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Some people say that Xiong Haizi has become a troublemaker with more lethality than the square dance aunt. In life, we can meet the "troubles" created by Xiong Haizi almost anytime and anywhere, and even many of them can't be described as troubles, but should be "fears"!
Yes, fear! Fear goes deep into the bone marrow! In reality, there are many "horror suspense films" staged by Xiong Haizi, some of which are even more absurd than film and television dramas.
These are all "children's horror films" that are actually staged in reality.
Every time Xiong Haizi appears in people's sighs, almost all parents come out to defend "he is just a child" and "why do adults care about children?" As a result, the online public's crusade against the "bear parents" behind "Xiong Haizi" is no less than the crusade against Xiong Haizi. Many people say-
"There is no bear Haizi who can't be taught, only the bear parents who can't be taught."
"Behind every bear Haizi, there must be a bear parent."
"If you don't discipline Xiong Haizi well, the world will give him a hard education for you." ...
It seems that the public has reached a consensus that there must be a "bear parent" behind every Xiong Haizi, so whenever "Xiong Haizi" appears, netizens criticize parents for not teaching their children well.
"You don't teach, the master teaches." More than 700 years ago, China's traditional enlightenment textbook "Saint Amethyst" had an exhortation. Being born in a noble family has an unshirkable responsibility for the cultivation of Xiong Haizi. Family education is the source of all education, and half of children's polite upbringing, right and wrong, and value cognition come from the subtle infection of family environment. Xiong Haizi made a mistake. When parents "protect calves" again and again, children will have an illusion that their parents are responsible for me and I can't fully abide by the rules.
Family education needs to bear the primary responsibility of Xiong Haizi's education. But every time Xiong Haizi comes and goes, public opinion always condemns parents and children on one side. Is it unfair to throw all the pots of Xiong Haizi's education problems to parents?
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From the birth of the child, the social atmosphere conveys this view to the child. You don't have to obey the rules of this world too much. Obeying the rules will suffer, and so will not.
One of the simplest examples is that the children queuing at the entrance of Disney lined up with great expectations, and several adults jumped in line all the way to get ahead of them. In public places where rules are implemented, adults personally demonstrate the benefits of "not obeying rules" to children, giving them the illusion that they are ok.
In the adult world, there are many practices that "imply" that children don't need to follow the rules. You and your best friend talked excitedly about this gossip about a small fresh meat and a small flower in the elevator. The children are discussing today's football match in the elevator, but you want to abandon the high decibel and have more children because of your low voice and small number of people.
In the materialistic era, people always pay too much attention to self-interest and self-development, while ignoring the potential role of individuals in the whole social education. Many times, the world of adults will not feel guilty because they don't obey the rules, violate social norms, or even hurt others, let alone children.
Therefore, behind the child becoming a bear is the lack of family education, but it is unfair to leave Xiong Haizi's pot to his family and his parents. The fundamental problem behind Xiong Haizi is that the collective absence of social education is the fault of traditional moral education in material society.
Let's look at some real examples:
Events like this are too numerous to mention.
Xiong Haizi's increasingly serious "bear incident" is closely related to the social environment. In the information age, children have more ways to receive information, and parents and teachers are no longer the only way for them to accept the cultivation of moral values. In the materialistic era, unfiltered popular culture is presented to children in a naked and even bloody way, which exerts a subtle influence on children's moral outlook and values and evolves into more and more conformity and group attachment, which they often cannot do.
When Xiong Haizi haunts, public opinion usually comes to a conclusion that Xiong Haizi is used to it, or that Xiong Haizi is caused by lack of care from a family, but when we face Xiong Haizi, we only give them indifference or silence. Isn't this also a kind of "spoil" and indifference?
Xiong Haizi haunts, instead of being a spectator who has nothing to do with himself, or a sharp-edged moral guardian, it is better to reflect on his practice of the world's basic norms, etiquette and morality and tell them the correct way to start education with actions.
If there is only criticism and condemnation, Xiong Haizi's behavior and Xiong Haizi's parents' behavior in the adult world, and there is no reflection on themselves, then parents are not the only "bears"?