If you want to know children, you need to know what kind of children they belong to first, so that you can teach them in accordance with their aptitude correctly.
However, some parents can't understand their children correctly. For example, when a child cries, parents don't quite understand why the child cries. Spoiling parents will coax their children with candy, while strict parents will fight violence with violence. These parents just don't know their children, so how can they know their children correctly?
I once read a story in which children are naturally introverted and unwilling to communicate with others. She prefers to be alone when others are playing games in groups.
In fact, there are such people in real life, but most people think that such people are withdrawn and difficult to get along with, so they don't want to communicate with such people and make friends. But the girl in this story didn't keep a respectful distance from others.
His teachers and parents respected him and didn't let him be withdrawn. On the contrary, they respected his personal wishes and helped him integrate into the group. When he grew up, he was not as withdrawn as he was when he was a child, and began to make his own good friends.
Because of the respect of parents and teachers, this child is not out of tune with this world, but integrated into it.
1, scientific understanding
In the process of getting to know the child, it doesn't matter if the child is older, because if he is willing to communicate with his parents, then parents can also get to know the child through communication with their children. But when the child is still babbling, it is not so easy for parents to know what the child is expressing.
At this time, parents can understand through popular science. For example, watch more parenting videos and books. To understand the meaning behind the child's behavior in this process. When the child is about six months old, parents must pay special attention. In fact, when the child is six months old, it is the time when the child's personality begins to appear.
Every child's personality is different, but it is innate. At this time, parents should guide their children according to their personality to help them grow up better.
2. Daily understanding
In daily life, parents often communicate with their children, so it is possible to infer their children's personality through their usual behavior habits. For example, when a child encounters something new, the reaction can best show the child's personality.
Some children show strong curiosity, some are happy, some are indifferent, and some even cry. Parents can infer their children's personality from these reactions.
1, respect children
In the process of teaching students in accordance with their aptitude, the first thing parents need to do is to respect their children's personality. Some parents use some verbal violence against their children because their children are lively and cheerful, but because their children don't like to speak from their hearts, they don't understand their children's personality at all. This will only make the education of their children very different.
Will make introverted children become withdrawn, so whether children like it or not, parents must learn to respect their personality.
2. Different education
For children with different personalities, education methods should be different. In education, parents should respect their children's nature.
For example, for some introverted children, don't rush to force them to contact others and become lively and cheerful. What parents should do is to be patient with their children, respect their interests and do interesting things with them. After the child accepts himself, slowly help the child to get in touch with the world.
? However, for some extroverted children, parents can also help them explore some novel things and help them answer questions. Don't choose to perfunctory or ignore children because of their strong curiosity.
Parents and teachers should adopt different educational methods for different children. Don't copy the routine in education, but help according to the characteristics of children.
No matter how naughty or troublesome the child is, as long as you know him and educate him according to his characteristics, instead of commenting on his strengths and weaknesses without knowing his heart, the naughty child will be obedient.
It's not that the child is disobedient, it's just that you didn't use the right method, so parents and teachers should not be too angry when the child is particularly disobedient and disobedient, and carry out high-pressure education on the child, which will only be counterproductive. We should respect children's personality and teach them in accordance with their aptitude. Only in this way can children grow up healthily and happily.
On the topic of parenting, let children grow up healthily.