Then, we should reflect: Why are children disobedient?
Parents demand too much of their children, and no matter how hard they try, they can't do it.
As the saying goes, long live understanding. In other words, if both sides can put themselves in the other's shoes, they can resolve conflicts and eliminate resentment and unhappiness. This is especially true for educating children. Because parents think that their children are young, immature and ignorant, they often feel that they have absolute authority, pretend to be parents, and think that everything is their own rights and children's mistakes. But this is not the case. Many of our theories and experiences are of no use to children in today's information society. Our requirements for children have long been out of date, and children naturally don't listen.
In my opinion, as parents, we must keep pace with the times, constantly update our knowledge and concepts, and meet the requirements of children's three views, so as to resolve unnecessary contradictions.
On the other hand, as parents, we should exercise ourselves and improve the level of educating our children. Imagine that you don't even understand the characteristics, psychology and needs of children of different ages. How do you educate your children? How can we convince children?
Furthermore, we should learn to communicate with children and handle the relationship with them well. Otherwise, parents are hostile to their children, and everything is over.
Parents who can do the above three points, I don't think they will feel tired. At least I have a harmonious relationship with my children and a harmonious family atmosphere, although my children's grades are not so ideal. Because grades are not unique!
Hello, everyone. I'm Honghong, my mother's little assistant. I'm happy to answer your question. Your good friend teaches children physical and mental fatigue. How do you cheer her up?
Everyone has a hard experience, everyone has different problems, and so do your friends. So: First of all, she needs you to be her audience. Being a good listener can relieve her mental stress. Secondly, I told her that people live to solve difficulties, which is the meaning and content of life. Avoiding is not the way, but advancing despite difficulties is the key means to solve the problem.
Life is not easy, happy every day. I hope my answer can help you, thank you.
Have a good rest first. Think slowly, how can we instill good ideas and ideas into children's minds calmly, imperceptibly and quietly?
I have never been physically and mentally exhausted in educating my children.
Don't beat or scold, don't waste your energy.
Heart? Think hard, organize the language, let the children take it orally, and the heart is not tired!
Let your good friend have a cold drink to calm himself down. This is conducive to calm thinking. When the child is quiet and there are no outsiders, analyze with the child what he is doing right and what is wrong. Fully respect children, children generally will not make the same mistake!
Good friends educate children to be physically and mentally exhausted. Here's what I did:
First, I feel the helplessness and exhaustion of my good friends.
Understanding and sympathy can make people feel better. Talking about emotions always requires empathy, so it is particularly important to empathize with the emotions of good friends at this time.
Let a good friend fully express her emotions, which can help her find the reasons for her despair and collapse. Only in this way can we pave the way for the subsequent refueling for her, and then she can listen to my advice.
Second, enlighten her with my own examples and positive examples around me.
Don't condescend to say what you should do from the beginning, which will not cheer her up, but will disgust her.
Let her know with my own case and similar cases of friends around me, both positive and negative.
On the one hand, I want to tell her that there is something wrong with your child.
This is a problem that many children will encounter at this age. Don't get angry too quickly.
On the other hand, tell her what other people's methods are more useful for such a situation and how we can learn from others' methods. After all, every child is different.
Third, sincerely stand in the position of friends and help them find the right way.
From the standpoint of friends, objectively analyze the reasons, find friends from friends and children, and find children from children, so that friends can understand the reasons and prescribe the right medicine.
Then find a way with friends to find a breakthrough on the basis of respecting children in a rational situation.
This is how I help my friends.
Education itself is very contradictory, but I think in any case, the final result of education must not be the breakdown of parent-child relationship, not to make children hate you. There will definitely be contradictions in the process of education, but ultimately it is love, which is the most important thing.
Good friends educate children to be physically and mentally exhausted. I will do the following things to help her cheer up:
First, listen. Find out how she usually educates her children, and listen to her if you have any questions.
Second, then help her to do some ideological guidance, don't always stare at the children's problems, try to think about their advantages, often our parents don't find their bright spots, but always like to enlarge their shortcomings. I don't know what the child's real needs are, which leads to the child growing up gradually. If they think their parents don't understand them, they will play the devil's advocate and deliberately do the right thing with their parents. In fact, sometimes children are anxious and irritable. Next, please watch the video answer.
I'm Tao Ran. I don't dodge. How can I cheer my good friend up if she is physically and mentally exhausted while educating her children?
I think I will give her a piece of advice: calm down; Put it down; Communication; Urged!
Among my friends, there are three mothers with children of similar age, all of whom are shoulder to shoulder and all of whom are boys.
When the children were young, the three of them were together all day, laughing and quarrelling, just like one person.
Three years ago, older children were admitted to China Police Officer University, and their mother's face exploded instantly. Although I don't say it, I have a high psychological advantage. Secondly, their mothers are under great pressure, and they compete with each other like chicken blood.
This year, the second child was admitted to China University of Science and Technology, and her mother's circle of friends was exposed to the sun, just like when the children who graduated from senior three tore up their books and threw them all over the playground.
Now the last child is left, and the mother's pressure is not 1 1, but 1+n, which increases geometrically. What physical and mental fatigue, thin waist, scapulohumeral periarthritis, seven injuries and no work ... all go to hell. Buddha strives for a column of incense, while man struggles for breath. 986,211is a trivial matter, and the old lady has a big face and will burn her bridges. Last fight, fight for it.
Therefore, the best way to cheer up friends who are physically and mentally exhausted from educating their children is to express their views.
If you don't even educate your children well, and in turn want to cheer for your friends, then you'd better stop eating.
It's getting cold, and my hands are a little frozen.
Since you are your own child, there is no so-called physical and mental exhaustion. There shouldn't be, because it's responsibility! Don't need others to persuade. Even being persuaded and encouraged by others will be more passive and tired. Educating children is a long-term job and the first task in life. There is no service area! A firm mind is a service area! Therefore, children who lack or interrupt their parents' education are all losers! Parents' follow-up service is permanent and of course successful. Don't distort this definition, it always refers to life!