Parents should not be eager for quick success and instant benefit [Moderator]: Hello, netizens. Welcome Professor Zhao Zhongxin (Zhao Zhongxin, a famous family education expert, chairman of the Family Education Committee of China Education Association. ) Be a guest at Xinhuanet. Now it can be said that most parents in China love their children and attach great importance to their education. However, more and more people are struggling to find a good method, but they are willing but unable. Some people don't even know the scientific method, which leads to some tragedies. What are the main problems and misunderstandings in family education at present? What principles and basic methods should parents pay attention to in daily education? Zhao Zhongxin: At present, parents in China pay more and more attention to their children's education, which is a good phenomenon. But there are also some misunderstandings worthy of attention. Parents' thinking of quick success and instant benefit is very serious. Paying attention to immediate interests and giving up long-term interests will definitely have a bad effect. It is mainly manifested in several aspects. First, it is arbitrarily ahead of education, beyond the age stage of children, beyond their age characteristics, so that they can learn things that are difficult to understand and accept, such as taking primary school textbook knowledge to learn, and so on. Second, it shows one-sidedness, only paying attention to half of education, such as paying attention to the influence of intellectual factors, ignoring the cultivation of non-intellectual factors, paying attention to specialties, ignoring all-round development and so on. Third, family education tends to be school-oriented. The characteristic of family education is to carry out a very special education anytime and anywhere in daily life, which is very different from school education. School education is a specialized educational institution, which educates students through classes and organized activities and imparts scientific knowledge through the education system. Family education is to regret things, that is to say, when you encounter things or are doing things, you should combine relevant education. This is the characteristic of family education. Nowadays, many families are educated like children in class, which is wrong. School education is a state of development and family education is another state of development. Both should exist and cannot overlap. Learning the scientific theory of family education with the characteristics of the times [Moderator]: Netizen "Yangzi Hungry" asked: In the past, children had many valuable teaching materials, such as "Hundred Family Names" and "Meng Mu Three Movements" ... So what other methods can parents get to educate their children at present? Zhao Zhongxin: China used to be a typical feudal family society, and attaching importance to family education is a fine tradition of the Chinese nation. In the long-term practice, people have summed up many good experiences through some children's books or textbooks and accumulated them. These things are very valuable, but we should see that due to the limitations of history and times, some things are outdated and no longer suitable for today. Of course, we should also inherit some excellent things and discard some things that are not suitable for today's situation. Family education should inherit our fine traditions, but at the same time, it should also transform some past experiences, because it is still far from the present society after all. Therefore, we should critically inherit some textbooks and experiences of family education in the past. I think we should learn more about the scientific theory of family education with the characteristics of the times today. Strive to create a good family environment [Moderator]: Netizen "boundless" Question: What do you think are the most important and core points for creating a good family education environment for children's healthy growth? Zhao Zhongxin: Family education is carried out in daily life, so it is very important to provide a good family environment for children. I always think that the family living environment is like the magnetic field of children's physics study. Children living in a specific family environment will involuntarily develop in the direction expected by the family. Therefore, parents should strive to create a good family environment for their children, so that their development conforms to the wishes of parents and the needs of society. There are several points in the family environment. First, there is a cultural atmosphere. There should be a learning atmosphere in the family. Today's society is a knowledge society, so there should be a knowledge atmosphere in the family. Second, in the family, we should coordinate the relationship between family members. Why are you talking about this? Because the present family is very fragile, not as stable as the traditional family in the past. Family is very important to children. We mainly treat minors. They are very dependent on their families and parents. Family vacillation or parents separation and divorce have a great influence on children. Therefore, as parents, since they have children, they have the obligation to create a harmonious family environment for their children. Third, the family environment also includes the relationship between parents and children. In the past, China practiced the feudal patriarchal clan system. Parents are the relationship between management and being managed, rule and being ruled. Now, it is time to establish an equal and democratic relationship between parents and children. If children grow up in such an environment, they will be easily educated by their parents, and the educational effect will be very good. Peace of mind is the key to choosing a good book [Moderator]: Now parents are learning the theories and methods related to family education. Many parents read some books selectively, but now many netizens report that books about family education make people feel at a loss and have no choice. Some books are contradictory: some let children read early, and some say that children will get mental illness if they read too early. In this case, how can parents distinguish the authenticity of home teaching? How to establish a correct view of family education? Zhao Zhongxin: Because there is a strong demand in society to learn family education knowledge, it will promote the publication of family education books. Many books on family education have indeed been published in recent years. For example, China Women's Publishing House has published many excellent family education books, which are welcomed by parents. However, from the perspective of the whole family education book market, it is still very chaotic and a bit muddy. It is really difficult for parents to choose their own books now, because parents don't study education, and it is impossible to read all the books in advance. If parents want to choose a good book, they must first have a peaceful mind. The purpose of our study is to improve the quality of parents as educators, not to learn a few tricks to educate children. At present, many parents have a bad mentality. I hope there is a book that can guide me to cultivate my children into prodigies. Both parents have this mentality. Some people who write books lack the conscience of scholars. Instead of guiding parents in the right way, it caters to the abnormal mentality of some parents. You train prodigies, and I'll give you a book to train prodigies. If you want to study early, I will give you early literacy. I think it is irresponsible to do so. If parents want to choose a good book, they must first have a peaceful mind. You should read books to improve your quality, not learn a few unique skills.