(1) dotes on young children.

Parents' care for their children is beyond reproach, which is what guardians should do. However, once you deviate from the normal track of loving children, spoil or turn a blind eye to their bad habits, without guidance, or even give them whatever they want, over time, it will easily lead to children's "prince disease" and "princess disease"

1. Overprotection: Overprotection is one of the manifestations of love. Overprotection refers to the overprotection given by parents in order not to hurt their children a little, which will affect the development of children's independence to a certain extent.

2. Complete obedience: Complete obedience is another form of doting. According to Piaget's cognitive development theory, children in the pre-operation stage are always self-centered when thinking about problems, and pay attention to their own behaviors and opinions from their own perspective.

(2) The parent-child relationship is not good.

Parent-child relationship is the logical starting point of family education and has a great influence on children. In modern life, the parent-child relationship is prone to disharmony because of busy work or not mastering the correct parent-child communication methods.

Children are insecure.

Maslow, an American psychologist, once put forward the hierarchy of needs theory. The five demands are pyramid-shaped from low level to high level, and safety demand is the most basic level except physiological demand.

However, insecure children have a low sense of self-efficacy. Once they fail, they tend to feel inferior and shy, and dare not show themselves easily in front of others.

Countermeasures to improve children s family education in China;

(A) to create a warm and harmonious family atmosphere.

1. Learn to respect children. Respect for children: treat children as independent individuals and respect their sense of independence. When communicating with their children, parents should respect their personality, use less or no commanding tone, praise and encourage their children more, and make them feel loved and feel safe enough.

2. Learn to understand children: Rousseau mentioned in Emile that to respect children's development characteristics, each child is a different individual, and they all have their own characteristics. Children's physical and mental development is characterized by stages and continuity, and the development of knowledge and ability is not perfect. Parents should understand their children and not put too much pressure on them. Parents need to guide their children at all times to make them develop healthily.

(2) Adopting scientific and reasonable educational methods.

1. Be strict: If parents are too strict in the process of educating their children and blindly demand high standards, parents will show negative and negative emotional reactions when their children have bad behaviors or behaviors that do not meet their parents' requirements, which will easily lead to extreme lack of security and self-confidence in their later lives.

2. Spoiling: Young children are still young, physically and mentally immature, and lack certain independence. In the process of development, they need the care and care of their parents. Children who spoil and grow up are very dependent on their parents and lack a sense of responsibility and self-confidence.

(3) Establish close parent-child relationship.

1. Build a friendly bridge between parents and children: Parents should build a friendly bridge between parents and children, on the one hand, communicate effectively with their children, on the other hand, pay attention to the role of parent-child activities and participate in parent-child activities more. Parent-child communication does not mean that parents unilaterally repeat demands on their children or impose their own subjective wishes on them.

2. Look at the parent-child generation gap objectively: Due to the differences in parent-child age, growth environment and values, the parent-child generation gap also exists objectively. When dealing with the generation gap with children, parents should maintain a tolerant attitude, treat children's imaginative ideas correctly, and respect and understand children.

Every child has his own characteristics, and in the process of their growth, they will also encounter various problems. It is expected that parents can guide and help their children grow up healthily with scientific family education methods, and strive to create a warm and harmonious family environment for their children and lay a solid foundation for their growth.