Speaking of this topic, it reminds me of the incident of parents being beaten in Nanjing last year. This is a typical incident of intensification of contradictions caused by violence, which has caused a bad social impact and a lot of attention.
Many times, children are bullied at school. Parents' solution is to teach their children to fight back and not to encourage the bully. My children have encountered such problems. Father's idea is to let the children call back. In my opinion, beating can't solve the problem, and children's education needs correct guidance, and my practice has helped children to deal with contradictions in school to some extent.
Here are some ways I teach my children to deal with this contradiction, hoping to help you:
First, appease the child's emotions and teach him to say "no" to bullying others.
Children who are bullied at school are bound to feel scared, lost, disappointed, wronged or super angry. Some children will tell their parents at the first time, and some children will always keep it in mind, which will be reflected in their behavior over time. In any case, daily communication and care for children are necessary.
When you know or find that your child has been bullied at school, as a parent, you should never label him as "cowardly" or "timid" because of bullying, so that the child will feel more inferior and refuse to communicate. The correct way is to encourage children to tell their parents about their bullying and ensure that there is no problem in your communication with children. At the same time, tell the child not to be silent when he is bullied, but to ask the other person loudly: "Why did you hit me! If you hit me again, I will be rude! "
This trick is actually very useful. As we often say, many people bully the weak and fear the hard, and bravely question each other, which makes them stunned.
Second, guide children to reflect problems to teachers, parents and other children's children and find resources to solve problems.
Any contradictions and conflicts in the school should guide children to find teachers or school leaders to coordinate and solve them at the first time. If the teacher doesn't come forward to solve the problem, he can communicate with his parents. The purpose of doing this is to seek the help of others and let children form a correct concept of doing things.
Third, help children build their personal advantages and form self-identity.
Let children participate in physical exercise from an early age, keep fit, and have more determination and courage. Joining sports clubs, such as football teams and basketball teams, can help children make many friends naturally.
At the same time, let children learn and form some personal specialties to help them find self-confidence and establish positive emotions and self-identity. I think most children with psychological sunshine can form self-identity and actively seek solutions when they encounter things.
Children being bullied at school may be a problem that many children and parents need to face. As parents, we are not only guardians of children, but also "teachers" of children. Only correct guidance can help children get out of the haze of school bullying.