On March 29th, a senior three student from Huizhou Middle School in Guangdong fell to his death. The video shows that in this corridor, the boy who jumped off the building sat on the ground with his back against the wall at first. Then he suddenly stood up and looked down from upstairs. Then the boy grabbed the railing with both hands and climbed up. After crossing the guardrail, the boy jumped directly from the upstairs without hesitation.

In recent years, high school students and high school students have jumped off buildings from time to time. What makes these beautiful children choose to leave their parents and this beautiful world? As parents, should we think: What is the best love for children?

Some people say it is to give a good family environment, a good educational environment, a good material foundation and a good quality of family education. It is true that all these are possible, but for children who are in the rebellious period of youth, the above is not counted.

Because children in this period are like a hedgehog, trying to stab everyone, and they can't coexist peacefully at all. Children who are in a rebellious period will basically choose to ignore the love given by their parents and even like to do the opposite. You said east, but he went west. What kind of love and education will be given to children in this period before they will be accepted and recognized?

1. Respect children and reduce control.

Lele is 16 years old. I went to a private school because I was not admitted to the ideal high school by one point. Because the quality of the school is average, she goes home at 8 o'clock every night and has no homework. Lele asked her parents to spend an hour on her mobile phone every day. Lele's mother got angry in an instant when she heard that her child wanted to play with a mobile phone. Before the child finished speaking, she said no, and the child turned and left. After calming down, she felt that her behavior was a bit extreme. Lele told his mother that he wanted a mobile phone because he wanted to chat with his classmates and because he wanted to watch the news of the day. Only then did the mother know that she had misjudged the child.

Many times, parents are too subjective to let their children study hard, be obedient and be good children in their parents' eyes, while ignoring their inner feelings and demands in the process of growing up, especially adolescent children, who have grown up and feel that they are adults, eager to integrate into society and get respect and understanding. Adults often find it easy to see through children. With their own imagination, they interrupt their children too much, killing not only their desire to speak, but also their hearts.

For rebellious children, respecting their choices, listening to their deepest feelings and reducing their control are the fastest and best ways to get into their hearts.

2. lead by example, lead by example.

Luo Luo, the next-door neighbor, starts school on the first day of this year. When I was a child, I was smart and sensible, and I didn't like learning more and more. The head teacher of the school calls the parents every day, saying that the children are fighting, their homework is messy, and their personal hygiene is not clean.

Luo Luo's mother has a headache because of her children's affairs, and she asks everywhere how to educate her children. The child's class teacher told him that the child is a copy of his parents and the parents are the original. Since then, Lolo's mother has started running and practicing yoga every morning. She said that she wanted to spend a little time staring at her children every day to make herself better, and even set a goal for herself to be admitted to a graduate school in a university three years later. "

Since then, the children have come home from school every night. When doing her homework, she reads books, practices calligraphy, listens to English and does exercises. This kind of life has been going on. Lolo saw her mother working so hard and began to change herself.

I am a best friend of 10 years old, and his son 16 years old has also entered a rebellious period. He plays games every day and loves to lose his temper. In order to change the children's habits, my girlfriend rides a bike with her children for 30 kilometers every day during the summer vacation, and arranges one day a week for her children to accompany her all the time. If they have nothing to do, they will accompany him to work and feel the hardships and hardships of the work. 60 days of summer vacation, whether it is hot or rainy, rain or shine. The child was finally moved by his mother, realized her hard work and walked out of the rebellious period.

For the sake of children, we must set an example, be strict with ourselves at all times and everywhere, and become a good example for children.

3. Companionship is the longest confession.

Zhan Qingyun, a Harvard scholar, was the champion of the "seven tyrants" theory last year, and his grades were not good when he was a child. My mother said that Nian would definitely fight back. Although I have been failing, I don't blame her for always encouraging her, accompanying her and cheering her on.

Dad is very open-minded, showing her all kinds of books, taking her on business trips and seeing the world.

Accompanied by his parents, Zhan Qingyun thrived like a seedling in the sun. Not only does he study better and better, but the whole person is becoming more and more confident and excellent.

Wise parents will not use their authority to force their children to work hard, but accompany their children to progress.

When the child is wronged or not understood by others, identify with the child's emotions, listen to the child's confidence, silently accompany the parents, and let the child feel the warmth of the family.

I remember a writer named Zhao once said, "Everyone, in his life journey, there are always several important and key people that should never be forgotten." In my opinion, for rebellious children, parents should play a key role in helping rebellious behavior in their life journey, thus becoming a great benefactor and favorite relative that children will never forget.

When parents treat rebellious children, they should first see their growth, respect their self-esteem and establish close and equal friendship with them.

Secondly, we should believe that children have the ability to handle things independently, support them as much as possible, encourage and comfort them when they encounter difficulties and failures, and praise them immediately if they succeed. Parents should also have the courage to ask their children for advice and admit their mistakes.

When children make mistakes, parents should gently correct them, not abuse them. The most important thing is that parents should learn to listen to their children's thoughts, give correct guidance when necessary, and become good consultants in their children's life and study.

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