How should parents educate and communicate during the rebellious period of junior high school boys?
1. Parents should communicate with adolescent children more: as long as children's thoughts and behaviors are not illegal, immoral or sinful, parents should learn to accept them; As long as the child is suitable, parents should give affirmation and support, and only say "no" if it is really not possible, so as to have good results. Whether dealing with big or small problems, we should have positive ideas. As long as you see hope, the problem is half solved.
2, time control: children in this period are eager to have their own small world, so parents should not make their own decisions and arrange their children's time according to their own wishes. They should leave their time to their children to arrange for themselves. If the arrangement is unreasonable, parents should make suggestions in a negotiated tone. Never completely deny the child.
3. Parents should help children learn to control energy: learning to control energy is the growth goal of teenagers, and this energy needs to be expressed in a safe, appropriate and self-fulfilling way. For example, exercise, physical activity and physical and mental activity are all effective and beneficial ways; Organized planning and purposeful work are the other two methods.
4, observation and communication: observation has two aspects, not only to observe children, but also to observe themselves. Many times, parents must change their perspective and observe the problem of children's rebellion from the perspective of a third party. Observe how the children have changed and how they treat them.
5. Ask for advice: Sometimes, when it comes to education, you should ask for advice from others and see what other parents have. Jump out of your fixed thinking mode and make your thinking more open. In addition, you can communicate with teachers more. After all, teachers contact many students and know how to guide children. On the other hand, teachers know children best and can "prescribe the right medicine" through their performance in school.
6. Listening: Listening is more effective than preaching. They are eager to talk. All we have to do is listen quietly. Although this is the most important point, it is also the simplest point. Just chat with children, don't express your opinions casually, listen more, and you can do it slowly.
7. Make yourself their role model: among the teenagers I have contacted, only role model education is the most effective. They need a young and energetic adult to lead them.
As their parents, we have an obligation to make them worship us and follow our example and work towards this goal. Then, this requires parents to be full of enthusiasm and hope for life and children, share your own good wishes and positive ideas, and guide them imperceptibly.