1. What are the benefits of EQ education?
1, to help children understand their emotions:
Let children know more about their emotions, understand the causes and effects of various feelings, and realize the gap between feelings and behaviors.
2. Help children manage their emotions correctly:
Let children be more tolerant of setbacks, more worthy of anger, and less quarreling, fighting or disturbing classroom order. It is better to express anger properly without resorting to fighting, and it is less likely to be suspended or dropped out of school, and less likely to show aggressive or self-destructive behavior.
3, help children self-motivation:
I have a positive impression on myself, my school and my family. I am good at relieving stress, feeling less lonely, inferior or anxious, being good at guiding my emotions to develop in the right direction, being more responsible, being able to concentrate on my immediate work and restraining my impulses.
4, let children know other people's emotions:
I can see things from other people's point of view, put myself in other people's shoes and listen better.
5, enable children to manage interpersonal relationships:
The ability to analyze and understand interpersonal relationships is enhanced, and people know how to solve and negotiate disputes and solve interpersonal conflicts. Communication is clearer, more skillful, more outgoing and more popular. The relationship with classmates has improved, friends have been invited more times, and they are more considerate and caring for others. More gregarious, more know how to cooperate, share and help each other. Treat people well and know how to value each other. The most noteworthy thing is the improvement of academic performance and school performance.
EQ education can not only shape children's complete personality, but also be of great help to children's learning. It will make the child's character more tenacious and better handle the problems encountered in the learning process.
2. The correct method of EQ education
First, help children identify their emotions.
A child came back from school and said to you: A classmate hit me at school today! His father skillfully replied, Are you all right? Some classmates hit you, and you are wronged?
This answer not only helps children identify their emotional state, but also brings two major benefits. First of all, children can learn from it, and then they have to deal with their own emotions, not each other. In other words, what they should really do now is not to go to the other party for theory because they feel wronged, but to realize that the real trouble is actually their own emotional response, so what they should work hard at later is how to debug their emotions and make appropriate responses. Secondly, children can learn empathy from it. I feel uncomfortable being beaten this time. We'll find out later. If I hit someone, others will feel the same way. This kind of profound emotional experience is helpful to improve children's ability of empathy. Therefore, from the perspective of emotional intelligence education, it will kill two birds with one stone. After helping children identify emotions, parents can ask again: Do you want to tell me what happened? This is a very important way of parent-child communication. When parents learn to ask questions and listen, children will be willing to speak, cultivate good communication habits between parents and children, and let each other communicate smoothly.
Second, help children build self-confidence.
Self-confidence is the cornerstone of emotional intelligence. Confident children can be calm and correct in the face of malicious attacks from others, have good anti-frustration and anti-pressure ability, and will be handy in interpersonal communication.
Parents' evaluation of children directly affects their self-confidence. Therefore, if you only criticize and rarely praise, parents will unconsciously shape their children's poor self-image. Therefore, it is suggested that parents can sit down and write down the advantages that children deserve to appreciate. What I want to remind parents in particular here is that these advantages should not be the result of comparison between children and others, but the characteristics of children themselves. For example, it is very caring and good for small animals; Very polite, will take the initiative to greet friends and so on these personality characteristics, rather than. Always at the top of the list and other results based on comparison. If you want to praise your child's academic performance, it will be a good reason to study hard and push yourself. Encouraging and affirming children to have proper confidence in themselves will greatly improve their emotional intelligence.
Third, help children develop management skills of negative emotions.
In some primary and secondary schools in the United States, meditation exercises are added to the curriculum, so that children can sit down, close their eyes and concentrate for 20 minutes. However, recent experiments have found that meditation helps to reduce one's anxiety, strengthen one's attention and further improve learning efficiency. These relaxation techniques, properly designed, are suitable for children, and if they are learned early, they will be helpful for children's future stress resistance. Parents can encourage their children to develop healthy hobbies and help them relieve stress, such as taking their children to exercise, painting and singing. Psychological research shows that doing exercise is one of the best ways to relieve stress. Doing aerobic exercise for more than 20 minutes will promote the secretion of endorphins in the brain, thus playing a physiological role in relieving stress.
Fourth, cultivate children's interpersonal skills.
Nowadays, children are all only children, so parents should arrange more opportunities to welcome their children's playmates to play, study and spend important moments in life (such as birthdays). Parents who attach importance to emotional intelligence will not pay attention to the comparison results between their children and others when their children participate in these group activities.
What parents should observe is whether children take the initiative to talk to others when interacting with others. Or are you too shy to talk? How does he react when people talk to him? And in the case of conflict with others, how did he deal with it? In order to prevent themselves from falling into the inertial thinking of competing with others, parents may wish to prepare a small notebook to remind themselves of the key points of observation and make records.
Fifth, cultivate children's optimistic and positive attitude.
Psychological research has found that as long as a child has a positive view of himself and an optimistic attitude towards the future, parents can rest assured that this child will not be too far away from happiness in this life.
Know how to look at things positively. There is a child, and once the teacher criticizes his historical achievements in public, most children will feel embarrassed. However, he made a psychological adjustment and smiled and said to his mother, "Fortunately, the teacher criticized my worst subject. If one of my subjects is criticized by him, I will be even worse. " Having such positive thinking ability is a wonderful display of optimism, because he knows how to see the positive side of things in any environment, so as to avoid the improper interference of negative emotions and find the motivation to motivate himself.
In order to help children learn to see the bright side of things, parents should always use positive questions to inspire their children's thinking. For example, what do you think of this new classmate you met today? When encountering setbacks, such as children's unsatisfactory performance on the stage, parents should not say, "What's wrong with you today? You behaved badly "but you should use it", and you may have let yourself down this time. Do you think there is anything worthy of recognition? " In this way, children have the ability to think positive answers, such as making a little progress than last time, or learning important experiences, so they should be more fully prepared for the next stage. Positive thinking ability is formed over time. Parents can help their children develop optimistic and positive thinking habits as long as they spend more time.
3. EQ education era
EQ education includes how to deal with stress, interpersonal relationship, self-control and willpower. It is a cornerstone of children's growth. So when is the age to receive EQ education?
3 years old to 12 years old is the key period to receive EQ education. As early as abroad, EQ education has been incorporated into the teaching system of primary and secondary schools.
In China, some psychologists have found that children who have received formal emotional intelligence training in the critical period are better than those who have not received special training in academic performance, interpersonal relationship, future work performance and marital status. EQ education can not only improve children's academic performance, but also help to form optimistic and confident personality characteristics.
It can be seen that EQ education is a precious asset for children's life!
4. The importance of EQ education
In a sense, EQ is even more important than IQ. With the increasing diversification and integration of the future society, a higher EQ will help a person to succeed.
At present, most parents pay too much attention to their children's IQ development and neglect their children's EQ development. In fact, early EQ education is particularly important, and it is a kind of psychological shaping. If a child is withdrawn from childhood, it is difficult to cooperate; Inferiority, fragility, inability to face setbacks, impatience, stubbornness, conceit and emotional instability, no matter how high his IQ is, are difficult to achieve. Emotional intelligence should be cultivated from an early age. On the contrary, children with high emotional intelligence will have good self-awareness, actively explore, build self-confidence in exploration, control emotions, resist setbacks, like to communicate with others, and be willing to share and cooperate, so as to prepare for future success. The development of infant's early emotional intelligence is closely related to parental rearing patterns, which in turn are related to how parents correctly understand their own temperament. Only by establishing parent-child attachment correctly can they correctly identify their own temperament. When children are four or five years old, their brains will grow to two-thirds the size of adults. Its precise evolution is the fastest stage in their lives. The most important learning ability, especially emotional learning ability, has also been greatly developed during this period. The emotional experience before the age of 6 has a lasting impact on a person's life. If the child can't concentrate at this time, be impatient, suspicious, irritable, pessimistic, destructive, lonely and anxious, fantasize about all kinds of fears and be dissatisfied with himself, then it will be difficult for him to seize opportunities in the face of various challenges in his future life. Develop potential. It can be said that I lost at the starting line. Therefore, it is necessary to carry out formal and systematic EQ education for children, which is the basis of success or failure in life. Unfortunately, many parents and kindergarten teachers know little about this. They turn a blind eye to the problems caused by children's low emotional intelligence, or they are helpless, or they just solve the problems through criticism, punishment and control. They know how to guide them with a scientific eye, not educate them with a scientific method.