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Family Education Online Dialogue: Wang Zhongcheng talks about cultivating children's good habits.

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Qingdao News Network April 30 th In order to continuously improve the quality of parents' family education and promote the healthy growth of children, Qingdao Women's Federation invited Wang Zhongcheng, an expert in children's education in our city, to visit Qingdao News Network to answer parents' puzzles and questions in the process of educating their children. Teacher Wang Zhongcheng has been engaged in family education research and publicity practice for a long time, and has published family education monographs such as Can You Educate Children and Fairy Tales Crystal Palace, and has been a guest on family education programs such as Qingdao TV Station and Qingdao People's Broadcasting Station for many times, which has been well received by parents. The theme of this dialogue is how to cultivate children's good habits.

Habit determines character, and character determines fate. Teacher Wang Zhongcheng will use many vivid examples to communicate with parents the important role of cultivating good habits from childhood in the healthy growth of children.

prologue

Hello, friends from Wang Zhongcheng. I am very happy to communicate with you online through this information channel at this time to discuss the topic of how to cultivate children's good habits. If you encounter any confusion or anxiety in the process of educating your children, you can leave a message and send it. I will communicate with you online to help you find the right way and method to educate your children.

Wonderful question and answer

Message board My son is 2 years old. When he went out and saw a stranger greeting him, he hit someone and smiled happily. What should I do?

Wang Zhongcheng, this is a kind of communication behavior of children, and parents need to help correct it in time, otherwise it will lead to excessive behavior in the long run. When a child hits someone, parents should not deliberately criticize or accuse him. Under appropriate circumstances, they can take measures to deal with it and ignore it. Because someone pays attention to the child after hitting him and finds it very interesting, he laughs happily. In the process of children's growth, it is necessary to tell him clearly that hitting people is impolite and disrespectful.

I can't study online because of work that day, but I hope Mr. Wang Can can give me some advice.

My daughter is seven years old, in the first grade of primary school. Her academic performance is ok, except that she is too slow to concentrate. She gets worried at the slightest movement. When staring at her, she will take the time to play. I also told her to study like a learner. After learning, she can have a good time, but she can't. How can we guide her to form the habit of taking time to concentrate? thank you

Wang Zhongcheng, it's a child's procrastination. It is also because parents are unwilling to accept the reflection of parents' behavior when they interfere with students' learning. Maybe you nag your child almost every day in your life, and let her study as soon as she enters the door. Children's nature is to play, so what about learning without interest? So you should correct the child's dullness in time.

First-year primary school students usually attend classes for 40 minutes, and there is also a time period for studying at home, usually 15-20 minutes. Take 20 minutes as an example, let the children finish a specific homework at this stage, and observe the children's movements, eyes and behaviors in time during the process of writing homework. When time-consuming phenomena are found, they should be stopped in time. Children should be praised in time when they complete their learning tasks, and their grades should be enlarged. Let children feel the joy gained after giving.

Generally speaking, it takes 2 1 day to form a habit, and you can persevere in this 2 1 day. I believe that children's learning efficiency will be fast. On the other hand, when children are doing things, they should also be controlled to complete tasks within a period of time, so that they should have a sense of urgency whether they are studying or completing their own things. Efficiency will naturally increase. If the child completes the task within the specified time period, parents should give rewards, especially spiritual rewards.

Message board Our female treasure is always in a hurry, likes to throw things and smash things, which is a bit violent; Because she can't speak, sometimes adults don't understand her needs and make "ahhh" sounds, so she really wants to hear the advice of experts on how to cultivate her good personality and habits.

Wang Zhongcheng, this is because when the first act of excesses appeared, you thought it was fun, aroused children's interest, and thought it was fun to throw things and smash things. Moreover, after the fall, we should pay full attention to it, which aroused the children's good sense of movement. So he thinks you only pay attention to children when you throw things. You can ignore the child when he throws something again, and even improve the communication language for the child to make the child feel scared, so that the child's falling phenomenon will be slowly corrected. Because no one pays attention to him when throwing or smashing things again, the child will naturally step into the formal.

Hello, DuDu Ma expert. Now the child is four years old and three months old. At present, the most prominent aspect is procrastination. He always finishes what he wants to do first, and then does what he should do, just like making excuses, such as getting up in the morning and getting dressed. Secondly, he assembles the building blocks himself. He used to put them together quietly, but if he accidentally broke them, he would lose his temper and push everything else together.

I don't know what to do with it. Ask experts to give appropriate guidance to Mimang's parents. Thank you!

It is normal for Wang Zhongcheng's 4-year-old children to become disobedient. What parents should pay attention to is that they should appropriately set boundaries and frameworks for him in behavior, and at the same time pay attention to the changes in the environment, and make the children's environment as cartoon as much as possible, so as to attract children to the surrounding environment. With a good environment, children's behavior can be slightly curbed. If the child is broken after completing the building blocks, parents should not criticize him deliberately, but encourage him to organize himself and give him the habit of doing things for himself.

MONICALJQ's daughter is in the second grade of primary school, but there is nothing wrong with taking care of herself in daily life, that is, she has a poor sense of time when studying, and she doesn't plan her homework or check her homework. She is often educated and guided in these aspects at ordinary times, but the effect is not great; Asked why she did this, she said she was lazy and didn't want to do it. I want to know what the reason is, whether it is related to being strict with her in peacetime and what can be done to improve it. Thank you for your reply.

Wang Zhongcheng: This is because children are not interested in learning. Parents should guide him to complete the learning task within the specified time, and clearly tell him that learning is his own business, just like eating every day. It is necessary and necessary in a certain period of time.

Message board Today's children all have a common habit, that is, they love to eat snacks. Buy snacks every time you go out, especially when you come out of kindergarten every day. Those dazzling stalls and colorful candy are particularly attractive to children. When they see other children buying, they should also buy some for them, and sometimes they will give him patience and reason. He listened, too, but he didn't care so much when he saw other children holding snacks. In fact, we can understand his feelings. Sometimes adults can't resist the temptation and eat some snacks. Now the quality of children's food in society is really worrying. How do we parents teach our children to eat snacks correctly, or are there any educational methods to change this habit? We can't always satisfy children's tastes and give them anything they want.

In this situation in Wang Zhongcheng, parents should decisively tell their children the dangers of eating snacks. When a child cries to buy snacks, he must make up his mind to take the child away. If the child is forced to stay, parents can take cold treatment. When a child is punished like this for the first time, there will be a fear in his heart. The second time, parents are still like this. If this continues, children will think that this is a bad behavior. When children see that snacks are no longer available, parents should take incentive measures, such as buying books for their children or taking them out to play.

Message board children are very obedient at home, and they are a different person when they arrive at school. They don't make trouble with others in class, they only make small moves and don't listen carefully. How should we educate them?

Wang Zhongcheng, this is because children have not developed study habits. First of all, we should make rules for our children. Tell him clearly that school and family should be the same. Second, the educational methods should be correct. Don't put homework first when children come in. Third, habit formation should be persistent. Because habits are gradually formed in constant repetition. It is not a day to cultivate children's good study habits. As parents, you can't have it if you think of it, and you can put it down if you can't remember it. Parents should combine love with strictness, and ask their children to do things well first. Fourth, education should be persistent. The requirements for children within the family should be the same. If parents let their children do it and grandparents deny their parents' opinions, children will feel that there is someone behind them and will relax themselves. Therefore, one is to stimulate interest, and the other is to let children understand the truth of learning.

Message board baby 18 months, has gradually shown character. She has a stubborn temper. If she is unhappy, she will cry until she achieves her goal. Moreover, she likes to pinch people and bite people. Anyway, she won't change, and she doesn't know when she started to develop the habit. I want to know how to educate this child.

Wang Zhongcheng: This is because when the child cries for the first time, the parents meet the child's requirements, so when the child wants to achieve his wish again, he will cry.

The correct way is to tell the child a simple truth when he is crying. If the child doesn't listen, you can take appropriate cold treatment. In this way, his behavior will appear in a domineering manner. Therefore, before the child develops this habit, correct it quickly.

Vvvv, he thinks learning is boring and tiring, not to mention ambitious goals, but just wants to play. But I'm interested in seeing a psychiatrist, hoping to hear their opinions.

Wang Zhongcheng This is because parents nag too much in front of their children, so that their own language affects their children's thinking development and loses their free space. Parents' nagging encourages children to be unwilling to learn. If you continue to set development goals for your child, it is equivalent to formatting your child's interests. Therefore, you should first liberate your children, find out the shortcomings and mistakes of your own education, and dare to admit your mistakes in front of them. The most important thing is to form the habit of communicating with children. Because your child's personality has gradually changed from extroversion to introversion.

Message board children have been learning piano for more than a year and just entered the first grade of primary school. Recently, when she talked about practicing the piano, she felt very uncomfortable and wronged. I would like to ask the experts: how to adjust and deal with it? Thank you very much

Wang Zhongcheng should arrange the children's time reasonably. Focus on your interests. Parents must be intoxicated with the sound of the piano when their children practice it. If the child is playing wrong, you can touch the child's head properly and say "it doesn't matter". In this way, children will feel happy when practicing the piano. With the applause and encouragement of family members, children will enjoy playing the piano for their families more and more. This will also have the effect of practicing piano. Blindly criticizing can only drag the child's hind legs. Without interest, the piano will naturally become dumb.

Message board My daughter has just turned four years old. She is usually smart, but she doesn't like learning. When she heard that she was going to take her out to play, she ran faster than anyone, but she didn't have the patience to learn anything, such as reading and writing numbers. She usually doesn't fall in love with kindergarten. Every morning, my mother and I will discuss whether to go or not and why to go ... The teacher said that if children listen carefully in kindergarten, they will remember everything. And if it is something she is interested in, the child can remember it even when playing (adults think she didn't hear it). But in most cases, children don't listen to their teachers, and they are not ADHD.

Four-year-olds in Wang Zhongcheng want to grow up by playing. If children are forced to read and write numbers, they certainly don't want to do it. Because this is not what children of this age should do. Children over 4 years old should have laughter. Find and find your own happiness in active activities. When you take him out to play, you just play while moving. Therefore, on weekdays, you should pay attention to your language, behavior and habits, especially to influence your children with your words and deeds. Children don't want to study or go to kindergarten. This is because you are too strict on weekdays, or you have said something radical and hurt his self-esteem, so you have no interest in mentioning it. Finally, if you are really smart, you will be fooled by being smart.

Message board My son is three years old and one month old. He started kindergarten at the age of two and a half. It's been over half a year. But I still cried. Crying every day, crying badly. He is the only crying child in the garden, and I feel embarrassed every time I send him. The child belongs to the introverted type and never likes to play with children, which may be one of the reasons why he can't find fun in kindergarten. However, no child has cried for such a long time. It's really a headache I tried all kinds of methods, coaxing, scaring and rewarding. If not, it's really helpless. Ask the experts to give me some advice.

Wang Zhongcheng children don't want to go to kindergarten, which is an obstacle to their behavior. You should communicate with the teacher in time. When the child doesn't cry, be sure to enlarge the praise. You can set him a form at home or ask the teacher to record the day when he stopped crying. It is necessary to praise children in public in time and let them feel the fun of kindergarten. Teachers or parents should give spiritual or material rewards in time, so that she can feel the opportunity to show herself and express herself in the big family of kindergarten. Parents should sum up in front of their children week by week, review their best performance this week, talk about their daily progress, and let their children feel the benefits of going to kindergarten. With interest, you have the ambition to go to kindergarten.

Gggg, as a parent, how do you explain gender issues to your children?

Wang Zhongcheng: I don't know how old your child is, but as the child grows older, we should seize the appropriate opportunity to tell him about the various organs of the human body, let him understand that there are differences between men and women, and clearly tell him about the physiological characteristics of boys and girls.

How does the message board explain the divorce of parents to young children? How to tell the child when he is still young?

If Wang Zhongcheng's parents are really divorced, try to let the children know. Because the younger the child is, the less psychological damage caused by stimulation and blow. Therefore, it is necessary to tell children that the purpose of parents' divorce is ok.

Message board My baby is 2 years old and 7 months old, and is going to send her to kindergarten in September. My mother-in-law has been taking care of her. Old people are spoiled and have weak self-care ability. Now playing outside and feeding, I can't live without my relatives, and I'm a little worried. When is the right time to send her to kindergarten? If she goes to school in September, what should I do these months?

If Wang Zhongcheng enters the park in September, you should liberate the children as soon as possible, that is to say, do what you can, such as eating without adult feeding, and tell him to eat by himself in kindergarten. Only by doing it yourself can you eat sweet meals. Your children still need to be fed by adults, and they lack the opportunity to exercise. In this way, children will have a partial eclipse, such as not wanting to eat vegetables.

Concluding remarks

Wang Zhongcheng's habits are very important to the cultivation of children, so we must cultivate children to form good habits. Not only physical habits, but also psychological habits. No success can make up for the failure of educating children. Teach children not to wait and not to miss opportunities. When children have problems, it is the best time to help them, because trees never grow in greenhouses, but stand tall in the baptism of wind, frost, rain and snow. If you have any questions, please send me a letter: wzhch321@126.com. Thank you.

Licang District Parents School held a public lecture on "Five Cultivation of Excellent Parents"

Learn to be a qualified parent and cultivate excellent children.

-Licang District Parents School held a public lecture on "Five Practices of Excellent Parents"

10 June 18, a lecture tour for parents' schools in Licang District was held in No.31 Middle School in Licang District. The lecture was given by Mr. Liu, a member of China Mental Health Association, director of Qingdao Psychological Society and director of the Mental Health Education Center of Qingdao University of Technology. Nearly 100 parents attended the lecture.

The topic of teacher Liu's speech is "Five Practices of Excellent Parents". The classroom in No.31 Middle School was packed, and the parents of Yongqing Road Street listened carefully to Mr. Liu's eloquent explanation.

During the lecture, Mr. Liu used a variety of teaching methods and live interaction to push the classroom effect to a climax several times. After the meeting, most parents said that through this lecture, they realized some misunderstandings about parenting, and they did have some shortcomings and shortcomings, which needed to be improved in time. In the process of educating children in the future, it is possible to cultivate excellent children by learning from each other's strengths and striving to become a qualified parent and a competent parent.

This lecture is a public welfare lecture tour of District Women's Federation Parents School 12. Since the beginning of this year, Licang District has held 12 public welfare lectures in Fushan Road, Yongqing Road and Zhenhua Road parent schools respectively. Zeng Li, a senior teacher of mental health education, an expert in adolescent psychological behavior training, Wang, a senior lecturer at Peking University Founder Institute of Educational Psychology, Liu, a professor of psychological education at Qingdao University of Technology, and Wang Zhongcheng, an expert in family education, were invited to give guidance on how to help parents establish a correct concept of family education and how to master scientific and effective parenting methods. The wonderful and unique explanations of experts combined with lively educational methods such as multimedia broadcasting and live interaction made the lecture venue packed, which won strong support and wide praise from parents and teachers, and played a positive role in popularizing scientific family education knowledge, improving the level of family education in our district and optimizing the environment for children's growth.

Licang district women's Federation

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Good habits, inexhaustible wealth in a lifetime —— Fushan Road Primary School held a lecture on parent education

Time: March 30, 200910: 2100 Author: Shine Wong hits: 139 Uploader: Qingdao Fushan Road Primary School.

On March 27th, Fushan Road Primary School in Qingdao invited family education experts, children's literature writers, members of Qingdao Family Education Lecturer Group and teacher Wang Zhongcheng to give special lectures on family education for first-grade parents.

Teacher Wang trains parents from the aspects of the influence of family education on children and successful family education methods. Lively and humorous teaching methods have benefited parents a lot. The times pushed the lecture to a climax with warm applause and grateful education, and many parents left moving tears in the music.