Some parents think that adolescence is the time to start sex education, because at that time, children will encounter sex-related problems when they start sexual development.
In fact, whether parents realize it or not, sex education for children has started since the birth of the child, such as what name to give the child, what clothes to wear, what toys to buy, the tone of speaking to the child, and the reaction to the child's behavior, all of which are branded with parents' own attitude towards "gender" and understanding of "sex".
When the child is a little older, can parents establish a safe attachment relationship with the child, allow the child to touch the reproductive organs with their hands to get a happy feeling, give the child the opportunity to vent their emotions and express their feelings, and so on. , all reflect the parents' "view of sex education".
When children can talk and ask the first question about sex in life, such as "Where am I from", parents really enter the stage of "talking about sex" with their children. It is a blessing for children to hear the correct answers to their sexual questions from their parents.
Parents should never underestimate such a "feat", which is of milestone significance in children's experience of knowing themselves, their bodies, their lives and the world.
From this moment on, parents and children have established a good communication atmosphere and can communicate frankly with their children on sexual topics, which is the most precious gift for parents to give their children.
Some parents complain that their children are unwilling to communicate with themselves, say nothing or even oppose themselves when they reach puberty, which is very frustrating. Parents should know why this is so. When a child needs parents to communicate with him sincerely, parents ignore the child's needs and problems. How can parents expect their children to tell you everything when they reach puberty? Talk to your child about sex as soon as possible.
Family sex education can prevent sexual abuse of children to some extent.
Many parents should know that the United Nations has a Convention on the Rights of the Child, and China is a signatory. The Convention on the Rights of the Child stipulates that all children in the world have the right to survival, development, protection and participation. These rights are innate and natural human rights, and no one can violate them.
The Law of People's Republic of China (PRC) on the Protection of Minors (revised in 2020) also stipulates that children enjoy the above four basic rights. Children's rights also include children's sexual rights, which are mainly embodied in children's sexual health rights, sexual education rights and privacy rights. Every child enjoys sexual rights. Children's sexual rights must be fully respected and protected. The insurance law also clearly stated that "schools and kindergartens should carry out sex education suitable for minors' age".
So, who will protect children's rights, including sexual rights? The first responsible person is the parents!
We can look back at the victims of child sexual abuse exposed by the media. How many children dare not tell their parents, dare not report the case, and have no way to protect their rights and interests? If more parents fulfill their responsibility of sex education for their children, more schools carry out sex education, and society establishes a safer security system, will our children feel more secure?
Imagine that our parents and our school tell their children when they are very young, where the private parts of the body are, who can touch the private parts under what circumstances, who can't touch the private parts under what circumstances, what to do if someone wants to touch the private parts, when to run, when to shout, how to escape without threatening their lives and so on. Then, children may encounter this dangerous situation, and there may be more.
This information should be told to the child when he or she can understand it. In addition, let children know that acquaintances are not necessarily safe, such as neighbors, teachers, relatives and family members. At the same time, tell the children that even if such a thing happens, it is not their fault, and they must bravely seek help.
Family sex education is not only related to the healthy growth of children, but also related to family happiness, social stability and long-term stability of the country. I hope that every parent will take up the responsibility of sex education for their children, so that their children can grow up with more happiness and less danger.