In this case, it is suggested that the mother communicate with the children's grandparents in time and explain to the children that criticizing the children is to make them correct their mistakes and never make mistakes again, but blindly caring for and tolerating the children will only turn their small mistakes into big ones and even delay their lives. When mother's educational concept conflicts with grandparents', we should first keep calm. Nowadays, intergenerational education conflicts are very common in China families. Because most families are only children, grandparents and even other elders in the family love their grandchildren. When their children make mistakes, they also choose to turn a blind eye and even blindly tolerate them. Such tolerance will only aggravate the frequency of children's mistakes, and it is impossible for children to realize their wrong behavior or even correct such mistakes.

At this time, when the mother also wants to severely criticize the child, then grandparents will appear unhappy and even cover up the child. In some families, grandparents even directly accuse mothers of not loving their children enough. In this case, it is suggested that mothers keep calm and avoid conflicts with grandparents and affect family harmony.

It is suggested that mothers find their children's fathers and grandparents to communicate their children's educational ideas. If their educational ideas conflict, the mother can try to persuade the child's father to participate in the child's education process, and then let the child's father communicate with grandparents. Let grandparents know that only severe criticism at an appropriate time can help children grow into better people and not embark on the road of illegal crimes in the future, otherwise everyone will only regret it.

When appropriate, we can also show grandparents some similar related cases, so that they can update their educational concepts in time, instead of blindly favoring and tolerating because of their children's love. After all, being a parent means a lot.

Mothers can also communicate with their children more, so that children can know their mistakes in time and correct them. When grandparents blindly favor or tolerate their children's mistakes, mothers can also communicate with their children more. The child's heart is pure, and he has a natural sense of dependence and trust in his mother. Therefore, when a mother calmly tells her children where her mistakes are, it is wrong to do so. In the face of grandparents' partiality, don't use this as a basis to resist her severe criticism and education. Mothers don't like this behavior either. Only children who try to correct their mistakes and take them as a warning are good children.

Of course, in the process of educating children, we can't completely deny the preference of grandparents and parents for children. At the same time, mothers can also use children as a link to communicate the relationship between grandparents, so that grandparents will not intervene when mothers educate their children.

The strict education of mothers to their children also needs to be divided into time, place and occasion. In some cases, it is not advisable for a mother to educate her children strictly. Children naturally like to listen to their mothers. When the mother realizes that the child has made a mistake or done something that makes her unhappy, it is suggested that most mothers can distinguish the time and place of the occasion to choose how to educate their children, instead of blindly choosing severe criticism and education.

In some cases, the mother is too strict, but it will arouse the children's resistance and rebellious psychology. Children will not only resent their mothers in their hearts, but their mother's behavior will also easily hurt their self-esteem. Therefore, we advocate that parents can adopt the education method of love when educating their children.

Parents should pay more attention to their children's psychological activities and life growth. Parents should spend more time with their children, spend more time with their children and learn more about their inner thoughts. Only by understanding and trusting each other with children can it be beneficial to their educational growth. Parents should always participate in the process of their children's education, instead of being busy all day, suddenly learning that their children have made mistakes and immediately treating them severely.

When a child makes a mistake, first of all, it is necessary to find out why the child makes a mistake, whether the child is aware of his own mistake, and blindly insulting or reprimanding can't help the child correct the mistake. Parents and elders should really help their children realize their mistakes and seriously explain to them why it is wrong to do so, and what consequences it will bring if they really insist on doing so. Only in this way can children be alert to making mistakes.

In a word, parents and grandparents love their children, but they can't spoil and tolerate them in the name of love, which will only harm their lifelong development.