Although we can't put all the blame on parents, parents are indeed the people who have the deepest influence on their children. As the film says, "children are a mirror of family, and family is a mirror of society." Parents are the most important teachers for their children, but they are also the most prone to make mistakes.
First of all, we should learn to have emotional communication with children, and the first step of emotional communication is listening.
For example, Jia Ming in the documentary wanted to ride through a street in Wuhan, and his parents' reaction was "I refused before I finished". If we are Jia Ming, it is strange that we have no rebellious mentality. Effective emotional communication is based on learning to put yourself in the child's shoes, thinking from his standpoint, listening to him finish his thoughts, and then expressing his views peacefully.
Empathy is respect for children and an important skill for effective communication. It can help us better understand our children, convey our views, and make them more receptive to our suggestions and wishes.
Secondly, it is to accept the child's "out of control"
When the children grow up day by day, one day, we will find that the little man doesn't know when to start resisting, so we start to be afraid.
In fact, it is not that the child is infected with the virus, but that he suddenly has his own feelings. Our anxiety about children's "out of control" stems from our lack of understanding of our own lives. In the past, we could turn a blind eye, but when this incident was revealed through children, it was an unavoidable "problem". We are worried about this precisely because we lack confidence in the future.
Third, no matter how hard it is, don't cry for the children.
Ze Qing in the film, because his parents often "cry poor" with him, encourages him to study hard and realize his own value. Who knows that this method has caused negative effects. We can see that the Zeqing family belongs to people who have made considerable achievements in society. Perhaps such a family will unconsciously pass on a value to children-they must be excellent to have a sense of existence.
Therefore, when Zeqing learned that the film crew belonged to CCTV, he agreed to transform the school at the first time. This shows how much Zeqing wants to prove himself and how eager to have a sense of existence.
Some people say that most of what the rich pass on to the next generation is freedom, ambition, calmness, self-discipline and perseverance. What the poor pass on to the next generation is mostly inferiority, shortsightedness, violence, laxity and giving up easily.
Of course, the poverty and wealth mentioned here are not only the material basis, but also the spiritual level. Never bring this sense of psychological deprivation to children.