Misunderstandings in family education

First, overindulgence.

Nowadays, society is extremely rich in materials. Therefore, in order to make up for their childhood desires, some parents will give all the good things to their children and "spoil" them. Let children get great material satisfaction, resulting in children having no concept of money. In housework, children are not allowed to do anything. What children do is self-centered and does not consider the feelings of others. Selfishness, willfulness and laziness will distort children's values.

Second, the concept of family education is wrong.

The wrong family education killed the child's nature. Beating and scolding children is either timid or rebellious. If you don't care about your children, you may be happy for a while, but for some children with poor self-control, you may be rambling, have no idea of time, have no idea of money, and even take a detour.

Third, let nature take its course, water under the bridge.

Parents mistakenly believe that children's education is a school matter, and they only raise and don't teach. As a result, their children are not encouraged in time when they make progress, which makes them feel unfulfilled and lose the motivation to continue to make progress. If a child makes a mistake and can't correct it in time, he will become accustomed to it and get deeper and deeper.

Fourth, parents' excessive interference makes children helpless.

Some parents don't trust their children and listen to their explanations. Corporal punishment may successfully force children to obey their parents' wishes, but it must be temporary and partial, and the problems it brings far outweigh the problems it solves. Some parents will say something that hurts their children's hearts and ignore it. These practices are hidden forms of soft violence.

Get out of the misunderstanding of family education

1, be careful of the company. Parental companionship is the best family education. Children will encounter all kinds of difficulties when they grow up. If they are accompanied by their parents, they will not be afraid, but will become strong and brave. Parents can also learn a lot from their children in the process of companionship. Therefore, companionship is the basis for parents and children to grow together.

2. Equal respect. In traditional family education, parents regard their children as their accessories and let them act according to their own orders, which leads to the lack of independence and self-confidence in their growth. Therefore, excellent family education must be democratic and parents and children respect each other. Only in an environment of mutual respect can the relationship between parents and children be more harmonious and the children can be fully developed.

3. The role of parents as role models. Parents are role models for children, and their words and deeds directly affect their growth. Many smart parents will "deliberately" behave better in front of their children and set a good example for them.

Therefore, parents also need to keep learning and improve their own quality, especially in public. When children have problems in some aspects, parents should first reflect on their words and deeds in order to have a positive effect on children's behavior.