I believe many people know that Sha Yi and Hooke have a pair of sons with completely opposite personalities. The eldest son, Anji, is introverted and calm, also known as the "Northeast Song Chongji", and the younger son, Xiaoyu, is very cheerful and lively.
a
Hook said in an interview that these two children belong to completely different ways of education. The eldest son is raised by books, and the youngest son is raised by pigs, because Angie was born as a mother for the first time and had no experience. She can only get some educational methods by reading books, so when she educates Angie, many methods are obtained from books. The parenting knowledge in some books looks very rigorous. It can help children develop a more calm character while giving them a sense of security, but it also has certain shortcomings. For example, if they follow the rules in the book too much, it may hinder the development of children's nature and affect the development of children's practical ability to a certain extent.
b
Sha Yi's two sons adopted different educational methods, but now there is a big gap in their personalities. In fact, many families with two children will have this situation. They are inexperienced parents for the first time, so they are always afraid that their children will not teach well. However, when they have a second child, they will start to be kept in a free-range state. As long as they are healthy, many families have different personalities.
Children want all the love of their parents, but after having a second child, parents may have to share some love with their younger brothers and sisters, so many children will have a psychological gap. Parents must pay attention to the fact that there are precautions in raising children in second-child families, and they must not affect their physical and mental health in the wrong way.
This is the place that parents should pay most attention to. We shouldn't treat two children differently just because one child is sweet to the other, which is not good for both children. People who prefer love may become more and more coquettish and arrogant, while those who don't like it may become withdrawn and extreme, forming bad personality habits.
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There are inevitably comparisons between the two children, such as learning well is the other's role model, learning from the diligent brother and so on. In fact, every child is unique and wants the love of his parents. We can't use this comparison to urge our children, because it will only make the two children's personalities worse and worse, one is conceited and the other is inferior.