Hello: don't hit the child when you find that he has taken the money. If you find a child stealing his own money, you'd better not ask him, "Did you steal money from my wallet?" Instead, we should directly point out the facts: "You gave me back ten dollars." When the child pays back the money, you can say very sternly, "If you need money, you can ask me for it. We can discuss it. You can't decide for yourself. " If the child denies it, we don't need to argue with him or make him confess, just firmly say to him, "You took the money and give it back to me." If the child spends all his money, then the next discussion should not focus on his character, but on how he can repay it. You can let him do short-term work or reduce his pocket money. In short, don't comment on your children: you are a thief and a liar; Or predict the outcome of his doing so; Otherwise, his future may be as you said.

Of course, it is useless to ask children "why, how". He may not even know why he did it. If you insist on asking him to answer "why", all you can get may be another lie. At this point, the best way is to show that you are willing to discuss with him that he needs money:

"I'm disappointed that you didn't even tell me you needed ten dollars."

"When you need money, be sure to tell me. Things can always be discussed. "

In short, parents should never force their children to lie when they discover their "bad" behavior. In this way, it will undoubtedly hurt our already hurt feelings again. When exhorting children, the art we should master is: "If we already know the answer, we will never ask questions again." We just need to make a public statement. The result of this statement will be just right: what is given to the child is the unhappiness he brings to himself and the punishment for taking responsibility for his bad behavior.