Ms. Lin can be called an "expert in interpersonal relationship". As a business manager, she holds a customer base composed of powerful people in many large companies and groups, which makes her worth double; In the community, she has a good relationship with her neighbors. Among relatives and friends, she is a trustworthy and wonderful person. Some people say that she is "naturally likable", but she said, "I only know that if you are kind to others, others will be kind to you."

When educating children, she instills the idea that "if you are good to others, others will be good to you". Her way is actually very simple, but what is commendable is that she always knows clearly what kind of education she wants her children to receive.

Generous sharing

Once, Ms. Lin brought Lele back from shopping. At the gate of the community, she met Lele's good friend Huahua and his mother.

Ms. Lin said, "Lele, give flowers chocolate candy."

Lele generously took out some chocolates and handed them to Huahua.

Huahua saw the electric plane in Ms. Lin's hand and fiddled with it with her little hand. She really wants to play.

Ms. Lin said, "It's still early to go home. Why don't you two children play in the small plane for a while! "

Lele is a little unhappy: "I haven't played with a small plane yet." How can I play for him? "

Ms. Lin said with a smile: "We are not stingy with fun. Fun things are willing to play with good friends and have fun together. "

Lele had to take out a small plane and play with Huahua. The two children really had a good time.

Today's children, most of whom are only children, are used to living alone and eating alone. It is inevitable that selfish thoughts will arise, and it is difficult to establish a close relationship with each other. Teacher Lin encourages children to share their own things with them, which is conducive to cultivating their warm and generous personality. Children naturally have more affinity among children and will be more cohesive when they grow up in the future.

Hospitality

Ms. Lin encouraged Lele to bring her children to play at home. When the children came, she gave up her seat like an adult, received them warmly and prepared the food carefully. Lele will also take out its snacks and toys to amuse children. In the community, children rarely visit each other, but Lele's home is an exception and has become a favorite place for children and parents. So Lele is very popular with children.

For parents, it is more meaningful to give their children a home that everyone likes to go to than to buy delicious and fun things for their children! A hospitable home is not only conducive to children getting along well with children, but also conducive to children's personality cultivation and intellectual growth. Children have a wide range of information sources, and can be more exposed to the rules and ways of thinking of adults, which will naturally become smarter and more sensible. Therefore, hospitable families are more likely to cultivate excellent children.

Encourage children to participate and abide by the rules of the game.

Ms. Lin took Lele out to play, and Lele played games with children. She always watches with interest and sometimes participates in it.

On one occasion, Lele played a long jump game with children, and the rule was to take off with both feet. Lele is younger, and she is not the one who jumps farthest every time. He played a clever trick. When he took off, one foot was half on the pedal and half on the mat. It seems that he jumped with both feet, but in fact he jumped with one foot, and he jumped farthest. Before Lele could be proud, her mother had said, "You lost! How did you lose? I won't talk about it. Think for yourself. "

Lele blushed.

Afterwards, Ms. Lin said to Lele: "I can't compete with others, and I won't lose face if I lose;" Winning by cheating is the most humiliating way to lose. If you want to win, you have to practice for two months and then compete with your children. Can you win? "

Lele really practiced long jump every day for more than a month, and the progress was obvious. No one can compare with children. Thus, Lele really tasted the taste of victory.

Only when children play with children can they have a good relationship with them. However, any game must abide by the rules, and those who don't obey the rules will inevitably be rejected by everyone. Therefore, parents should encourage their children to participate in games and cultivate their awareness of rules, which is also of great benefit to the cultivation of their character.

Encourage children to help others without being offside.

Once, the kindergarten teacher assigned an assignment: draw a picture with white paper and color it.

Lele will be finished soon.

Neighbor Jiao Jiao couldn't do it, so he came to Lele for help. Lele pointed it out for a while, but Jiao Jiao still wouldn't. He was a little impatient and said, "I'll help you!" "

Ms. Lin stopped and said, "No! Jiao Jiao can do very well. Come, let's help her find a way together. "

Ms. Lin went over and told Lele how to explain her ideas and told Jiao Jiao what to do. After a while, Jiao Jiao got the hang of it and finished his homework quickly.

Helping friends to stand on their own feet is the real help; Let friends rely on themselves, and such help will also hurt. In fact, a friend who relies on himself is also a burden to himself.

In the world, only parents can treat themselves unconditionally Applying the standard of asking parents to people other than parents, hoping that others can be good to you unconditionally, often leads to disappointment, which is not conducive to establishing good interpersonal relationships. Tell children the concept that "you are good to others, and others will be good to you", encourage children to show kindness to others actively, and let them embark on the road of smooth communication!

12, applauding the wonderful performance of others.

Xiao Xuan is very competitive. She wants to be the first in everything, but she is really strong. She is excellent at studying and playing games. She is especially gifted in singing and dancing. At the age of three, she began to accept the guidance of professional teachers, and at the age of six, she became a famous "little child star" in the whole region. Mother's wish is to train her into a future singer.

On one occasion, Xiao Xuan participated in the students' art performance in the whole region, and her mother went to watch it specially. In the final, Xiao Xuan won the second place, and the first place was won by a senior girl. Xiao Xuan was very angry and refused to take the stage to receive the prize.

Mother asked her why, and she said, "The judges are partial. She doesn't sing as well as me!" " "

Mom said, "shame on you!" It doesn't matter if you lose the game. You can come again next time. It is not good to lose. That girl sings really well, can't you hear her? Can't even tell the good from the bad? "

Xiao Xuan remained silent.

Mom added: "Glory belongs to those who perform well, not those who can play with a small temper. Of course, your performance is also excellent. You should have the confidence to do better. So, you have to congratulate that girl. This is not only respect for winners, judges, teachers and audiences, but also respect for art and respect for yourself. "

Xiao Xuan, after all, is a sensible child, and she soon came to her senses. She ran to the stage, congratulated the girl happily and said, I will try my best to sing better in the future. Her behavior won everyone's applause.

Applause for outstanding people and congratulate the winners, which is the embodiment of self-confidence and self-love. That can at least prove that you may be inferior to others, but you know how to appreciate Excellence. A person who knows how to appreciate Excellence naturally knows how to pursue Excellence; A person who knows how to appreciate Excellence is no longer a vulgar person!

Everyone is jealous, and it is inevitable to see others behave well. In the face of competitors, jealousy is more likely to bring strong psychological suffering. Driven by jealousy, it is easy to produce inappropriate words and deeds, such as despising, mocking and belittling excellent people, setting obstacles and stumbling blocks for excellent people, or even doing worse-hurting the reputation and health of excellent people.

How to avoid the harm caused by jealousy? The best way is to turn competition into appreciation and applaud the wonderful performance of others. Life experience tells us that on the stage and in film and television dramas, the audience will generally not be jealous of the actors, because there is no competitive relationship between the two sides; Therefore, in interpersonal relationships, regardless of competitors or irrelevant personnel, you can change your role and look at others' performance from the perspective of the audience, so that you will not be troubled by jealousy!

Parents have the obligation to educate their children to appreciate the excellent performance of others. The method is actually very simple. Mother would do this:

Watch TV programs with children, hear songs that touch me, and see the plot that touches me. My mother applauded and said, "Great! Great! "

Dad did a beautiful thing, and mom clapped her hands and said, "This is a great thing!" " "

When the child did something beautiful, the mother clapped her hands and said, "You did a great job!" " "

When other children do something beautiful, their mothers will applaud.

Mom's applause is always dedicated to an excellent behavior, but it is not a full affirmation of a person.

After a long time, children will naturally accept their mother's appreciation, and when they see the excellent performance of others, they will also habitually applaud and admire.

You are either admiring or jealous of other people's wonderful performance. When appreciating, the mentality naturally points to a beautiful, sunny and positive direction; When you are jealous, your mind is naturally shrouded in darkness.

Teaching children to applaud the wonderful performance of others is equivalent to giving them a sunny spiritual sky.