First, the understanding of success:

Children's adulthood is more important than success.

The basic standards of adults (can be home): self-esteem, basic moral judgment of right and wrong, and being able to stand on their own feet and make a living independently when they grow up.

The basic standard of success (can be for the country): useful to society.

Children can be adults, but not adults. It can be useless to society, but it can't harm society.

Second, the understanding of children's requirements:

Habit is more important than achievement. Understanding is more important than ranking.

1, the basic conditions of children are not much different, it is difficult to judge who is smart and who is stupid.

You have to pay attention to your grades in exams, and you pay more attention to your character in employment.

After good study habits are formed, grades will naturally be consolidated and improved.

2, the quality of one or two grades can not represent anything, the exam is accidental, but should be more concerned about whether it should be wrong, will it. Don't make the same mistake next time.

Third, the understanding of child management:

Environment is more important than conditions, example is more important than words, and guidance is more important than suppression.

1, environment is more important than conditions. The quality of family conditions is not important, but how to create an environment conducive to children's learning and growth under the existing conditions.

2. What kind of parents will teach what kind of children, and many influences are subtle.

3. Take care of the child and convince him. Arbitrary behavior is often more likely to cause rebellious psychology.

Fourth, the understanding of the cooperation between family and school education:

Study: Studying is more important than studying at school, and studying is more important than studying at home.

New knowledge needs to be instilled in schools, and parents can't know everything. Homework needs supervision.

Discipline: teaching is more important than management in school, and management is more important than teaching in family.

In a word, children's growth is a systematic project completed by family, school and society. Only with close cooperation from all sides can children grow up healthily and become useful people to their families and countries when they grow up.