But when some people talk,
Be able to express your views fluently and freely.
And get recognition from others.
Some people can only listen to Nuo Nuo.
Some people talk like spring breeze people.
Someone is talking and digging everywhere.
Do you often "lose your voice" at critical moments?
Be controlled by the boss's orders
Affected by parents' interference
Compromise in the face of unreasonable demands from friends or partners
When dealing with strangers
Because I'm embarrassed to eat dumb.
There are too many moments in life.
We should speak forcefully.
Finally, I suffered from being unable to speak.
Today, I will share with you eight books that specialize in slow response and can't talk.
I hope it will help you after watching the secret exercise!
1 "influence"
2 "Non-violent communication"
3 "The Weakness of Human Nature"
4 "communication methods"
5 "Key Dialogue"
6 "strong"
7 "Control the dialogue"
8 "The Art of Communication"
affect
Author: Robert Siodini
Year: 202 1
Recommendation 8.7
Content introduction:
Because of its influence, persuasion has become a science. No matter you.
Ordinary people or people who lobby for a product or professional opinion,
This is a basic must-read book, which can help you understand other people's psychology.
The cornerstone of. Persuasive experts always use them skillfully,
Let's submit it. The updated contents in the book are as many as 65438+ ten thousand words, including
Including the new research and discovery of behavioral psychology in recent 10 years, and the last 5 years.
Hundreds of business, management, technology, personal growth,
New situation in family education and so on.
Excerpts from this book:
1 You must be cautious when accepting trivial requests, because once you agree,
It may affect our self-awareness. It can not only improve me
Children who obey similar demands with greater weight can also make us happier.
I'm going to do something that has nothing to do with the little request I promised before.
When we ask others for help, if we can give a reason,
Then we are more likely to get help from others. The reason is simple,
People just like to find a reason for what they do.
Non-violent communication
Author: Marshall Luxembourg Year: 2009.
Recommendation: 8.4
Content introduction:
As a good man who abides by the law, maybe we never thought about it.
Violence is involved. But if you pay a little attention to real life,
In the way of conversation, carefully understand the various ways we talk.
Different feelings, we will find that some words really hurt!
Oral accusation, ridicule, denial, preaching and arbitrary interruption,
Refusing to respond to random output of evaluations and conclusions will bring us
Emotional and mental trauma, even more than physical injury.
People suffer. These unintentional or intentional verbal violence
Let the bean people become indifferent, alienated and hostile.
Excerpts from this book
One of the keys to a non-violent life is to appreciate the gift of life.
Not greedy. Non-violent communication leads us to change our dialogue and listen.
We are no longer used to reaction, but to understanding.
Your own observations, feelings and wishes, and consciously use the language.
We express ourselves honestly and clearly, and respect and listen to others. ?
Four elements of nonviolent communication: 1, observation: 2, feeling: 3, need:?
4. request. If you really want a miserable life, compare it with others.
Weakness of human nature
Weakness of human nature
By Dale Carnegie
Year: 20 12
Recommendation: 8.7
Content introduction:
This book is regarded as the "Bible" of social psychology and communication skills. It has changed.
The fate of thousands of people in Qian Qian. Edison, the king of invention, Einstein, the founder of relativity.
Stan, Indian Mahatma Gandhi, Walter Disney, the father of Mickey Mouse,
Li Wei, the creator of the miracle of the construction industry, and his son Hilton, the tycoon of the hotel industry, started from scratch.
Taiwan Province plastic king Wang Yongqing and McDonald's founder ray kroc.
And so on, are deeply inspired and influenced by Carnegie's thoughts and views.
Excerpts from this book:
1 We should care about our own problems, not worry. Attention means
Recognize the problem clearly and take measures to deal with it calmly. Worry is just panic.
Beat around the bush What hurts people is not the event itself, but his view of the event.
All people, whether butchers, bakers, or
He is the king on the throne, and everyone likes people who respect him.
Communication method
Author: flowers that can't be picked
Year: 202 1
Recommendation: 8.4
Content introduction:
It turns out that the problems in the workplace are all communication problems;
There are solutions to those situations that drive you crazy.
This book has 18 words, from upward communication to management communication.
Then communicate with customers, which can basically cover the situation you will encounter.
All workplace communication problems and provide practical solutions.
Scheme. Please open this book before you start any of the above exchanges.
Need to be reminded that once there is "always, always, every time,
Often, far and so on, you can tell yourself at once,
The other party is venting their emotions. I call such words "emotional signposts"
As soon as the "emotional signpost" appears, you should realize that the other party has not yet.
Some are stating the facts, but they are venting their emotions. What you have to do at this time
Not arguing with him about the truth, but calming his emotions.
First, put down the bad emotions, and the two sides will have a basis for communication.
Key dialogue
Author: Kerry Patterson Age: 20 12
Recommendation: 8.3
Content introduction:
Subtitle: How to communicate efficiently?
You must have encountered the following situations: presenting your carefully designed plan to your boss,
But it was splashed with cold water. Ask subordinates to work overtime, and subordinates are silent.
Talk to your family about "increasing revenue and reducing expenditure" and turn a deaf ear. Want neighbors
Abide by public morality, but the other party still goes its own way. Key dialogue
It will help you use all kinds of communication skills in a four-to-two way.
Solve all kinds of problems in life,
Achieve invincible career and enjoy a happier life.
Excerpts from this book:
When we start a dialogue with each other, each of us will have our own opinions.
The feelings, guesses and life experiences related to the dialogue. such
The unique combination of thoughts and feelings will form a complete self-concept library.
It can not only form an opinion on the problem, but also drive us.
Every movement. Genetic influence has been passed down for countless generations.
Whenever faced with a key conversation, we will subconsciously adopt faces.
The most primitive way to deal with danger is violent confrontation or turning around.
Instead of solving problems with witty persuasion and friendly attention.
force
Author: Manuel Smith
Year: 20 14
Recommendation: 8. 1
Content introduction:
In all areas of daily life, such as work, love and interpersonal communication,
Because of the control of others, because of their own cowardice, leading to passivity.
This situation and the contradictions and anxieties that come with it are endless, and there are its solutions.
There is only one way to make a decision-one by one! Strength is not condescending brainwashing,
Not an aggressive attack, but a way to deal with others.
Special abilities and skills are fundamentally designed for themselves.
Establish a strong set of psychology and discourse. ...
Excerpts from this book:
1 Everyone must finally have a heart to ensure his own life.
Responsible for health, happiness and success. Although we can each other
There are many good wishes, but we didn't create them for others.
The ability to create mental stability, health or happiness.
Negative emotions are as important to survival as the body.
Pain is as important as the meaning of survival.
Control dialogue
Author: [America] Chris Voss
Year: 20 18
Recommendation: 8.2
Content introduction:
This book has made two leaps from practice to theory and then to practice.
Starting from the actual life-and-death negotiation, this paper introduces the strategies for controlling the conversation.
Strategies and skills are finally put into everyone's daily life.
Real scene. Persuade the former leader to agree to transfer jobs and make the boss willing.
Give you a raise and get the best price without doing anything. ...
... life itself is a conversation again and again, and we need to go all out.
Go all out. Only by controlling the conversation can you control your life.
Don't talk until you finish reading this book!
Excerpts from this book
Repeating each other's words is also called "convergence behavior" in this process.
We repeated each other's words and deeds to get confirmation. This repetition may
Used in speech, body language and voice.
In language, it can be used for emotional venting and intonation.
Repetition is basically an unconscious behavior. When it happens, I
Children are often unaware of it. This is the signal of the beginning of both sides.
Closely linked, in step,
Start to build a harmonious relationship that tends to trust.
The art of communication
Author: Ronald Adler
Year: 20 17
Recommendation: 8.9
Content introduction:
This book is divided into "look inside people", "look outside people" and "look between people"
Three parts: Look at People mainly discusses issues related to communicators.
Factors explain the essence of interpersonal relationship and emphasize self in communication.
And analyzed the importance of perception and emotion in communication.
"Looking at the outside world" focuses on the sending and receiving of external information by communicators.
This paper analyzes the use of language and the characteristics of nonverbal clues, and emphasizes that
The importance of listening; "Look at People" mainly discusses relationships.
Evolution focuses on the differentiation of intimate relationships,
Various communication methods to improve communication atmosphere and deal with interpersonal conflicts are put forward.
Excerpts from this book
The importance of communication is not only for survival, but also for me.
The way children know themselves-in fact, this is the only way.
Are we smart or dull, attractive or ugly,
Clever or clumsy, the answers to these questions will not come from the mirror.
It is reflected in children, but it is determined by others' reaction to us.