The family style of our family can be summarized in several words: filial piety, kindness and faith.
Speaking of "filial piety", I am not very clear about my grandfather's generation. Only occasionally mentioned by my father, grandpa and silly Sir Zhong are very filial to my great-grandfather. I dare not talk nonsense because I didn't witness it with my own eyes. But I saw grandpa's brotherly feelings for silly Sir Zhong.
One of the three grandfathers and brothers is a silly younger brother. After his great-grandmother died, he took turns living with his grandfather and third master. Third Master is reluctant to take care of his silly brother, so he spends most of his time with Grandpa. Mr. Fool occasionally gets sick, foaming at the mouth and shaking all over when he is sick. Grandpa will pinch his people from time to time and let him recover slowly. When Mr. Stupid is not sick, he is just like a normal person. According to my father, since my grandmother died, Mr. Ben has been buying him delicious food with the money he earned by himself. He likes his nephew very much.
After his father got married, Mr. Zhong was in good health. Except for occasional illness, he can earn work points by brute force. I often help my parents' lives. My father has a deep affection for Mr. Silly, and he takes the responsibility of taking care of Mr. Silly after marriage. He was an indispensable member of our family until his death.
Father's filial piety, which we see in our eyes and remember in our hearts, is deeply influenced by it.
As far as I can remember, at dawn every day, my father would carry a pole to fill the water tank of my grandparents' house. My father is short and carries a bucket close to the ground every day and fills it on time. This seems to have become his habit after getting up early. And the new house they built is to let the old people live first and leave the old house to themselves. When they were able, they turned over the old house.
My father explained the word "putting all virtues and filial piety first" with his own practice, and he edified us with the spirit of "keeping things quiet".
My grandmother died when my father was fourteen or fifteen. Later, my grandfather married my grandmother, who brought a daughter seven or eight years younger than her father. She has always been partial to her daughter. Father has no brothers or sisters, and takes the daughter brought by grandma as his own sister. When the children get along well, grandma will do her stepmother's duty to her father. After parents got married, there was a slight gap between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but with getting along, there was no initial stumbling between them. Especially after grandpa died, the villagers praised his parents for their companionship and care for his grandmother.
Parents set an example for us with their actions. They never tell us how to be filial with profound theories, but let us feel the connotation of filial piety in a subtle way.
Their filial piety to grandparents and Sir Zhong, like a lighthouse, stands in front and shows us the direction. As the saying goes, "peaches and plums don't say anything, but they will be conceited next time." They never tell us to be filial to the old and love the young, but their actions always explain all this.
Our five brothers and sisters grew up in the same family environment and received the same edification. Although we have different personalities and different life paths, we are similar in honoring the elderly.
My mother was ill for five years and spent five years shuttling between the hospital and home. In order to take care of our seriously ill mother, my brothers and sisters did their best.
Mother stayed in bed for several months, and my brother put down his work and served wholeheartedly in front of the bed. My sister resigned because she had to take care of her mother. My younger brother searched around for good prescriptions and beneficial drugs for his mother's illness, and when he heard the effective remedies for her illness, he did not hesitate to seek medical advice in Wan Li.
Although my mother failed to carry the disease to death in the end, we all did our filial piety.
And our descendants have also taken over the banner of filial piety. Their filial piety to grandfathers, grandfathers and old people makes us look in our eyes and enjoy ourselves.
As the saying goes, "If there is a good family, there will be Qing Yu, and if there is a bad family, there will be more disasters". It is the consistent practice of parents to be kind to others. I remember when I was a child, the village was very poor, and many poor jugglers from other places walked the streets. At this time, my mother always gives them as much help as possible, sometimes giving them something to eat and sometimes providing them with a place to sleep. She said, "It's not easy to go out." Mother never dislikes beggars and always asks us to bring them more dry food. Sometimes we look at beggars with sound limbs and occasionally show boredom, while our mother says, "Who would beg for a living if it weren't for difficulties?"
We have learned to treat others with a kind heart since childhood. Parents always tell us that good people are always rewarded!
When kindness becomes a habit in life, happiness is like a trickle, which always overflows in the eyes, making people happy and infecting society. Kindness is a kind of transmission. Under the example of parents, we have the characteristics of parents' mind, compassion, love, understanding and dedication. This kind nature not only keeps us from indulging in the complexity of material desires, but also often gives us the pleasure of giving and helping others in life.
And my daughter is also looking forward to us, always treating the weak with gratitude. She saw the begging old man lend a helping hand, saw the wandering puppies and fed them ... She went further and further on the road of kindness with her own behavior.
As for "trust", although parents don't say "associating with others is the highest and things are the lowest" and "making friends and keeping promises", they always warn us that "if you borrow something or money from others, you must pay it back and you can't keep your promises".
The only time I remember my parents borrowing money was when I was admitted to a technical secondary school "Wei Peisheng" by a few minutes. That year, our family had just built a house and caught up with the death of grandparents. This family is struggling, and there is nothing I can do about going to school. Finally, they thought it was more important for me to get out of the farm, so they dared to borrow money from the village to let me study, saying that they would return it to others at the end of the year. By the end of the year, they sold all the pigs and sheep that could not be slaughtered before returning the borrowed money. Others let them wait for a while before selling, and they can earn more. However, the parents said, "We agreed to pay them back at the end of the year, and we can't break our word." .
What impressed me deeply was that my brother owed some money to several families in the village because of business failure. In order to pay off debts, his parents are more diligent than Dai Yue. They said, "We have an obligation to help him pay the debts owed by our son, and we can't lose the villagers." After several years of hard work, they paid off all the debts owed by their brothers.
Because of filial piety, kindness and commitment, parents have always been deeply loved in the village. I know these good family styles have been passed down to us. "The great cause of the family is great", and a good family style will be passed down continuously. Looking at my daughter's help and care for grandpa on the way out, looking at her generosity to begging the elderly, looking at her sympathy for the weak, looking at her trustworthiness to friends ... I am very pleased.
"Home is the smallest country, and China is the biggest home". The direction of the clouds depends on the direction of the wind. If the wind is uncertain, the clouds will be chaotic. People are like clouds, walking in the sky of the world, and family style is particularly important. A good family style is like a spring breeze. Although it is silent, it guides life and purifies the soul. A good family style will become a common practice, and a good national style will naturally come. I hope this little place in our family can drive the big picture of the country.