do it, and no one taught him how to do it, so he let his temper and do whatever he wanted until the final acceptance. Because there is no good workflow, there will naturally be no good results, which is a very bad result in learning. At this time, when the recipient (parents) sees the results, compared with others' achievements, their own family's achievements are really poor, so they should "educate" and slap in the face, saying that they are educating their children, but the effect of education is not. At best, children know that my father hit me because of my poor grades. What should we do next? Children don't know how to learn well, but they still won't get good grades.

I don't support parents to educate their children by taxi, but I also admit that individual children can make him remember what to do by taxi when necessary.

Playing is one thing.

A few days ago, a wise mother told me a story about her daughter's childhood (which happened more than twenty years ago):

When the child was five or six years old, once her daughter went to her grandmother's house with her, and she asked her for money (ten cents), just because she didn't have any money with her. The married aunt came back to talk to her sister-in-law, gave her niece a dollar, and the child stopped making trouble. The mother thanked her and said nothing to her daughter. When she got home, she called her daughter into the house, gave her a slap in the face and told her, "If you ask for money in front of outsiders again, I will hit you once!" " Nothing like this has happened to my daughter since then.

This is a concrete thing. Although children can know without playing, playing can also play a role in keeping in mind. If you understand simple things, fighting can be solved.

Learning is a process, and achievement is the summary of the process. This kind of thing with a long process is not suitable for taking a taxi.

Not suitable for playing, then how to solve it?

Pay attention to the process, reverse the process to find the problem, and then start from the process.

This is like doing a math problem that pays attention to the process. If the result is wrong, there must be something wrong with the process. In order to have the correct result, the process must be correct. Therefore, the subjects will infer the child's learning process from the child's grades:

Combination of study habits and study contents.

The lower the pupils are, the easier it is to make up.

People in China attach importance to reading. The text can be read three times a day as an extra-curricular book, and then the teacher's homework can be finished carefully. In addition, parents can read or listen to books to amuse themselves.

Math processing to do the homework assigned by the teacher, you can also add a few more exercises according to your child's weaknesses;

If there is an English class, listen to the tape several times or read the article two or three times on the way to school or at some time.

This can't add a lot of homework every day. If you persist seriously, there is no doubt that your grades will improve as time goes by.

I hope that the subject can study hard and do the process with the children. At that time, children's grades will also improve, and they will not ask such questions themselves!

Hello, I'm glad to answer your question.

Just after the exam, the child came last. How to improve your grades by beating children?

How to fight? Is there only one way parents can control their children? A stick. Can this be understood as the incompetence of parents? There is no other way but to fight.

Have you played when the children are young, and have you played when the children are old? Why do parents "transsexual" when their children are older and their parents stop fighting? No, I can't beat it. I stopped.

Have you ever thought that you are teaching children violence by waving your fist? Whatever we have done to our children will be returned to us in the future.

If you don't study well, parents should first reflect on their parenting style. Does the child's interest in learning have long since disappeared after being beaten again and again?

Interest is the best teacher. Let children turn learning into internalized motivation, and they will take the initiative to learn. How?

The child of 1 came last in the exam. What parents should do is not to blame and abuse, but to tell their children that neither we nor the teacher will give up on you, and you still have room for improvement. In this way, children will not feel useless and give up on themselves.

Don't compare with other children, just compare with yourself, and give verbal encouragement if you make progress.

Parents should set a good example for their children, put down their mobile phones, turn off the TV and read books. Sometimes children will change when they see their parents change.

I have seen some interviews with parents and asked: What are your expectations for your children? Most of the answers: let children be admitted to famous universities. The host asked: since you think those famous universities are so good, why don't you take the exam yourself? Parents replied: "We can't, our brains can't, and our energy can't." Conclusion: Your children are likely to become people like you.

Treating children, beating can't achieve your expected effect, it will only lead to stronger resistance from children. Think about what our expectations are and choose the right way to treat children.

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No matter how hard you hit your child, your grades will not improve!

The grades are not typed, but learned!

The child came last in the exam. Parents should first reflect on whether they usually care enough about their children. Caring is not only about whether their children have enough food and warm clothes. Care here should also include care for children's mental health and care for children's schooling!

Parents can't leave their children at school and feel that they have no burden. Let teachers and schools take care of them, just like sending them to kindergarten! No matter how the child behaves in school, I don't care whether the child has mastered the knowledge that should be mastered every day! Rushing to beat and scold as soon as the exam results come out will only cause greater psychological harm to children.

Therefore, parents should pay more attention to their children's performance in study and school! If you find that your child is abnormal, you should contact the teacher in time to learn about your child's situation at school!

Secondly, parents can choose or ask others to help their children with their lessons. By analyzing the wrong questions on the children's test papers, selective counseling is carried out. For example, which topics are careless and which topics are really not done. This will also let the children know for themselves and gradually improve their grades!

Do you want the cow to walk faster? Do you want to beat it and walk faster? Or is it faster to eat with grass in front? There is a man smarter than an ox. Children must conform to their nature. Nature will help each other. Children like helping others. Adults should guide their children to do the right thing.

Sugarcane, it has no practical significance. Still need to know where the problem is, plus positive guidance. Junior high school is also the seventh from the bottom. You know, I was admitted to that school with full marks in mathematics. I was scared to death. My mother usually hits me hard, but she is not beaten. The great disappointment she showed stimulated me. I spent a month teaching myself, not only catching up, but also making a name for myself. Forgive me for worshipping myself again.

Let's give another example. One of my daughter's classmates counted down when she first entered primary school. The teacher is very strict with the child. On the contrary, her mother pays more attention to the child's mental health and actively protects the child. My advice to her is to restore the child's self-confidence first. This semester looks good. She is one of the few children with weak absorption, and there are still ways, but most children's problems are actually the problem mapping of family education. Parents have an unshirkable responsibility, so it is better to read more good books.

What I summed up is that

Learning aspect

Liberal arts, including Chinese, English, history and politics ... are all reading. When I was a child, I was a picture book. When you are old, you should choose a suitable book.

Science: It is logic. I recommend Khan Academy, the best free course in the world.

And real children's education should pay attention to

First, children's mental health.

Second, children's upbringing affects their social skills.

Third, team sports.

Fourth, the amount of reading

Fifth, study habits and self-study ability.

My cognition can only reach this level, please correct me.

Asking how to beat a child can improve his grades. It is estimated that the child has played at home before. If hitting children can improve their grades, education will become simple. Beating is the most rude way of education, so parents should use it with caution.

Simply analyze the child's situation, the child's foundation is very poor, and his study habits are not good. Parents should fight, which shows that parents care about their children's grades, but the educational methods are limited. A little advice:

(1) Put down your fist first, have a serious talk with your child, and find out what your child really thinks. If your child still wants to study, you must encourage and support him. If your child tells you that you hate studying, you must find a way to let him know the necessity of studying. If you don't learn, your parents will definitely disagree.

(2) Do a good job of supervision at home. Children have poor foundation and poor study habits. They should change little by little, and don't think about immediate results. Parents should stay with their children when they are doing homework, supervise their study, don't learn while playing, and don't handle homework at will. No matter how much you write, you should be serious, from easy to difficult.

(3) At ordinary times, don't turn over old scores, don't expose scars, and talk about things. As long as the child fails to complete the learning task, point out the mistakes at that time and tell him what to do. Put learning first, make progress, praise in time and give material rewards.

(4) communicate with teachers more. Really connect the children's learning situation at school. Ask the class teacher for any good suggestions to form a joint force between home and school.

Hello, I'm a doctoral student in Peking University, and I have 7 years' tutor experience. Among the junior and senior high school children I have contacted, no one really studies hard because of the abuse of their parents. On the contrary, they will be disgusted with learning.

I think the parents' problem is no longer how to beat their children, but how to help them realize the importance of learning and improve their interest in learning.

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In fact, for the last child, we should see the bright spot. He doesn't learn badly, but he just doesn't learn. Faced with this problem, parents should pay attention to what distracts their children's attention and interest and makes them uninterested in learning. Below I suggest that parents start with these four points:

1. Deeply reflect on yourself and see if your usual behavior has brought negative effects to your children. For example, if you turn off your mobile phone and watch TV again, you will blindly urge your children to learn. You should know that parents' good role models have a great influence on their children. Children need to learn and parents need to improve. At this time, parents can read some books they are interested in, accompany their children to read them and help them learn.

2. Communicate with children more. There are no children who don't want to be praised. When they encounter difficulties in study or life, they should communicate with them more and consider the problem from their perspective. Don't just beat and scold. Growing children are psychologically very fragile. If you beat and scold blindly, the effect will be counterproductive.

3. Understand the situation of children at school. See if children get along well with teachers and classmates. The environment has a great influence on children. If the child's learning environment brings him great pressure, he will naturally escape in his studies.

Therefore, what parents need to do is to understand the child's heart, not to beat and scold. As long as we find the root of the problem, we can help children improve better.

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Hang it with a belt, and then use a tiger stool and pepper water to ensure that he studies hard next time.