Parents don't know, in fact, similar words are an invisible soft violence to children, which does not solve the practical difficulties, but strengthens the contradiction of parent-child interaction and is an emotional blackmail. What is worse than violence is "soft violence", and "emotional blackmail" should not be applied in parenting education.
What harm does "soft violence" do to children's development? Injury 1: the motivation to get rid of children's self-confidence and make them happy. Parents' denial is very harmful to children, and parents' incomprehension is more likely to make children continue to entertain themselves, thus losing the motivation to live themselves. Once a child's self-confidence is hit, he will certainly encounter large and small obstacles in the process of personality formation and mental state construction in the future.
Hazard 2: Make children's rebellious psychology more serious. Imagine if parents use extreme forms like "soft violence" to solve difficulties, how can children calmly handle contradictions? Soft violence of parents will also lead children to cope with many mental health problems, which is not conducive to the healthy development of children.
Injury 3: Destroy the parent-child relationship and aggravate the bad mood. If parents stand on the moral high ground from beginning to end and restrain their children's inquiring nature, it will eventually lead to the division of parent-child relationship, which will lead to difficult communication afterwards, which is not conducive to the lasting and sustainable development of parent-child relationship.
Therefore, the completion of soft violence against children is the basis of harmonious communication. The most important thing for a family is equality, so that every outstanding person can gain personal value and beauty in the process of being respected.