Several mothers have a headache for their children's precocity. They started this conversation on QQ.
Inviting the moon: "Some time ago, my son asked me: Can boys and girls have children when they sleep? My father and mother fell asleep and gave birth to me. Why did you sleep with your mother without having a baby? I don't know how to answer him! "
Vision: "I also want to find this knowledge. Once, I took my children out and saw dogs mating. He told me they were mating. I was shocked at that time: I was only 9 years old, and I knew it? ! "
I am crazy about youth: "So is my little daughter. Once I talked about how people came from, and she actually said that it was a combination of sperm and eggs, which made me don't know how to say it! "
Years are like a song: "My son asked me how I got BB? I said that people give birth to BB as soon as they get married. He said, how did you know you were going to have BB? ! "
O 'Hanxuemei: "My son asked his father why he didn't give his mother a present on Valentine's Day." ? His father asked him, what gift will you give your mother? He said, I am my mother's son, not her lover! His father asked him, what is a lover? He said it was the kind where two people kissed and slept together! Where do you think children study now? ! "
"Sleeping with your arms, just like getting married!"
My 4-year-old son often talks about marrying his mother. It was cold some time ago, and grandma gave him a bath. Because she was afraid of catching cold, she hugged him to sleep. She didn't want to just lie down, but her son smiled and said to her shyly, "Hug and sleep! It seems to be married! " I'm a little in distress situation-is this what three or four-year-old children say? Grandma was also shocked by the little guy and quickly pushed the child away: "Shame! Shame to death! " When my son saw it, he cried with injustice.
Decryption of childlike innocence: The study found that two or three-year-old babies have begun to feel surprised and uneasy about gender issues, and preschool children are more keen on playing sex games such as "getting married" or "doctors examining their bodies", which is actually a normal physiological and psychological reaction of children. Young parents should have basic baby knowledge at this time and discuss the differences between male and female roles for their babies; When children imitate adults on TV or in movies, they should tell him the significance of the intimate relationship between adults and children. Of course, adults should also pay attention to whether the usual practice is suitable for children. When you find your baby doing "marriage" or other "sex games", don't scold or punish him rudely, so that the child feels that "sex" is dirty and has done a very bad thing by himself, which will have a negative impact on his sexual psychology in the future.
0~ 1 year: Know your body. Starting from 8 months, parents should guide their babies to know their own bodies. For example, according to the baby's understanding, naturally explain to him the various parts and functions of the body, treat the baby's body with care and appreciation, and let him correctly understand and treat his body.
1~2 years old: Understand the difference between men and women. 1 year and a half later, the baby can notice the physiological differences between men and women, let boys and girls of the same age take a bath together, and let them recognize each other's physiological differences; With the development of language, babies will begin to ask gender-related words. At this time, don't use other names to replace or avoid children. You should scientifically and correctly tell the baby the names of the corresponding parts, so that the child can feel as natural as other parts of the body and satisfy his curiosity.
2~5 years old: treat private parts correctly. Children may touch their genitals or play "sex games" in public when they enter the stage of sexual bud. At this time, it is not appropriate to reprimand or stop children with words like "shame". This will make children have a bad evaluation of their health. The more natural the behavior of adults towards children, the more naturally children can accept their bodies and themselves. Tell him what secrets he can't expose, how to protect them, wear loose clothes for children to reduce stimulation, and increase interesting activities to divert attention.
Sexual enlightenment: from the age of 0
How do children know so much?
I talked with netizens about children's sex education. Some parents think that their children are too young to understand so much, just perfunctory. Some parents think that this is a matter of self-study, and there is absolutely no need to tell their children to avoid embarrassment. However, I think, with the increase of juvenile sex crime rate in society, it is urgent to educate children about sex. Fortunately, my husband and I are both studying medicine, and there are enough books at home to let our daughter know about the origin of human body and life.
When our daughter was 7 years old, we showed her Atlas of Human Anatomy, so our daughter understood the gender differences between men and women. However, for children's doubts about the process of life, we always feel that we can't start, and we are in the same embarrassing situation as our parents. Just when I was at my wit's end, my friend sent me a short video of motherhood, and I got a treasure.
In the evening, I invited my daughter to watch the video together. At first, my daughter looked a little stiff and uncomfortable. Seeing that mothers were busy with big bellies, she hugged me affectionately and said, "Mom was so hard at the beginning." I suddenly feel that our mother and daughter's hearts are very close at once. The daughter watched the movie quietly and seriously. When she saw a mother lying on the operating table for caesarean section, her daughter opened her eyes in surprise. I took the opportunity to show her the scars when I gave birth to my daughter. The daughter touched the wound carefully and asked, "Mom, does it hurt?" I smiled and shook my head. The daughter cried and said, "Mom really suffers for me. I must honor my mother."
Later, my daughter wanted to know how she got into her mother's stomach, so I took out physiology to tell her the origin of life. When a child knows that only one of thousands of sperm can combine with an egg to give birth to a "me", he is determined to cherish life, study hard and be an extraordinary person.
Children's youth should be the happiest and most naive, but children's wrong understanding of physical development will bring them psychological pressure. I think parents should study more, use various media, watch and discuss some educational short films, and teach their children healthy sexual concepts and knowledge in the right way.
Mother Jing:
I teach my daughter about sex.
Three or four-year-old babies will clamor for marriage and imitate kissing into the bridal chamber. Older children will ask, "Where am I from?" "Why do people have children" and "How do sperm combine with eggs" are jaw-dropping questions. How should parents answer these "sensitive" topics? How do parents deal with children who are curious about everything?
Say to parents:
Most children in childhood will find differences in reproductive organs between men and women, which will arouse their great curiosity. At this time, they will ask all kinds of questions: Where am I from? Why are you getting married? When a child is confused and asks you for help, it doesn't mean that he begins to become complicated and bad. In fact, the answer children need is very simple, far less complicated than we adults think. The more you try to avoid it, the more you can arouse your child's curiosity. Parents use scientific knowledge to uncover the mystery of sex for their children: for example, when visiting the zoo, they explain the knowledge of animal mating to their children; Or show the child some popular science pictures and sex education books about the development of the fetus in the womb, scientifically explain the mystery of life to him, and let the child know that he came out of his mother's stomach and knew the hardships of pregnancy and the preciousness of life.
Say to the child:
When mom and dad can't answer your question clearly, it's not that they don't want to tell you, but it's possible that they can't tell what's going on themselves. Because no one told them when they were your age. It's better to communicate with them directly your opinions and the knowledge you have gained. In addition, the attitude of elders may make you angry, but their suggestions are usually reasonable, so you can give them appropriate advice.