In the process of children's education for more than ten years, as parents, we all have thousands of countless things to do. Next, let me sort it out. What is the most important thing for parents to educate their children? I hope you like it!

Value shaping

The shaping of values is something that we agree with in our hearts and is the basic standard that a person should have. For example, in our family, being kind to others and living a simple life are very important values.

Value looks great, but in fact you need to educate and guide your children from every bit of daily life.

It should be noted here that what you pass on to your children is basically not what you said, but what you really agree with and how to do it. If you say one thing and do another, it is very likely that children are also confused about their values.

time management

1, let children see their tasks.

For example, if a child has three subjects, then you can write them on a big piece of paper, Chinese, math and English. Then calculate how long each course will take. Whether it's half an hour or 10 minutes, you draw this time, for example, every ten minutes, and draw three squares every half hour.

Time is a very abstract thing. For children, if it is difficult to understand, you should help them present it in a concrete way. You can draw the length of time into a big circle or a small circle, or a long and short strip, so that children can see how much work they have.

If the children are younger, you can also use some fun methods, such as stickers and toys to represent the task. There are three tasks tonight. If you finish one, you can take one off, or put one on it, or tick it.

You must let the child know how much he has visually. This is the same reason why we adults do task lists in our lives and work.

Step 2 prepare in advance

If the child doesn't say, "Alas, there are five minutes left, and I want to bring a pair of sneakers, alas, and a pair of socks" until the next morning when he goes to school, this state will be extremely busy, and our children often do the same.

Parents should help him form the habit of preparing everything in advance. The simplest training can start with preparing the items for the next day.

In the kindergarten stage, parents prepare in advance in front of their children, and gradually transition to parents making rules for their children to prepare.

For example, there is a task before going to bed every day, that is, think about what to bring tomorrow, pack your schoolbag in advance, and do it yourself.

Children can also be asked to help plan simple things, such as going out to play with the whole family during the Spring Festival, and children can participate in the preparation process. Including where to play, how to buy tickets, and how long it will take. Children don't need to do all the work, but they can take part in it.

When a child grows up, he is likely to be willing to plan a family holiday for the whole family, which can help him develop the habit and skills of preparing for things.

3. Simplification and harmonization of rules

You can give your child a diary that you manage yourself, or you can use a computer to let your child consciously record what he wants to do, who he wants to see, and learn to classify.

The bigger this method is, the more useful it is. For example, in middle school, children's world will become much more complicated. Not only do they have to learn all kinds of homework, but the difficulty of homework has also increased; They have all kinds of exams; They also have various extracurricular activities.

At this time, children should be in a unified and centralized place, and they can see their various tasks simply and clearly. Those who need to deal with teachers will have an exam in a month, but they should prepare in advance.

If there is a place where children can record and classify well, then they can feel that their lives are under their control, and then slowly learn to manage themselves.

Time management plays a very important role in the development of children's basic skills and comprehensive ability.

reading habit

1. When children are young, bedtime stories are very important.

Every child likes reading a good book with his father or mother before going to bed. When children are young, they can read very simple books. He should pay attention to reading repeatedly instead of telling a new story every day.

In fact, many children like repeated stories, especially before going to bed. He felt safe in familiar stories. We can also make up stories with the children. The protagonist of the best story is the child himself. When he appears in the story, he will find it particularly interesting.

Bedtime stories can make children feel intimate with reading from an early age, which is very helpful for them to develop reading habits when they grow up.

2. Let the children always have a book they are reading.

Reading should be a living habit. Do it every day. Read less when you have no time. 10 minutes, 15 minutes. When you are free, sit down and read a book completely.

My two children and I are reading all the time. If you ask any of us what you are reading now, you can give the answer at the first time.

The advantage of this way is that you won't regard reading as a child's task, saying that you must finish reading these five books recommended by others in 2020.

He can read at his own speed. As long as he insists, you will find that he will read a lot of books after one year and ten years.

3, no restrictions, no interference.

This is often difficult for parents to do. It doesn't matter what children want to read, as long as it's not harmful. Don't be like a school teacher, saying that you can only read these books if they are written by famous writers.

For example, children like reading books from reading Jin Yong. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Most importantly, he likes reading, finds it interesting, forms a reading habit, and naturally goes to read other books.

Exercise habit

1. This does not mean that every child must be an athlete. In fact, most children will not become athletes, but each child must have one or more sports that he likes and is good at.

2. When you are young, you can take your children to try various sports, such as playing football, playing ball, running and swimming. In the second half of primary school, children can basically decide what they like and what they are good at.

After middle school, many children are very busy. But the so-called busy is actually a matter of priorities. In my opinion, the priority of sports is very high. Exercise has many benefits in the process of children's growth, not only for their health, but also for cultivating some excellent qualities, such as the spirit of suffering.

Now the family condition is very good, and the children have no chance to suffer. But in sports, if he wants to win, he will take the initiative to ask himself to suffer. Also, many sports require cooperation with others. In a team, sometimes if you do well, others will lose if they don't. In sports, children will learn how to accept failure, and sports is closely related to physical and mental health in the "skill tree".