The main problems of family education
1. Lack of harmonious family atmosphere
Some families, especially those of vulnerable groups, such as farmers, migrant workers, unemployed people and children from economically poor families, have low living standards, and some children lack the necessary learning conditions. Left-behind children and street children have become social problems. Some parents have abnormal marriages, and the number of children raised by single parents, reorganization, intergenerational support and guardianship next door has increased; There are also parents who quarrel and fight because of personality, income and other reasons, lacking mutual respect and love. The disharmony of family and the turmoil of life make minors feel insecure, and some children lose their sense of belonging to their parents and confidence in their families. Generally speaking, children who can't get the warmth and care of their families are aggressive and rebellious, and it is easy to go astray.
2. Old ideas and improper education
Some parents regard their children as their private property and don't respect the value of life; A considerable number of parents are narrow-minded and "hope to succeed" and "force success". Blind family education ignores children's personality growth, and children's personality dignity is violated. Because psychological needs and self-growth are not realized, many children are psychologically distorted and form bad behavior. Nowadays, it is difficult for college students to find jobs, and parents should also reflect. The tendency to spoil the only child leads to our children's weak viability, lack of sense of responsibility and weak competitiveness.
3. Poor learning ability
Many young couples have not been fully prepared psychologically, and their children have already arrived. How to raise and educate children has never been learned or specially trained. Although some parents have read some books, they often don't understand the scientific nature of family education and lack of pertinence. Therefore, "shouting, scolding, beating, stealing (children's privacy) and robbing (children's property)" is very common in China families. A considerable number of parents and guardians don't understand and can't educate and raise according to law, can't master the laws and methods of family education through learning, and can't give positive humanistic care, psychological care and growth guidance to growing children, resulting in mental retardation and unsound personality of minors. Children who are "managed", especially those who are beaten, abused, seemingly "loved" under strict supervision and "specially" studied, are often not fully protected in their rights to survival, development, protection, participation and education. Children are traumatized, their interest in learning declines, their social anxiety deepens, their psychology becomes rebellious, their ability gradually improves, and "happy growth" becomes an empty talk.
4. Don't set an example.
Some parents and guardians have poor quality, lack of care and stubborn social roles, which leads some children to wander on the edge of society and fall into despair, and some children suffer from serious mental illness and give up on themselves.
Parents should also receive education.
Family education is the earliest, longest and most influential education that people receive. Parents' education for their children is to form moral habits, living habits, study habits and cultivate temperament, which is the most important education link in life. Good family education benefits people for life. The key to the healthy growth of children lies in improving the quality of parents and the ability to carry out positive family education. "Parents who have problems with children should take medicine" should become the consensus of the whole society.
A famous saying about maternal love: a virtuous mother makes a virtuous child.
A good mother makes a good son. -Han Ying, a schol