Did you tell him your love for your child in words or words? We can love deeply, but we can also try to say our love out loud. Our real thoughts, our worries, anxieties, affirmations and disappointments, when we become more simple and transparent to each other and let emotions and relationships flow constantly, we may get a possibility, which may open some sticking points, establish a bond and establish some mutual understanding.
Don't restrain children too much.
On this basis, you may become more open to children. Honesty can enhance the sense of security. When he is still using his mobile phone, even if the total time is not shortened at first, he may try to shorten the time he plays behind your back and shorten the time he plays in bad environment. For example, "playing mobile phone for a long time in the dark" is such a harsh environment.
Design a plan to manage time.
Of course, the goal of this kind of time management can't be decided by our words or assumptions, and children will always be the protagonist of the action. Quietly wait for their time goal, as long as it is their own decision, follow them first. His decision is a subjective concept, which may be far from your expectation, or it is very unreasonable (the irrationality here is actually subjective). You can try to negotiate with him and express your opinion peacefully, but don't force him to agree. You have a fifty percent chance of being accepted by him. In the other half, you can still be miserable, but it's the right thing to do. A small step to complete the "challenge" set by yourself is far more effective than a hundred steps forced by others in the long run. This may also enhance his self-confidence. Who said Hu Die's wings wouldn't be that small?
Strive to create a good family environment
In the above process, we strive to create a democratic and open environment, but there are some principles that must be strictly implemented and cannot be compromised-you can't bring your mobile phone into the room when you sleep. He may have 10 thousand reasons for refusing, or he may not be able to change quickly because of habit and dependence. We know when to retire, but when to enter, we must move forward firmly. ? "How to enter" is an arduous and skillful job, and there is no panacea to provide. Only we know our children best. What kind of food does he eat? And his "Where is the loosest brick?" All these require our calm observation, sincere empathy and delicate balance. ?
No matter what method is adopted, our role should be to stand on the side of the child and meet the challenge with him, instead of accusing him of indulgence on the side of the child. Just like when he learns to walk, we always stand beside him and raise his arm instead of blaming him for not walking fast at once.