Yue Yue has professional nursing experience. Early education can help develop infants' intelligence, boarding can exercise children's self-care ability, and "Walkman" can expand children's outdoor activities, which sounds like the reason for being tall. It is undeniable that it has played a certain role, but among these high-sounding reasons, it is easy to ignore the most important relationship in children's lives-parent-child relationship.
Parent-child relationship may be the earliest and most influential relationship in a person's life, starting from when he was a fetus. Parents may try to maintain and consolidate this relationship all their lives, but children are constantly seeking the balance of this relationship during their growth. Being born in a family is a topic that is discussed a lot now, and the most powerful way that being born in a family brings him influence is the parent-child relationship.
Don't let the children lose at the starting line. At this point, parents agree with the position of the starting line so much that they constantly promote the starting line, early education, prenatal education and eugenics, but ignore how children should run after starting.
Parents apply for preschool classes, boarding schools and outward bound training for their children. The purpose is definitely to hope that their children can get better exercise and improvement, but there is also a hidden purpose, but they may not find it or don't want to explore it. This is selfishness.
Even as parents, they need their own time and space, which is beyond doubt. But taking care of children is hard work. This little life will fill all the leisure in your life, leaving you no time to breathe, so sometimes it is a very boring job.
The appearance of the new moon can help us get rid of the crying of the hungry little guy; The emergence of early education classes allows us to "steal half a day" when our children develop their intelligence; The emergence of boarding schools has really "returned" teaching to teachers and pushed education to teachers; The appearance of "baby walker" made the children have a good time and the parents had a good rest.
Did you find it? The plot that a child should experience with his parents in his life has been completed by others.
What a hungry baby craves most is his mother's warm breasts; When children answer questions correctly, they most want to see their parents' approving smiles; When children study, they want to see their parents make progress together. Children want to see their parents' youthful smiles when they are playing wildly outdoors.
But all this has been ignored. Education is only a part of nurturing, and intellectual development and knowledge acquisition are only a part of life. If you really want to think about your child, it is recommended to balance the time when the child is taken over by outsiders and give the child time. Perhaps this is more meaningful than any education.
With the strengthening of economic strength, more and more big brands and famous brands have entered everyone's life, and the theory that children should be rich but not poor has gradually gained popularity.
However, when people accept theories, they are always used to accepting things that are easy to operate, such as "rich nutrition". Material wealth is easier to operate than spiritual wealth, so material contribution gradually replaces emotional contribution.
What a child wants, as long as the financial resources can bear it, can be given, whether the child really needs it or not. This kind of blind unconditional support, to some extent, encourages children's mentality of keeping up with the joneses. Children of the same age are no longer learning to catch up with others, but wearing more clothes than learning to catch up with others. You can't compare clothes with shoes, shoes with mobile phones and so on.
Parents also feel that I have given my children the best care within my tolerance. In fact, you unconsciously choose the lighter of the two, and it is easy to be "light". Emotional sacrifice is more time-consuming and laborious than material sacrifice, just as the saying goes, "Nothing that can be solved with money is a problem", and it is the same for children. What children need is companionship, listening, understanding and guidance. Every item needs the whole-hearted investment and dedication of parents, which is incomparable to swiping a credit card.
"Companionship is the longest confession", and for children, the companionship of parents is also what children want most. But your body is with you. Where's your heart?
Companionship is not only physical companionship, but also spiritual communication. The child is playing a game, and you stand by, smiling, but your eyes reflect the screen of your mobile phone. The children have piled up the proudest castle, expecting your praise, and you are looking at your mobile phone; The child rushed down the slide and tried to jump into your arms. You are looking at your mobile phone. The child wobbles and wants to hug, but you can't, because your hands, eyes and heart are all mobile phones. Your heart is not in the child, and the child's heart will not be happy.
What children need is high-quality companionship. Even if they don't spend a long time together because of work or other reasons, they hope that their parents will be with them wholeheartedly at that moment, and they only have themselves in their eyes. At this time, their parents and themselves are soul mates, which is also the best time to develop and consolidate the parent-child relationship.
There are also many parents who have never raised their artificial hands on others, and have been doing it themselves, dedicating themselves wholeheartedly to their children. Then pay attention to it, too, and don't let it kidnap children.
Parents should do their duty to raise their children. Since they gave him life, they should be raised. It's just a matter of how hard they work, but it all depends on themselves. Love more, pay more. If you prefer to be casual, you may pay less, but it's all because you love this child, not to get anything from it.
A child is an independent individual, and his growth is his personal business. Parents can be his mentor, teach him and guide him, but don't tie their own efforts with their children's growth, as if the children are sorry for their efforts if they don't work hard, and the children are ashamed of their efforts if they don't succeed. There are not so many clear price tags between people, let alone their own children.
Do what you should do, innocent, and children will do what they should do, innocent.
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