Frustration refers to the obstacles and interference people encounter in the process of purposeful activities to achieve a certain goal, which makes their personal needs unsatisfied. Setbacks are inevitable. Students are the main body of our education, and they are the apple of their parents' eye at home. They have always been cared for by their parents and loved by their grandparents. With the development of social economy and the improvement of family living standards, contemporary primary school students grow up in a very smooth environment and soak in honey water. Therefore, this generation of primary school students are more likely to suffer setbacks in life and study. For them, when they encounter setbacks, they are often at a loss and often suffer heavy losses. After being frustrated, it is often manifested as: aggressive behavior, fleeing behavior, sloppy behavior, stubborn behavior, and various revenge behaviors. I think it is necessary to educate students about setbacks in primary school, so that they can know and understand setbacks. When educating students about setbacks, teachers should teach students to enhance their frustration ability, which is particularly important in mental health education.

Unfortunately, frustration education has not been valued by parents and teachers. Some teachers go to an extreme, that is, they use various means to scare and force students. The original intention is to arouse students' initiative, but it often turns into a blow to students' self-esteem. Frustration education is actually "anti-frustration education". Today, with the relative improvement of material conditions, frustration education may be more reflected in the cultivation of psychological quality. So, how to educate primary school students about psychological setbacks?

1. Create a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere and reduce the frustration factors. Although minor and less setbacks have tempering effect on children's growth, they will do harm to children's self-esteem and self-confidence, which is negative and should be avoided by all means. Creating a relaxed and happy growth environment is the first condition to reduce setbacks, which requires educators to: (1) expect students to be realistic, and the requirements should not be too high or too strict; (2) full of love and warmth for students, without sarcasm or abuse; (3) Teachers should treat all kinds of students fairly.

2. Infiltrating frustration education in teaching, the key lies in how to treat setbacks correctly. Therefore, it is beautiful to infiltrate the ideal in teaching, but it is a long, tortuous and arduous education to realize the ideal. Encourage students to have the courage to overcome difficulties, not afraid of difficulties and setbacks. For example, when teaching the article "Two iron balls hit the ground at the same time", students were educated by using the content of the text: after Galileo questioned Aristotle's words, many people accused him of violating human truth and being bold. Galileo suffered great setbacks under heavy siege, but he pulled himself together and won through many experiments with his diligence and authority.

3 to carry out a variety of activities, in the activities of collective counseling. (1) Carry out superior bombing activities to cultivate self-confidence. In the activity, other students found the advantages they didn't find, and fried them as much as possible to make them shine. Cultivate self-confidence (2) Carry out accompanying activities with outstanding talents and set an example. Pupils like to imitate and are good at imitating. Once they have an example, they will imitate the behavior of the example, compare, find out the gap and make clear the direction of their efforts. Educate students with examples of typical people who have become successful in setbacks in various countries in the world, encourage students to cheer up in adversity and turn pressure into motivation. Choose an example that is convincing far and near. Beethoven, who suffered from deafness, finally became a world-famous musician. Zhang Haidi overcame setbacks with indomitable perseverance, mastered many foreign languages, mastered a lot of medical knowledge, published many books, and made brilliant achievements in his career, which is a far-reaching example and shocked his heart. At the same time, many examples of overcoming setbacks in our lives are more vivid and instructive. For example, laid-off workers find their life coordinates again, and those who fail in the college entrance examination become self-taught and so on.

4. Strengthen psychological counseling and attach importance to individual education. (1) Understand and trust students and eliminate opposing emotions. Objection is a kind of rebellious psychological reflection after students are frustrated. Teachers should improve their ideological understanding and strengthen their rationality through positive education and heart-to-heart talks. Because every teenager has strong self-esteem and self-motivation, and is eager to get respect, trust and encouragement from others, it is necessary to seek their opinions and safeguard their self-esteem when something happens; At the same time, I believe that students will make progress. We should create a relaxed and harmonious environment and eliminate opposing emotions. (2) Praise encourages students to eliminate inferiority. Teachers and parents should not be too eager to educate students, let alone criticize them in public. Instead, we should put forward goals and tasks according to the principle of teaching students in accordance with their aptitude and step by step, so that students can always feel that they can jump and touch, let them experience the joy of success, enhance their confidence and perseverance, and eliminate their inferiority. At the same time, he is good at discovering the bright spots of students, and using the law of migration to transform students' achievements in A into confidence in B, that is, the so-called stones from other mountains can attack jade. (3) create a frustrating environment and hone your strong will. Without hard training, like flowers in a greenhouse, there is no exuberant vitality. The edge of the sword comes from sharpening, and the fragrance of plum blossoms comes from bitter cold. When designing educational activities, we should specially design some cross-country and hiking activities to make students feel pain, hone their will and increase their ability. The same is true of subject teaching. When students are intoxicated with their achievements and get carried away, teachers can consciously design some difficult topics to give students a failure and let them hone their will in a depressed environment.

Every student will encounter setbacks, which requires our teachers to give them appropriate guidance after they encounter setbacks. The road ahead is tortuous. As long as you find the right direction and persevere, you will succeed. Marx said, "There is no royal road to science, and only those who climb along steep mountain roads can hope to reach the glorious summit." I think this sentence will always push us forward.

In a word, a qualified teacher should not only impart knowledge, but also be a health care teacher for students' mental health. Only by paying attention to each student's psychological development can the students' life path be more colorful. Our education will become more and more distinctive.